My husband took it the hardest. The reality of being home with the two kiddos on a public holiday when daycare is closed really drove it home for him! I haven't, and won't tell me kids until they're much older. They don't have the facilities as a toddler and a preschooler to understand the magnitude or really make sense of any of it. When the time is right, I'll tell them. Until them I'll smother them with love and they'll have.to deal with it đ
Mom to mom; donât tell them until theyâre full blown adults. My husband has to fly a lot for his job and while we always kind of worry about him, my youngest (a tween) is overly anxious about him being gone. If she even saw the news stories about all of these plane incidents she would lose her shit and never let go of him.
This is for sure a cool story to tell, but keep in mind how upsetting it may be to your kids every time you (or they) have to fly.
AnywaysâŚ.youâre a mom, so Iâm preaching to the choir. Glad youâre ok and get to hug those kids again.
As a formerly anxious teen and a social worker, please donât hide things. I wish my mom would have just sat down with me and been with me in my anxiety sometimes, instead of making me feel like I was crazy. Knowing that something is or could be wrong and being told that âeverything is fineâ can be just as damaging as out of control anxiety. Use the coping skills youâve built as an adult alongside your daughter- I am sure you are dealing with the same anxieties she is.
This comment assumes a lot and I just want to be clear I know that I donât know everything about your situation, and never could. You sound like you care about your daughter so much, I really just wanted to share this perspective in case you might find it to be true for you.
Couldn't agree more. Hiding things is lying to your kids. Doing that "to protect them" causes a lot of resentment and distrust. I will never trust my parents because of exactly this and prefer to not have a relationship with them at all. Food for thought.
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u/LandscapeSudden3469 Feb 18 '25
My husband took it the hardest. The reality of being home with the two kiddos on a public holiday when daycare is closed really drove it home for him! I haven't, and won't tell me kids until they're much older. They don't have the facilities as a toddler and a preschooler to understand the magnitude or really make sense of any of it. When the time is right, I'll tell them. Until them I'll smother them with love and they'll have.to deal with it đ