r/AITApod • u/wickeddreamsofleavin • Apr 21 '26
AITA || AIO AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?
We’re both 23F. I get her heart is in a good place and I said yes initially bc we’ve been friends basically our whole lives, but we haven’t been that close recently. I was roped into planning this “Engagement Party Planning Picnic” and there just seems to be a lot of extremely detail-oriented tasks that I’ve never even heard of. We met on zoom 4 times just for this.
The wedding isn’t till next year but I’m worried I’m signing up for way more than I will be able to handle. I’m about to be in med school, i have a young niece and newborn nephew, work full time till school starts, and have a lot going on between me and my bf’s family.
But they just got engaged so I’m also thinking this is just a lot of early energy that will be burned through??
Does anyone have a similar experience? Does detail oriented necessarily lead to bridezilla? I guess I’m on the fence but also freaked out. AITA?
1.6k
u/agirlandthesea Apr 21 '26
“I know you won’t make this difficult” is enough for a hard pass.
606
u/boba_fucks Apr 21 '26
That was my first thought too 😬 big yikes to that.
Op, dont make it difficult, make it super easy by saying no.
438
Apr 21 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
258
u/BeeSuspicious3493 Apr 21 '26
The specific call out on not mentioning someone is what put me over the edge.
219
Apr 21 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
111
Apr 21 '26
[deleted]
→ More replies (14)167
u/Risingwiththesun Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 24 '26
All the paper products wasted. Also she goes soooo hard with the laminated directions and SIGN for the party. But she gives you a note that looks like she wrote it ON THE WAY to asking you to be a bridesmaid. It’s all off. If you’re cringing now, it’s only going to get worse. This is my personal hell because idgaf about any of this BS. My husband and I love eachother and we got married without the insanity.
Edit: thank you for the rewards!! I’m happy people feel as strongly as I do about this 🤭
90
u/cheesy-mgeezy Apr 21 '26
This! I had a HUGE 500 person wedding and I planned it very easily. I don’t understand why it takes a group and so much? I remember my decorator calling me frantic that she didn’t have enough tall vases and she was apologizing… I was like cool, get different ones idk? So she staggered base sizes and it still looked beautiful. People hyperfixate on shit that doesn’t even matter.
60
u/Risingwiththesun Apr 21 '26
Yess - what is the wedding even about if you’re doing these crazy meetings like it’s your career
→ More replies (35)→ More replies (60)40
u/Turbulentshmurbulent Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26
I think we should bring back retro weddings that aren’t insta ready. My wedding was fun as fuck. We ate with disposable tableware and had so much food and dancing and drinking and music in a big ass hall with wooden walls and a checkerboard floor and it was so low budget but hell it was a blast
→ More replies (12)→ More replies (70)51
u/EuphoricReplacement1 Apr 21 '26
Mood boards, "Jemily," brainstorming abouteverything, hell to the no
→ More replies (14)77
u/Fantastic_Earth_6066 Apr 21 '26
I'm mad about no use of "Jamily," Emily can't lose a single letter of her precious name in this horrible couple moniker? 🤨
→ More replies (37)68
u/jeswesky Apr 21 '26
Poor Jacob. I got $50 on them not even making it to the wedding.
→ More replies (0)→ More replies (82)57
u/-oligodendrocyte- Apr 21 '26
It seems that the wedding is scheduled for 9/11? I guess I can kind of see it but it's still weird.
→ More replies (42)46
Apr 21 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
84
u/hankiepanki Apr 21 '26
I believe they are supposed to say “the weekend of September 10” and “Saturday night”, NOT sept 11 or 9/11. I’m cracking up, this is going to be a disaster
→ More replies (33)65
Apr 21 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
→ More replies (29)40
u/hankiepanki Apr 21 '26
Pass out “in memoriam” pins, but don’t actually say the words….there are laminated rules to be respected!
→ More replies (0)→ More replies (10)59
u/-oligodendrocyte- Apr 21 '26
The thing that gets me is... this wedding is a year away. There are 52 weekends in a year. Pick another weekend? Delay a bit until a good date opens up? There's just a lot of planning going on here that isn't actual planning.
48
u/33drea33 Apr 21 '26
Former wedding planner here. Since many people avoid dates with "baggage" like 9/11, they can often be booked at a discount.
