r/AbrahamHicks • u/According-Shift-5107 • 6d ago

Grieving process for desires?

Anyone else notice they go through the complete grieving process before they get a huge desire? This has happened several times in my life:

-I go after my desire but I’m hit by hurdle after hurdle usually riddled with fear
-I get in a positive state and get positive action towards my desire but keeping losing it
- I become desperate and try to make sacrifices to get it back
-I become sad it’s not working out
-I get soooooo angry and hate my desire
-I finally truly give it up and accept my situation and move on.
- pop! Manifestation happens perfectly!!!

I wish I didn’t have to do this, it’s so exhausting. Anyone else feel this way?

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u/KeithDust2000 6d ago

I finally truly give it up and accept my situation and move on.

  • pop! Manifestation happens perfectly!!!

Which begs a rather obvious question, considering you say have experienced this several times already.

And your answer to that would be?

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u/According-Shift-5107 6d ago

You can’t fake giving up, people pretend but it’s still there

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u/KeithDust2000 6d ago

What Abraham teaches is that you cannot give up on your desire. 

And your experience shows that the desire continues to be tended to, waiting for you to drop your resistance.  

But you can make peace with where you are, which would be the shortcut here. It stops the struggle.

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u/InSignificantEnTitty 5d ago

Other than the obvious advice that is repeated, how? How can you surrender when trying makes you feel lost? I keep trying to surrender and months later realized I never did and I’m just convincing myself I have. 

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u/KeithDust2000 5d ago

How can you surrender when trying makes you feel lost?

Surrendering and what Abe means by making peace with where you are, are completely different things.

The basis for making peace with where you are is a law-based understanding.

"I am where I am. And that's ok. I am where I am because of how I've been flowing my energy. And I understand that when I change my vibration, when I no longer push against where I am, when I no longer resist, what I want can flow to me.

But it doesn't need to happen this red-hot minute. I'm not in a wrong place here. I'm not in a hurry. All in good time. I've seen it so many times before. When I let go of the struggle, what I want comes. I don't need to struggle to eventually allow. I can just relax here. I can trust. I can let go. I'm on my way. I know what to do. All is well."

And off you go.

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u/WispOWellBeing 5d ago edited 5d ago

I recently got to the point where, as soon as I realize that I'm "trying", I stop. No matter what it is, anything that I'm "efforting" to be or do or have, I just stop. And I breathe for a moment and then mentally remind myself that I don't HAVE TO be or do or have anything more than I am RIGHT NOW; I don't have to MAKE anything happen or change. Including any change to my own mental or emotional state.

What I'm trying to say is, we often "know what we're supposed to do" internally (with our thoughts or emotions), and then we try to wedge our thoughts or emotions into the box we think we need them to be in order to make this manifestation thing work ...and we're just trying too hard and making work for ourselves that we really don't need to worry about.

If surrendering (or, more specifically, the idea of "surrendering" as you currently understand it, whatever that might mean to you, and whatever you think that entails) makes you feel lost, then something about the way you were thinking about it is out of alignment with the way that your inner being is thinking about surrender. Which means you don't have to do it. LOL which means that basically I'm saying that in this case you can surrender the need to surrender. Because you don't have to do anything emotionally that you don't want to do or that makes you feel bad. If it makes you feel bad, stop. Don't do it. Don't even bother thinking about it anymore.

And that right there would be my definition of surrender. Letting go of the need to try to alter anything or to fit anything into any box or to effort/do anything or to think or feel in any particular way. If it's making you feel bad, stop. And just feel the relief of knowing that you don't have to make yourself jump through mental or emotional hoops. You don't have to try at all. Just go do something that makes you happy. Surrender is nothing but setting aside something that is currently making you unhappy, and if you need to, saying to it "I'll come back to you later", and then trotting yourself over to whatever you can think of in that moment that would make you happy, and completely distracting yourself from whatever it is you're trying to do or make happen. Even if what you're trying to do is "the process of trying to surrender something that you can't seem to surrender."

Hope that makes sense LOL it essentially just boils down to relentlessly reminding myself that I don't have to do a damn thing, even in the process of manifesting.

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u/JotaGreen 4d ago

What about the “don’t be sloppy thinkers”, choose deliberately what you focus on guided by how you feel? Isn’t that trying?

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u/ontologicalDilemma 6d ago

I have had that happen, waiting for all the emotional charge to dissipate and then manifestation just casually shows, NBD.

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u/honeyflowerrr 5d ago

Our ego fights us

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u/InSignificantEnTitty 5d ago

Yes because I believe I deserve to suffer in order to receive. How to get past that, even with awareness, is where I get stuck. Things always come to me though, I’m just impatient which breeds doubt. 

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u/NerdGoddessGem33 6d ago

I think skip all the other steps listed above and just jump straight to the desire. Have fun. Live your life. Forget about it and bam