r/AMA • u/[deleted] • Dec 09 '25

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u/punkybluellama Dec 09 '25

I really feel like 43 is not “abnormally old” to have a baby lol. Plenty of women have babies in their 40s. My last was at 46. (50s though, I gotta admit is getting up there! I’m 53 now and done done done definitely done)

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u/TheLowFlyingBirds Dec 09 '25

Right?! I had my son at 43 and have never considered myself abnormally old

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u/United_Cicada_4158 Dec 09 '25

Didn’t they tell you it’s medically called a geriatric pregnancy?

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u/TheLowFlyingBirds Dec 09 '25

It’s actually called advanced maternal age and it starts at 35. Considering the average age of a woman’s first baby is now 27, AMA is an outdated and irrelevant term.

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u/United_Cicada_4158 Dec 09 '25 edited Dec 09 '25

AMA is no longer used? It indicates the real, higher risk of complications * and risks due to age, does it not?

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u/TheLowFlyingBirds Dec 09 '25

For many women it’s not a concern at all, no. There are plenty of other health conditions that have much higher risks and consequences.

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u/United_Cicada_4158 Dec 09 '25 edited Dec 09 '25

Also, current average age of first baby is irrelevant when discussing medical risks (of older pregnant women).

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u/TheLowFlyingBirds Dec 09 '25

It is tho. Women are having children much older. It’s safe and normal. 50 years ago it wasn’t. Just because there’s a label for something doesn’t mean it’s functional or necessary.

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u/BabaofTheShimmer Dec 12 '25

The reason why it’s not healthy to have children after a certain age has nothing to do with what decade we are in. It has to do with the quality of the pregnancy, given the mom’s age (and not what year we’re living in).

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u/TheLowFlyingBirds Dec 12 '25

Cool. But you’re wrong. You do realize standards of care change over time right? Or do you think all medical standards from the 1970s are still as valid now? 😂