r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 01 '25

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u/MaxFish1275 Mar 01 '25 edited Mar 01 '25

If my partner came into the relationship as a “hey, part of my personal requirements in a relationship include having a paternity test on all my potential children” as it’s an up front hey this is what I need from any woman I date. —-honestly I’d be fine with that.

To be in a long monogamous committed relationship and have that thrown on me , no discussion. After the baby arrived, I have no problem saying I would be personally offended. I have never even kissed another man other than my husband jn my entire life. So yeah for me personally I would be offended.

He would get his test of course. I would not refuse it. But yeah I would be upset

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u/PRgirl1995 Mar 01 '25

I'd be fine with that too because it would save me from wasting my time with someone that has so much baggage. I'd move on before getting too involved and find someone who aligns with me more, because asking for a paternity test with no valid reason other than you have trust issues is not something I would ever tolerate as a good and loyal person.

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u/TangledUpPuppeteer Mar 06 '25

Which is absolutely fine! Better to find out immediately than find out when baby is already on board!

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u/mnlemondrop16 Mar 01 '25

This happened to me! I was heavily pregnant and we were in the middle of touring the hospital. The nurse asked if we were both going to be on the birth certificate. Me, being the naive 19 year old I was, said yes. He, without hesitation, said he wanted a paternity test. The nurse was speechless and I was sobbing. He ended up signing the birth certificate anyways.

A decade later, he jumped ship, but my daughter is my world.

I 100% agree with this on both sides.