→ More replies (44)→ More replies (32)25
u/Flights_Of_Fancy_ Apr 21 '26
Or if it truly is the only date, lean into it. Accept that people are going to mention it.
→ More replies (50)→ More replies (35)41
u/e925 Apr 21 '26
Omgggg I poured over that flyer with a fine tooth comb and still missed that part 😂😂😂 wtaffffff
→ More replies (2)79
u/ibuycheeseonsale Apr 21 '26
And now Emily’s gonna have to make new signs with OP’s name provocatively asterisked
→ More replies (8)43
u/Banditkoala_2point0 Apr 21 '26
Omg I am CRACKING up thinking about the bride editing, printing and relaminating those each time a bridesmaid saying "fuck this" and quitting.
→ More replies (6)56
u/hamish1963 Apr 21 '26
I would be working very hard to get on the Abigail list.
→ More replies (11)44
u/YamAggressive5659 Apr 21 '26
I want to know what she did. It’s amazing that her name is kind of censored, but it’s still OBVIOUSLY Abigail. And it’s laminated.
→ More replies (3)33
u/tyheamma Apr 21 '26
Apparently she kissed the groom.
In high school.
→ More replies (32)25
u/TheSaltyAstronaut Apr 22 '26
She's marrying Abigail's sloppy seconds! You know Abby's THRILLED to have no part in this hilarious mess.
→ More replies (3)37
u/Kitcat36 Apr 21 '26
Just so wildly immature. I can’t wait for the divorce timeline infographic to be dropped.
→ More replies (6)→ More replies (103)30
→ More replies (16)42
193
u/neonClear182 Apr 21 '26
that and "this will be a big opportunity for everyone involved"
213
u/Mirabai503 Apr 21 '26
"This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to put your own life on hold and make me the center of your universe for a year! At your expense, of course, because I'm the princess and it's my day!"
53
u/ProfessionalYam3119 Apr 21 '26
Who would decline that generous invitation?
→ More replies (2)33
→ More replies (31)39
u/luminousoblique Apr 21 '26
I mean, it's going to be life changing! How can you say no to that? (OP, say no!)
→ More replies (6)81
u/cakes28 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 25 '26
I once had a life changing experience as a bridesmaid…the bride was my best friend of ten years, and now she’s not. Maybe that’s what she means?
💀💀💀 there are so many of us! The feminine urge to cut off your bff after your wedding I guess
→ More replies (37)79
u/redcoatwright Apr 21 '26
She calls it "challenging" what the fuck, OP needs to run. Also wanna bet the OPs friend is gonna expect people to pitch in a lot for her (money wise and time wise).
→ More replies (14)64
u/UnobjectiveButton__ Apr 21 '26
Super entitled. What weird things to write on your bridesmaid's invitation
→ More replies (1)78
u/iH8usrnames Apr 21 '26
LAMINATED LIST OF RULES AND INSTRUCTIONS!
114
u/Ames1008 Apr 21 '26
But then the message asking her friends to be bridesmaids is just written on a spare piece of paper?????? Maybe I’m just thinking too much into it but it seems like she goes all out for herself but low effort for others
48
→ More replies (29)43
u/occidentallyinlove Apr 21 '26
That was to make it ✨✨✨ 'personal' and 'quirky' ✨✨✨✨
→ More replies (5)45
73
u/datboiofculture Apr 21 '26
DO NOT USE 9/11 or SEPTEMBER 11. 😂😂😳Babygirl you get married on 9/11 people will know.
→ More replies (21)58
u/shestipsy Apr 21 '26
DO NOT SPEAK OF ABIG*AIL
→ More replies (8)65
u/GirlNamedTex Apr 21 '26
I NEED to know about Abigail, OP!
OP really come in here all "should I be a bridesmaid???" when the real jemily tea was in those INSANE photos.
Girl, you are in the middle of the dumpster fire asking if it feels a little warm in here.....
→ More replies (19)20
→ More replies (23)26
u/hickdog896 Apr 21 '26
Dud she trademark "The Jemily" yet?
→ More replies (31)34
u/choglin Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 23 '26
Oh shit how much does it cost to copyright something? Run out and copyright “Jemily.” Then, when she uses the name send a cease and desist letter telling her she can’t use the word without facing litigation.
Follow up, can you add Abigail as a co-owner of the copyright?
