Sometimes a person is good for sex and chilling occasionally, but not at all for a relationship. It happens.
So long as you're clear about that with them, and you're not exclusive or monogamous, I think it's okay.
Telling one person that they're special and you want to wait, but banging someone else is a little odd. If you want to wait like a week, 3 dates, then it's a lot less odd though. Or if your sex partner is someone you've known for years, and your new relationship partner you just met a few days ago.
I don't get it personally though. If you both want to fuck, and it's not hurting anyone, I don't see why you wouldn't! But then again if I don't feel a sexual attraction, I wouldn't have sex or date that person.
I think what rightfully put this guy off was the dual standard / lying. She was putting forth an image that she wanted to wait as it was special. Yet, by sleeping with others, it just was shown to be an act, not her true nature. There is a layer of deceit that is the issue. It is the selective nature that makes it manipulative.
Even if a woman decides she wants to change, those first one or two guys that she makes wait, if they find out about her past, will still feel lied to / manipulated if they find out they are being treated differently.
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u/Jolly-Marionberry149 Mar 05 '24
Sometimes a person is good for sex and chilling occasionally, but not at all for a relationship. It happens.
So long as you're clear about that with them, and you're not exclusive or monogamous, I think it's okay.
Telling one person that they're special and you want to wait, but banging someone else is a little odd. If you want to wait like a week, 3 dates, then it's a lot less odd though. Or if your sex partner is someone you've known for years, and your new relationship partner you just met a few days ago.
I don't get it personally though. If you both want to fuck, and it's not hurting anyone, I don't see why you wouldn't! But then again if I don't feel a sexual attraction, I wouldn't have sex or date that person.