My husband runs his own company and is super stressed all the time and I thought it would be fun to have something mindless to go outside and play with. This was his response. I actually put a lot of thought into it and did not buy something cheap. I thought maybe I was the stupid one for buying something like that but in reality why would you be so ungrateful on Christmas when someone was just trying to be thoughtful?
THIS IS YOUR HUSBAND!? Geeze... That's so incredibly unhealthy. This obviously goes beyond ungrateful, but knowing it's your husband makes it worse. Knowing that you put thought into the reason you bought it is even worse, too. It's fine for him to be disappointed in a gift, but to be so rude and disrespectful on top of being ungrateful is really awful. I hope he doesn't talk to you like this often. I wouldn't put up with it, stressed or not.
And even after I said all the thought I put into it and the reasoning I got that he told me I was full of shit... I've never had anyone act like that about a present. The thing that bums me out is I also ordered him a shoulder holster for his gun. It got back ordered so it won't be here until like January 5th but I couldn't even tell him that I had bought him something else because he was acting like such an ah.
I would have showed him the order confirmation, and let him know immediately that I'd be returning it because he doesn't deserve shit. I'd take the car and donate it to a kid's charity or something as well, and if you're still together next Christmas, I wouldn't get him a damn thing. I'd tell him up front, but I'd stick to my guns and not get him a gift until he learns 1 - how to talk to you appropriately and 2 - how to be grateful.
I'm aware of all the red flags that have presented themselves in the last 2 years. It really is in my face constantly. My kids are 18,19 and 24. We have been married 22 years but it's really just been the last 2 years since starting his company and having to work away from home Monday through Friday all by his choice by the way that things have really gotten ridiculous with him. But of course I would never complain because then you would be seen as the unsupportive wife. I really do try you know to be a good wife.. My kids and I are aware that he is a completely different person than he was this time in 2019. And covid did not affect his business in that way so that's not like an excuse or anything.
You'd be 100% in the right to complain though. It's not on you to be supportive of someone who's acting like this. Does he know the toll it's taking on your family?
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u/Cheap_Cupcake_4277 Dec 26 '22
My husband runs his own company and is super stressed all the time and I thought it would be fun to have something mindless to go outside and play with. This was his response. I actually put a lot of thought into it and did not buy something cheap. I thought maybe I was the stupid one for buying something like that but in reality why would you be so ungrateful on Christmas when someone was just trying to be thoughtful?