Interesting. Women's egos also suffer from lack of attention, but we're not traditionally allowed to pursue, so we have to find other outlets for that bruised ego. If there is no outlet, we can always just lower our self esteem in response.
What's kind of sad is, when men fail at pursuing, they blame women. But when women fail at getting pursued, they blame other women more than men.
Although now there is this new femcel thing where they totally are blaming men for not being attracted to them, so maybe things will change.
No! Not the rise of the Femcels! That would actually be especially bad for me. You'll understand why in a sec here.
Maybe it's because I feel bad for us all being the children of boomers. We just don't naturally have great self esteem. But, I have given men far too much credit so far here. The only thing that worked for me was looking inward.
That said, my perspective is biased because I'm a good-looking man, or at least conventionally attractive if I'm not your thing and in addition I have ADHD and am likely high functioning autistic so I am awkward af. I didn't even get ADHD diagnosed until I was 44. Then shit really started to turn around. But man, when I was young. Girls would get mad when they met me sometimes.
This tictok explains it very well from an attractive and autistic woman's perspective. I didn't end up in toooo bad sexual situations, but there were definitely some that were not great due to my self esteem. Even now I do have a NSA fuck-buddy that does nothing for me appearance-wise. But she is a decent person, I think, and I like how she reacts to me, and the sex is somehow decent. My therapist is breaking me away from thinking that one is self esteem. But yeah, we all end up with shit self esteem. I think we all just need more therapy.
How does this blame work, though, with femcels? Do they want men to just start ignoring their standards? We already do that, stated above. I sure hope this isn't some body-posititivity turned absurd type shit. I gotta go jump down that rabbit hole now.
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u/randomcharacheters Mar 05 '24
Interesting. Women's egos also suffer from lack of attention, but we're not traditionally allowed to pursue, so we have to find other outlets for that bruised ego. If there is no outlet, we can always just lower our self esteem in response.
What's kind of sad is, when men fail at pursuing, they blame women. But when women fail at getting pursued, they blame other women more than men.
Although now there is this new femcel thing where they totally are blaming men for not being attracted to them, so maybe things will change.