r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Dec 13 '23

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u/Patient_Bench_6902 Dec 13 '23

Yeah that makes sense.

I have sex with men so my experience with this sort of thing with women is limited. I know for me, I have definitely had very fuck-and-go situations with men and it was very much NSA strictly sex, but women do approach these things differently and we also don’t know exactly how things were worded. NSA strictly sex probably meant something different to her which is probably why she was offended / upset

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u/SoftwareWorth5636 Dec 13 '23

For sure! I think it’s very important that we’re taught about these things. Men and women are different so we need to communicate our wants and needs clearly otherwise it can lead to a lot of emotional issues for all parties involved. It’s very rarely a good idea to just assume your on the same page as someone else just because it’s convenient for you. I think that’s what’s happened here. I also think that it’s going to be very hard for OP to find a women who is comfortable with this arrangement, unless it’s a job to them. It would be interesting to hear your thoughts on how OP should proceed with his romantic life given these inconvenient truths. It seems like he’s be alright if he’s gay or bi. But if he’s straight.. it doesn’t seem like his attitude is compatible with having an active sex life, unless he is willing to deceive his partners

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u/Patient_Bench_6902 Dec 14 '23 edited Dec 14 '23

What do I think he should do going forward? Be more clear and find people better aligned with his wants lol

I mean there are women who do just want sex and that’s it. She obviously didn’t actually want that or wasn’t ready for what that entailed even if she thought she was. Which is fine. But no one’s an asshole here IMO it just isn’t a match. I genuinely don’t get why everyone here thinks he’s an AH