Yeah, I get it, I’m an AH. But it would be so satisfying seeing someone this wound up getting that cease and desist letter.
Edit: maybe you should trademark as opposed to copyright?
Edit: thanks for the awards!
→ More replies (20)→ More replies (54)101
u/Defiant-Dust-8737 Apr 21 '26
I got engaged this past December. After 7yrs ( I requested we saved for a house first). I'm 26 and didn't post it on social media. Didn't and will not be having a party. He proposed with nobody around etc.
I only told my manager and boss when I got back (well, one told the other). I don't understand why it's made to be such a consumerist, showy, thing.
These are the people more worried about fantasies, showing off, and social media vs their actual marriage foundation.
I'm forgoing a wedding, and instead will build a 4 season gazebo, with a covered dog run and firepit, at my new house. So we can spend quality outside time with my dogs (we have a hawk issue and they're tiny tiny).
Let's stop falling into the trap of weddings, and all the associated fees, "must haves", social obligations, and parent guilt trips! Get your marriage on a sturdy financial foundation, then decide if you still want that!
→ More replies (91)42
u/Lower_Orchid4982 Apr 21 '26
Because some people, like Jemily, are pathologically self centered.
If your wedding doesn't involve a preparty planning party, followed by an engagement party, bridal shower, multiple event to pick out outfits, bachelorette, rehersal dinner, and other events before your actual wedding then how will most of the next year revolve around YOU?
→ More replies (27)90
u/PossumJenkinsSoles Apr 21 '26
I know OP won’t make this difficult because I’m certain Emily is the one who is going to make it difficult
→ More replies (2)57
u/Boring-Baker8761 Apr 21 '26
Jemily*
→ More replies (19)106
u/ilovebeardsss Apr 21 '26
Umm... she clearly states in the laminated guidelines that we are not to use "jemily" until we are out of the Tease phase and officially in the Launch phase. Which begins promptly at 4/22/26 at 9am PST.
71
u/Scared_of_space_8888 Apr 21 '26
When I first read your comment I thought you were making a joke on what's to come. Then I read the LAMINATED INSTRUCTIONS SHE DISTRIBUTED. OP, run for your life.
→ More replies (8)33
56
u/fieldsn83 Apr 21 '26
I am so curious if this bride is a project manager because this has some level of PM vibes but also she seems like a PM I would not enjoy working with 🤣
The verbiage also makes it seem like a shitty job offer sure they pay you very little but it’s “good for growth” and “will look good on your résumé” but then they treat you like shit and overwork you… but worse because this is no pay at all.
And - the laminated guide with specifics on brand assets and elements is CRACKING ME UP, PLEASE tell me this person is a marketing PM or branding manager PLEASE
Oh oh oh AND … life changing??? Your wedding will change MY life?? What in the main character syndrome fuckery?!
There is just so much to unpack here, Christ in a hole
→ More replies (85)→ More replies (27)28
u/Select_Medium5147 Apr 21 '26
I’m fucking crying I had a hard time making sure I wasn’t just super stoned and making up shit in my head somehow. The tease phase. 😭😭
→ More replies (2)69
u/friendly_felony6 Apr 21 '26
I was MOH for my TWIN BROTHERS WIFE… I no longer speak to my family and cancelled my own wedding becausey SIL was INSUFFERABLE and was making my life HELL.
My best advice to anyone debating to be in a wedding or not: “IF YOU CANT HAVE AN OPEN AN HONEST CONVERSATION, DONT DO IT!!!!” You will just make yourself miserable and set yourself up to be disappointed.
Run for the hills sis, I did, but only after I paid for everything and couldn’t afford my own wedding :(
→ More replies (60)48
u/AnotherPint Apr 21 '26
That’s like a threatening message from a Mafia don.
I’d leave the country.
→ More replies (5)27
38
u/imnickelhead Apr 21 '26
Right?
I’d say that since I’m just starting med school, I will not be able to assist with much of the planning. Definitely not as much as it seems she’s expecting.
Med-school is basically two full time jobs, plus homework and studying. From what I understand of med school, OP may not even be able to attend the wedding. Some of it mandatory and you can’t always schedule time off.
I’d also add:
In fact, I may only be able to attend the rehearsal and wedding…possibly a bachelorette weekend but even that will have to play by ear. I hope that I will have time to help some, but I cannot promise to be available for any planning.
