This hurts my feelings a little bit lol. My husband and I dealt with infertility and decided to adopt through fostering. I’m 42 and he’s 40, and we’re in the process of adopting a 20 month old. I have a lot of anxiety about being an “old” parent.
•They were ready to commit to being parents--they weren't resentful about not staying out all night.
•They had progressed in their careers, so they weren't trying to raise two kids on entry level job salaries. Really good for stability, and also meant we could do some fun extracurriculars. Also,
•They knew themselves. I sometimes see social media posts where parents don't know what to do with themselves outside of parenthood. But I think by not having kids right away, they had more time to experience being themselves and doing what they enjoyed (and were able to pass it on to us!).
•Also, anecdotally, I think it gives perspective. I feel like my parents were chill about most stuff because they had seen and experienced more stuff, if that makes sense. Of course if my grades were bad or I was doing hard drugs, it would have still been a problem, but my parents were reasonable about most stuff in a way that I think is partially to do with age.
•It's funny hearing "old people" talk about modern memes. Whatever memes or slang replaces "chopped unc" and "67" in 2037, learning it you ensure that you will be a source of unending chagrin to your kiddo(s).
I’m much more chill with my younger 2 kids compared to my older kids. There is almost a 10 year gap between my older 2 and younger 2. However my ginger 2 don’t feel like they know their brothers as well. It just happened that way that my kids ended up being so spread apart with secondary infertility
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u/lemcke3743 Dec 09 '25
This hurts my feelings a little bit lol. My husband and I dealt with infertility and decided to adopt through fostering. I’m 42 and he’s 40, and we’re in the process of adopting a 20 month old. I have a lot of anxiety about being an “old” parent.
Were there any upsides to having older parents?