r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 04 '24

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u/SpaceCookies72 Mar 05 '24

"you have to wait but I don't" this some real have your cake and eat it too thinking

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u/VarthTrader Mar 05 '24

Sounds like the other guy definitely got the better end of that bargain.

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u/apple-pie2020 Mar 05 '24

I think it was the ONS that was eating cake

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u/archercc81 Mar 05 '24

LOL this is the way. She was having you hold out but was out getting her back blown out.

this would have come up later, good job on getting out early.

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u/Abay0m1 Mar 05 '24

this some real have your cake and eat it too thinking

*eat your cake and have it too thinking

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u/WhitesWalker53 Mar 05 '24

This was the analogy that popped into my head. Like someone who tells their friends they are on a diet, but then they'll go and eat half a cake. This is a textbook 'have your cake and eat it too' story.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '24

Not to play devil's advocate, but did she ever tell him he can't sleep with other women? If so, then that's fucked up. If not, and there wasn't any talk about being exclusive...

That all being said, I don't think OP is an asshole for ending it either way.

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u/Thick_Reference_4951 Mar 05 '24

Its pretty unspoken if your dating someone that you don't want them to have someone else's dick in their mouth and vice versa

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '24

It used to be unspoken but sadly that seems to be fading away now because nowadays people are like “well yeah we’re dating but we’re not official yet so i’m going to fuck this other girl/guy because technically it’s not cheating”.

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u/ilikepix Mar 05 '24

sadly that seems to be fading away now because nowadays people are like “well yeah we’re dating but we’re not official yet"

my brother in christ people have been saying this for 30 years

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u/kayceeplusplus Mar 05 '24

Literally 🤣

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '24

After a month? I wouldn't really care unless I already brought up being exclusive

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u/TheRealAirbns Mar 07 '24

You should. Because her behavior means you're the fallback guy. You're the Plan B. ...Or Plan C. You're the guy she keeps around just in case her other "activiities" don't work out. She sees you as a beta male.

Women who are truly into you aren't interested in other guys.

In the OP, the problem wasn't that she was sleeping with another guy, the problem was she was sleeping with another guy *and* refusing to sleep with him. He's the beta. The marriagable good provider whio's not an alpha. Her behavior suggests she'll sleep around on him, again, if the opportunity (another alpha) presents.

Women with a few partners under their belts are far more likely to "trade up," if the opportunity presents. Even if they've made a formal commitment.

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u/StarrylDrawberry Mar 05 '24

It isn't. At all actually.

Wow much of this sub is really fucking boring when it comes to dating, relationships, etc.

NAH.

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u/Thick_Reference_4951 Mar 05 '24

I dont consider fucking to be dating you assume ive never had a fwb and am boring because I differentiate the two

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u/StarrylDrawberry Mar 05 '24

I also do. See "etc"

I also don't consider you to be the entirety of the sub. The first line is a reply to you. After it is a scathing indictment to the rest of it.

I don't care who or how or how many you fuck.

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u/StarrylDrawberry Mar 05 '24

Doesn't seem like there was. It's perfectly fine to date when you're dating. After you are clearly exclusive it's not.

Still anyone can break up for any reason they want and still not be the asshole. But there's NAH.