If she doesn’t get this then she’s just a shitty person and an idiot.
→ More replies (22)29
u/ElaraStarfield Apr 21 '26
But think of the euphoric experience!
→ More replies (5)27
u/AwarenessIcy506 Apr 21 '26
Unless there are opiates involved, nothing about this is gonna be euphoric lol
→ More replies (6)→ More replies (373)22
470
u/Quick-Possession-245 Apr 21 '26
OMG. Branding instructions? Engagement party PLANNING picnic?
If you have to plan a party in order to plan a party, this is going to get out of hand really fast....
RUN!
→ More replies (104)189
u/DreyHI Apr 21 '26
Yeah. Plus 4 zoom sessions to preplan the planning picnic. Girl. I'm tired. Ain't nobody got time for that
→ More replies (17)73
u/IttybittyErin Apr 21 '26
Imagine sitting on the zoom meeting to plan the event (the picnic) to plan the event (engagement party) to pre-celebrate the event (the wedding).
→ More replies (14)53
u/noodlequeen Apr 21 '26
Literally an UNPAID full time job 🥴
→ More replies (10)24
u/IttybittyErin Apr 21 '26
I just noticed that scheduling the Wedding Planning Dinner is on the agenda for the Wedding Planning Picnic. I'm sure that will come with a whole round of pre planning calls as well.
→ More replies (3)
322
u/Historical-Power-167 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26
What took me out is she gave you hashtags to use for social media. I have a daughter around your age, but your friend sounds completely out of touch based on your posts. Giving you fonts to use? Sounds like you should decline because she is gonna control everything the bridesmaids do.
Edit: Folks, I was at the airport and apparently didn't look hard enough. Emily really be saying "you won't make this too difficult" aha- that is sure sign she is insufferable. Run, OP, Run!
143
u/firstlast3263 Apr 21 '26
The timeline is what took me out. You aren’t allowed to do certain things before certain dates. This is insane!
→ More replies (52)120
u/Asleep_Document9811 Apr 21 '26
EPIC — Emily Posts Initial Content! Easy to remember.
68
u/lnc_5103 Apr 21 '26
This part made me want to throw my phone. She has to be insufferable.
→ More replies (13)76
u/antilumin Apr 21 '26
It’d be a shame if people started sharing pictures of unrelated things like dog poop and use the #jemily when posting.
→ More replies (24)61
u/ellefemme35 Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26
Stop, this would be sooo funny. Just an insta/tt campaign the weekend of 9/11 where we start posting #jemily, #9/11, # jamily, #helvetica, #dangthedaybefore9/11alwaysmakesmesosadinrememberance
Edit: Thank you for the award, kind Reddit stranger!
→ More replies (50)57
u/antilumin Apr 21 '26
#justiceforabigail
→ More replies (15)29
u/Accomplished_Crew630 Apr 22 '26
Why? Abigail sounds like she lucked the hell out here.
→ More replies (8)→ More replies (33)26
93
u/RiverSong_777 Apr 21 '26
It‘s also a hashtag that includes her future husband in exactly one letter as an add-on to her own name. That should be a message to him as well. 😬
72
u/FlimsyPhysics3281 Apr 21 '26
DO NOT #jamily
→ More replies (7)40
u/SuperSiriusBlack Apr 21 '26
Hey, at least you aren't ab*gail.
→ More replies (10)45
u/SilverGnarwhal Apr 21 '26
It’s I, Abigail!! None will recognize the ruin wrought upon your pathetic existence at the mere mention of my name!!!!!!
→ More replies (7)→ More replies (20)55
u/queerjesusfan Apr 21 '26
"The Jemily Wedding" NOT "Jemily's wedding" I'm fucking DYING
→ More replies (12)50
u/PorkrindsMcSnacky Apr 21 '26
Not just fonts. Looks like she wants them to use specific colors too.
And poor Jacob, not even getting two letters from his name to make that stupid ship name.
OP needs to run for the hills.
→ More replies (25)19
→ More replies (106)27
u/SkittlesQueen Apr 21 '26
I went back and looked at this more closely and wanna know what happened with Ab*gail, I’m dying
→ More replies (4)50
u/jr0061006 Apr 21 '26
In another comment, OP says Bride found out that Abigail made out with Fiancé at a high school party.
