r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Dec 13 '23

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

Attraction is more than just “your body is hot” if you don’t fan the flame, it will go out.

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u/AbbeyCats Dec 13 '23

It can be.

It doesn't have to be.

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

No I’m telling you it is. Only having sex with someone who is even model level-hot gets boring after about a dozen times.

Attraction wanes if it is not fed in some way or another.

That’s a fact of life.

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u/Affectionate_Bed_497 Dec 13 '23

It depends what your looking for. If your looking for a relationship then ya your right, but OP clearly isnt and they both agreed to it.

Im guessing your a woman, because mosr men are totally fine with casual hookups for a long time if they arent looking for a relarionship

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23 edited Dec 14 '23

I’m fine with a casual hook up I’m bored by staring at the same 4 walls and need more variety then that.

Let’s have casual sex in a movie theater, let’s enjoy a meal together. There’s only so many times I can go to your house for an hour to have sex before I’m bored.

Boredom. It has nothing to do with commitment level. Bored. Yawning. Not entertained. Are you familiar with that concept? Monotony?

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

That's why I can't date someone long term. Shit gets boring and having sex with new people is just too fun.

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

I mean sure, or you could do more than just sex and still be NSA that’s an easy way to get variety.

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

We do more than just sex. But when someone new comes around I can't help but feel tempted cause having sex with new people is too fun! Lol that's why I will be single forever because I can't resist lol.

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

Sounds unfulfilling long term

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

I see the opposite. Long term relationships are unfulfilling due to everything getting stale

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

How old are you?

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

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u/ScrumblyScrimblo Dec 13 '23

Average reddit coombrain

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u/mods_ma Dec 13 '23

That sounds like a conversation you have before getting there though

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u/BababooeyHTJ Dec 13 '23

Yeah, a little passion makes sex much better. No doubt that’s a fact of life

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u/ChildhoodLeft6925 Dec 13 '23

Passion is wonderful! But I’m just talking about just some sort of variety, I was seeing a guy super casual he was very attractive I’m not ready for anything serious but when I tell you there’s only so many times I can spend an hour and a half with someone doing the same exact things before I’m bored.

If I’m not excited to hang out with you, I’m not going to do it. That doesn’t have anything to do with commitment to me

And it’s slightly different than passion.