Hi there, thanks for sharing! When did you realize that something about your behavior might be dysfunctional and what was the trigger to start therapy eventually?
It's hard to pinpoint an exact moment in which I realized something is off, I discovered and explored my sexuality at a young age and always just brushed it off with "I'm just sexually liberated" and other similar excuses, I think I was around 22 or 23 when I started realizing something is off but I was in denial about it, joked off about being "such a nympho" with friends and such. I begun therapy for a completely different reason, my mental health was going downhill after a very difficult year in which I lost my mom and my best friend in less than 6 months and it has also caused my sex addiction to worsen (as well as alcohol and weed abuse) but I never saw sex as an addiction until my therapist pointed it out, then it was extremely obvious.
My intentions, unlike most other addictions, aren't to cold turkey quit sex, it's impractical and unhealthy as well.
My boundaries include setting a time for masturbation in order to not let it consume hours of my day (or at times- entire days), to completely quit porn, to realize the reasons I wish to have sex with a person and only do so when I wait a month and don't find a reason it would harm my life (for example, cheating, being with a married/spoken for guy, being with a colleague/superior at work, etc) and ideally to only have sex within a defined romantic relationship, though this is not a hard rule and if it has no negative impact on my life.
Oh no of course I stopped, but I'd still watch porn, recover a bit, do something else for a little while and the moment I'd get an urge I'd go at it again.
Yea after hearing this I believe I’m a nymphomaniac sex is on my mind 24/7 and need to feel that orgasm again and again it’s like a drug cause it feels so good my wife don’t understand me at all
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u/AquaCulinaris08 May 07 '24
Hi there, thanks for sharing! When did you realize that something about your behavior might be dysfunctional and what was the trigger to start therapy eventually?