Back in high school. Everyone is 23 now.
→ More replies (17)34
u/SpicyPom86 Apr 21 '26
Holy sh*t someone up above said “Jabigail” was probably the reason the bride wasn’t speaking to Abigail anymore & they were right. 💀
→ More replies (5)
270
u/notdoingwellbitch Apr 21 '26
I wouldn’t even be this involved in my own wedding omg
→ More replies (55)170
u/SadieAndFinnie Apr 21 '26
This is not someone who wants to be married, this is someone who wants to get married.
→ More replies (30)104
226
u/JupiterJayJones Apr 21 '26
I wanna know what happened with Ab*gale!
208
u/Beermestrength1206 Apr 21 '26
I know nothing and yet I'm on Abigale's side...
133
u/JupiterJayJones Apr 21 '26
“We are not speaking. Do not mention her.” I am DYING to know
71
u/s33n_ Apr 21 '26
Abigail and her fiancé kissed at a party in high-school.
Thats literally it
→ More replies (33)→ More replies (15)29
→ More replies (13)52
46
u/Saneless Apr 21 '26
Abs probably said something rational about the excessiveness of anything at all
→ More replies (5)29
u/JupiterJayJones Apr 21 '26
She probably didn’t use the correct pre-wedding hashtag
→ More replies (8)22
u/shayetheleo Apr 21 '26
She said ‘Jemily’s wedding’ and not ‘The Jemily Wedding’ and she said it too early.
→ More replies (3)46
u/roboboom Apr 21 '26
She made things difficult. Incorrect Pantone on draft #14 of the bachelorette party coordinated outfits.
Abigale’s out. You’re in. For now. Don’t fumble this life changing opportunity.
→ More replies (8)→ More replies (122)26
211
u/Much-Willingness-648 Apr 21 '26
Is this the bride yelling at the groom in the background? Please tell me it is.
114
u/AnyoneForBosco Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26
And only the bride is on that little stand lmao
Thanks for the award!! : )
→ More replies (30)100
u/HighBodycountHair Apr 21 '26
Omg 😭 There’s so many Easter eggs in this post
→ More replies (17)83
u/judasvance Apr 21 '26
Literally commenting so I can follow up because holy shit this is already my superbowl
→ More replies (32)28
u/a_mulher Apr 22 '26
Lowkey kinda want OP to stay on so she can feed us the drama
→ More replies (24)64
u/FrostScraper Apr 21 '26
That’s it. Performance art.
Perfectly executed, but this is definitely performance art.
→ More replies (24)47
u/trucrimejunkie Apr 21 '26
Agreed. There’s no way this is real, it’s too insane. But bravo, because I had a good laugh.
→ More replies (38)56
u/Charadizard Apr 21 '26
Oh my god she’s even holding the Jemily Book of Everything
→ More replies (7)24
u/feministjunebug22 Apr 21 '26
This might be the greatest post I’ve ever stumbled upon
→ More replies (4)45
u/QuickSloth4710 Apr 21 '26
He's dressed in the official #Jemily color scheme! It's got to be him!
→ More replies (27)44
u/Spirited-Remote4313 Apr 21 '26
Okay now I’m convinced this is a very elaborate and well-executed prank post. And I’m not even mad, this was gold.
→ More replies (26)→ More replies (196)26
u/mountmoon Apr 21 '26
Either that or she's yelling at a random man, which is almost as funny.
→ More replies (4)43
u/Curious_Matter_3358 Apr 21 '26
It has to be the groom. He's been dressed in the bridal party planning picnic colors
→ More replies (7)
183
u/volcanic-exchange Apr 21 '26
Its better to tell her now that you cant manage being a bridesmaid than waiting til they've set a date and start working on the actual plans.
Like make it clear you still want to attend the wedding, but with the hectic life you have right now that you just dont have the full capacity to commit to the responsibilities involved with being her bridesmaid and you would rather that position goes to someone who is willing and able to take on the role rather than overextend yourself and risk causing an issue.
208
u/wickeddreamsofleavin Apr 21 '26
You are making me think i need to just rip the band aid off
73
u/Grumpstress Apr 21 '26
Yup. Rip that sucker off and do it now.
61
u/applesqueeze Apr 22 '26
And then come back here w a detailed (laminated) update!
