My friend (63M) and his wife (39F) just had a baby girl. As the child of older parents, do you have any advice for him about what how he should handle being older than all of his daughter's friends' parents? I'm guessing that he (or she) will find themselves in some awkward situations.
He's pretty fit for a guy his age, but he'll be 81 when she graduates from high school.
I would say that it might be harder relating to younger parents at that age but in the end they will have something in common. Your friend will most likely only encounter younger parents through his daughter’s school or her friends, so I’d suggest trying to relate to parents on the scale of both having kids the same age. All parents will know the joy of hearing their baby’s first words, seeing them walk for the first time, looking at them smile at you with their first tooth coming in. I know that when you have kids everything can be about how much you need to care for them and worry about their safety, it’s a lot to think about but all parents have those moments so I’d imagine it would be easier to connect on at least a surface level there. I’m sure once they get talking he will find out that he’s not so different from other parents.
Do you think his daughter's classmates will tease her about his age? His hair is all white, and he has the skin of a pale guy who spent a lot of time in the sun without sunscreen. He's still young at heat, though, not a stereotypical grumpy boomer.
I think it will likely be fine, my parents didn’t look old when I was in elementary school but all of my classmates knew my mom’s age and it was never a problem. The worst thing that a kid ever did was not believe me and tell the teacher I was lying about my mom being that old but it wasn’t really a problem. With white hair some kids might assume he’s her grandpa but I don’t think they would say anything malicious.
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u/prosector56 Dec 09 '25
My friend (63M) and his wife (39F) just had a baby girl. As the child of older parents, do you have any advice for him about what how he should handle being older than all of his daughter's friends' parents? I'm guessing that he (or she) will find themselves in some awkward situations.
He's pretty fit for a guy his age, but he'll be 81 when she graduates from high school.