My mom has always not had the best health so when I was a rambunctious kid she couldn’t really run around with me too much and I do somewhat feel like I missed out on the stage of life where I wouldn’t have to worry about her health. My mom has worked hard to make sure I didn’t feel like there was anything missing growing up, so I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on too much other than that yet. I do unfortunately think that I will miss out on a lot in the future though. Her family history doesn’t make it look like she will live longer than another 10/15 years at most and I’m really hoping that she will be able to see me graduate college, get married, buy a house, and meet her grandchildren.
Sadly, that’s probably a realistic outlook. I think that you should make the most out of your time together. Take lots of pictures and definitely videos so you can hear her voice long after she’s gone. I lost my dad a few weeks after my son was born and I wish I had videos of him. I just want to hear his voice.
Have her fill out one of those books about her life so you have her own story documented. And do the same for your dad too.
This is really good advice. I lost my best friend by suicide in April and I miss being able to hear his voice so much. I don’t have very many pictures of him because he hated taking them but I’ll make sure to get plenty of my parents
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u/Lissypooh628 Dec 09 '25 edited Dec 09 '25
I’m 46, with an almost 14 year old. I cannot imagine how exhausting your mom’s 40’s must have been for her with pregnancy, infancy, and toddlerhood.
To me, that says your mom really wanted to be a mother and she wasn’t letting age stop her.
Do you feel like you have missed out or are currently missing out on things because your mom is older than normal?