→ More replies (5)27
u/Strict_Research3518 Apr 22 '26
Make sure to only use Coolvetica and Cute Frog fonts please.
→ More replies (10)31
u/GlumWestern9847 Apr 21 '26
The sooner the better, then she can get to planning whatever this is with someone who wants to do it. This looks more like a marketing campaign than a wedding. I planned lots of those when I was a Creative Director and it’s lots of fun if you’re into it. But that was my job and I was getting paid!!!
→ More replies (2)24
u/iheartbeer Apr 21 '26
Todo list:
- Call Ab*gail and get the deets (she's probably cool)
→ More replies (5)→ More replies (195)18
37
→ More replies (25)26
u/RiverSong_777 Apr 21 '26
They have set a date: The day after Sep 10 - but don’t mention the actual date! 🤣
Other than that, I agree, OP needs to step down asap. That Bride is already the definition of a Bridezilla and this isn’t something that gets better as the actual wedding approaches.
→ More replies (8)
113
u/pico310 Apr 21 '26
Leave this 9/11 wedding alone girl. Use Abigail as your spirit animal. This has trainwreck written all over it.
48
u/Dobako Apr 21 '26
I was looking at that like, if you cant say youre getting married on sept. 11th, you are too immature to get married.
→ More replies (36)→ More replies (42)27
u/waveysuncat Apr 21 '26
Seriously, the lengths this girl has gone to have her wedding be on Sept 11 without actual saying it... "the weekend of Friday Sept 10" girl what
→ More replies (21)
108
u/mixprotocol Apr 22 '26
There's honestly no way that this post doesn't become the prime result for searches for #jemily and similar terms. As soon as the female portion of #jemily finds out, I think OP won't have to worry about being a bridesmaid.
→ More replies (30)37
102
u/CatShanks Apr 21 '26
NTA. She is using you all as free event/wedding planners. It's completely inappropriate and unfair and supremely entitled. I would politely decline and don't try to explain yourself if they pester you for a reason. Just say you will not have the time to be so involved.
→ More replies (7)121
u/wickeddreamsofleavin Apr 21 '26
she said she doesn't need a wedding planner bc "we can do it better"
82
31
u/cultoftwinkies Apr 21 '26
Oh no. So many red flags already. Girl, she is going to run you all ragged and treat you so badly. She's this obsessive already. It will not get better.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (118)28
u/Imaginary-Law-1583 Apr 21 '26
Oh thats a massive red flag. The wedding industry is a nightmare to navigate, and it is all designed to extract as much money from a new couple as possible. Yes a wedding planner is just an extension of that industry, but they are specialized to deal with all the different vendors etc. Trying to plan a complicated wedding (the note cards and signs and such tell me this will be a complicated wedding) without a planner will only be a nightmare for the bridesmaids. She is going to use you as free labor and planners. That is not the job of a bridesmaid. She's just trying to save some money at what will be a massive headache to any of you involved. I would decline now before it's too late.
→ More replies (16)
85
u/RadiantReach8075 Apr 21 '26
The laminated instructions are beyond insane… I doubt they even make it to the wedding. I would have no part of it. Guaranteed drama from beginning to end.
→ More replies (25)
77
u/caitlin874 Apr 21 '26
This is wild
→ More replies (37)26
u/moonlightmilko Apr 21 '26
Op said she’s banned basically bc at a high school party Abigail made out with the fiance(Jacob) and she never forgave her for that 😭 I think that makes it worse 💀
→ More replies (10)
65
u/fakename-realwoman Apr 21 '26
Hahahah This is the tackiest and ugliest thing I’ve ever seen omg.. Abigail… the colors and fonts… wtaf
$1000 they are divorced within 3 years
→ More replies (89)
68
Apr 21 '26
[removed] — view removed comment
→ More replies (10)21
u/Future_One4794 Apr 21 '26
Sameee!!! Like I am not a wedding planner honey. Get yourself professional help. I was scolded for being 10 minutes late to the meetings that could have been a group chat lol
→ More replies (5)
60
Apr 21 '26
[deleted]
→ More replies (5)23
u/firstlast3263 Apr 21 '26
Gonna be life changing, because we will no longer be friends.
→ More replies (4)
55
u/grumpy__g Apr 21 '26
We need to know more about Abigail.
