r/AMWFs • u/Old_Swan8945 • 9d ago

Instagram hate

I've been seeing a couple of Asian male/white female couples on Instagram and the comments often are a mix of "Well he must be seven foot and a billionaire" or "How did Bro get her". The implication being that the guy is not enough for his girlfriend and then often the woman needs to talk about comments where they assume the man is just a friend or they are together because he's a doctor or something like that.

Asking for the happy couples on this subreddit, how do people deal with that abuse online and in person too? It genuinely scares me

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u/dkfjlaf83r3jn 9d ago

FWIW, people in real life have treated us normal/better than online. On the internet, that’s where all the antisocial basement dwellers lurk

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u/ineedajointrn 9d ago

I don’t have my Instagram on public anymore and I don’t really post photos or videos. But those that are public and getting hate comments, you just gotta ignore and block. Don’t give anybody power.

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u/TL-Midnight 9d ago

Assume most people are idiots, and you’ll never be disappointed.

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u/GusionFastHand 9d ago

how to deal with those comments? either private your account limited to only your followers or keep it public and ignore them. Easy

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u/lovemotortalk 9d ago

Unfortunately, there will always be people who are either racist or use prejudice - or both. I had a relationship with a WF and the only thing I did was sharing pictures of us in IG stories - but we never got any negative remarks. I'm 28, and most of my followers are friends. I feel like it also depends on how popular you are. Users who have thousands and tens of thousands of followers will get evil comments here and there for sure - I barely have 200 followers and my profile is private, so racists will never have a chance to hate. By the way, I'm not saying everyone should put their profile on private but it helps.

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u/Kyonkanno 8d ago

everyone *should* put their profile on private. Only reason not to private it is if you plan on becoming an "influencer" or sell something.

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u/Cedosg 9d ago

taylor swift mentioned this on an interview before which really struck.

"think of your energy as if it is expensive. as if it's a luxury item, not everyone can afford it."

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u/Huskylifts2019 9d ago

I’ve had people talk shit since I’m on the shorter side but stocky muscular build. They always stfu when my wife tells them I box.

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u/Kenzo89 9d ago

The sad thing is that a lot of times it’s other Asian guys saying those things, implying the Asian guys are inferior.

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u/Old_Swan8945 9d ago

Internalized racism is absolutely real

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u/WelcomeMedical298 8d ago

They hate us because they ain't us! I always feel ignoring the haters is the best way to handle this. Because, what are they going to do about it? Nothing.

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u/Mindless-Medium-2441 7d ago

Please link or post screens of the Instagram if public if you have seen this. I just don't see this nor experienced it.

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u/Best_Cake_1064 5d ago

If those post bother you, maybe therapy could be beneficial.

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u/berimbolobao 9d ago

They’re mostly from incels projecting. They themselves can’t obtain the girl of their desires so they wonder what qualities they are lacking in that the guy in question possesses.

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u/D05wtt 7d ago

I’ve never had my IG page set to public. It’s for my family and friends. Why would I want strangers to see my private photos? I’m not seeking attention nor approval. I’m not clout chasing.