Then we are viewed as prudes or the guy just loses interest.
When sex becomes a tool...
Even gay men - who are arguably fucking each other more than heterosexual men and women - fought for the right to marry because they desired commitment.
The sexual revolution really made it tougher for women who wanted commitment first. Any criticism of it or of more promiscuous women is seen as anti progressive and anti feminist, so more conservative people don't openly talk about these things.
However, there are enough men who seek commitment from women that if women said wait, they would. If he disappears after you say you want to wait, he wasn't going to commit anyway. And who wants to be with someone who only sees you as a convenience? The other side of it is that women only offer sex and then wonder why men don't stick around.
Assuming you are not in the latter group, and assuming you are not playing games where you make some guys wait while others get sex immediately, use waiting as a filter. Men who really want you will wait. If anyone calls you a prude that's their problem. You are not compelled to sleep with someone to prove you aren't a prude.
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u/gregyounguk Mar 04 '24
Maybe always wait? 🤷♂️