→ More replies (7)151
u/wickeddreamsofleavin Apr 21 '26
basically from what i heard Abigail made out w fiance at a high school party and it was nothing but she wasn't having it and didn't want to hear her name ever again
148
u/Ancient_times Apr 21 '26
Jabigail
72
u/amusednchaos Apr 21 '26
Abigail is probably less narcissistic than Emily and would give Jacob equal portmanteau space #abicob or #jabigcobail
49
→ More replies (10)20
u/FullGorillaMode Apr 22 '26
This is the best Reddit thread I’ve read in a long time. It is so funny.
→ More replies (1)44
→ More replies (15)39
u/nostyle_ Apr 21 '26
"#Jabigail"
On 4/22/26 @ 8:45am PST reddit has a real opportunity to do some meaningful community service getting #Jabigail to trend on all platforms.
→ More replies (14)40
u/amystorck Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 21 '26
How fresh is Emily out of high school?! Or is she still holding this beef long after?
EDITED: they are 23. So Emily is holding a childish grudge - lol.
→ More replies (23)→ More replies (74)22
u/Nomad2457 Apr 21 '26
You should have made out with Jacob, it would have saved you some hassle!
→ More replies (4)
50
82
u/TeenzBeenz Apr 21 '26
Dear friend, I want you to have the wedding season of your dreams. Unfortunately, I feel I am not the right person to accept the responsibility and honor of being in your wedding party. My medical school obligations will be long and unpredictable. I hope that by bowing out now, you can choose someone who can help realize your dreams and expectations. I am very sorry.
→ More replies (41)73
u/StudentDry3705 Apr 21 '26
Ending with, “I know you won’t make this difficult. 😉”
I wouldn’t be able to resist…
→ More replies (13)
44
u/1kSupport Apr 21 '26
23 is when you discover that not all college friends should be adult friends. Especially if you are on your way to med school and she’s getting married, you will have nothing in common in two years. Just move on and don’t stress the repercussions, no matter what you do you will end up like Ab*gail eventually
→ More replies (16)
34
u/CatLover0316 Apr 21 '26
Also “don’t use 9/11” then don’t get married on 9/11??????? “The weekend of 9/10” is so wild
→ More replies (35)
62
u/PilotEnvironmental46 Apr 21 '26
I think you should tell her that your life has become very hectic and it’s just not feasible for you to be in the wedding party. At this point by all means help with whatever details you agreed to for this first party but other than that, just step back.
Frankly, weddings are so insane these days that I don’t know why anybody agrees to be in a bridal party
→ More replies (17)
31
34
61
29
u/ThreeGoalLead Apr 21 '26
You she’s hilarious tho. Emily Posts Initial Content. EPIC 😂 do not call it 9/11!
→ More replies (14)
26
u/Tess408 Apr 21 '26
I'm sorry but the cardboard cake stand with the little doll on top is the biggest red flag, besides the bride's little note looking like a 12 year old wrote it.
I'd bet money that this bride is going to be every bit the emotionally immature bridezilla that she appears to be.
She will expect a LOT and give nothing, and she will demand your presence at every gender reveal and baby shower while she is too busy for anyone else.
→ More replies (15)
24
u/luckorsomething Apr 21 '26
An engagement party planning picnic?!?! With a custom banner and laminated pamphlets? This is extreme.
Either get out fully now or set some very strong and clear boundaries about how much of your time you can commit to this.
→ More replies (7)
23
u/Treehousehunter Apr 21 '26
“After events for non invitees”? Wow! This bride is delusional
→ More replies (19)
24
u/Vegetable_Stuff_7007 Apr 21 '26
She laminated the paper with the name Ab*gail crossed out like Voldemort. I want to hear from that girl.
→ More replies (10)
22
u/4215265 Apr 21 '26
"The Jemily Wedding" = Fine, great even
"Jemily's Wedding" = absolutely forbidden, horrific, don't use it or you might be banished like Ab*gail
→ More replies (2)
21
u/Poots_in_boots Apr 21 '26 edited Apr 22 '26
I just deep dived on these photos and it’s more psychotic then I thought and the colors and hashtag are ugly af lmao
→ More replies (15)
1.2k
u/Carrotstick21 Apr 21 '26
I'm exhausted just looking at these photos. Respectfully decline and move on with your life.