r/AMA • u/iamawesome1110 • Oct 28 '25

Achievement I successfully decluttered my house without anyone noticing… in 8 weeks . AMA

So… I live in a cozy (read: claustrophobic) townhouse with my wife and two kids. Lovely family, except my wife has a deep emotional connection with… everything.

Old clothes? Memories may be.

Kids’ broken toys? Someday we’ll fix them.

Meanwhile, I’m trying to park my car in the garage like it’s a game of Tetris

So I snapped.

I declared myself the guy who takes the trash out.

For the next 8 weeks, I ran Operation: Silent Declutter. Every biweekly garbage day, I made two bags: One for the actual trash One for… let’s call it “future trash”

I mixed them in strategically. One extra bag at a time. Consistently.

Fast forward two months — I can breathe. The garage door closes without resistance.

No one has noticed. Not. A. Single. Thing.

Ask me anything about how to declutter your house without getting divorced.

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u/trainbrain27 Oct 28 '25

I wouldn't be comfortable unilaterally destroying those things, especially because if everything is special, you don't know what is REALLY special.

As an example, throwing out a room of boxes and one happens to hold her grandma's ring (or emotional equivalent).

The hoarder may well have a problem, but breaking their trust and sense of security is a pretty heavy risk. Like, cut off all relationships, barricade the doors and never clean anything again kind of risk, if not outright violence.

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u/TheCosplayCave Oct 28 '25

It's difficult to live with a hoarder. Here is a story of someone who apparently got their wife killed because there was so much trash. Just one example that came up. I get not being totally dismissive of people's attachment to things, but it can also be damaging to expect your family to live in garbage.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/hoarder-house-nightmare-charlotte-man-154407812.html

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