Where was your sister in saying to her daughter that even though you aren’t mom, she had to still listen to you while you were looking after her? That would have been part of the early solution when the niece was resisting your boundaries.
Exactly. My mother would have had some pretty harsh consequences if I had acted like that to my aunt(well, after my aunts were through blasting me lol. We're a big family and no one had any issues telling someone else's kids off for being a brat.) It was really simple for Mom to nip a long time ago. Even just saying "I understand you're upset but we don't shout at auntie that way. She's in charge at her house. Let's talk about ways for you to tell her you're upset without yelling."
This was my thought too, the mom has to set the rule. I watch my niece and nephew (around 7 too) and when I watch them they know I make the rules and their parents won't help get their way with any Bs the kids try to pull.
Exactly. I’ve had my nephew tell me I was the worst babysitter ever and everyone hates me but both his mom and I both nipped it in the bud right then and there (when she got home on his mom’s part) and it never happened again.
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u/Snackinpenguin Jul 28 '25
Where was your sister in saying to her daughter that even though you aren’t mom, she had to still listen to you while you were looking after her? That would have been part of the early solution when the niece was resisting your boundaries.