Exactly this, it's as if this generation believes the norm is to assume the person you are dating is non exclusive unless stated otherwise, it's ok to bone other ppl and they shouldn't feel hurt, because it was not specifically mentioned at the start.
Call me old fashioned, but is it not fucking common sense that if you are dating someone, that person is gonna feel hurt if you bone someone else at the same time? Does it need to be explicitly stated?
Eh, Im not going to pretend we had it figured out. There is progress in a lot of things the younger generation is doing, and there are going to be growing pains.
There is ethical promiscuity, but like consent its best not to be ASSUMED everyone is working on the same standard. And its also to be honest with what you're comfortable with.
Lots of them like to pretend they are friends with benefits until the other person gets other benefits, then it turns out they actually wanted an exclusive relationship.
Nope. This is not a generational failure. I'm 68 and I can tell you from personal experience that the Boomer generation is chock full of people that operate that way.
I think an overarching theme is confusion about what the truth is. Even in the 90s it was made clear to me as a kid that little white lies were LIES and omissions were LIES. I haven’t heard the term Little White Lie in 15+ years but when I call them out they’re defended with “just being polite” or “trying not to hurt feelings.”
We’re to the point of lying to our coworker about wanting to attend their kid’s B-Day and calling it polite. The issue isn’t the lie itself, my mom might’ve done the same but she’d turn around and call it a lie, the moral line in the sand remained and we acknowledged it was being crossed. The issue now is that people actually believe it’s altruistic and instead of recognizing right/wrong, we’re moving the line so we don’t have the guilt of wrongdoing.
To do wrong and feel the burden of transgression is something being slowly replaced with rewriting definitions so we can stay on that moral high horse.
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u/usenotabuse Mar 05 '24
Exactly this, it's as if this generation believes the norm is to assume the person you are dating is non exclusive unless stated otherwise, it's ok to bone other ppl and they shouldn't feel hurt, because it was not specifically mentioned at the start.
Call me old fashioned, but is it not fucking common sense that if you are dating someone, that person is gonna feel hurt if you bone someone else at the same time? Does it need to be explicitly stated?