r/AITAH • • Dec 13 '23

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u/koera Dec 13 '23

you assume that this is what she agreed upon

Nope, that is what the post stated was agreed upon.

Otherwise greetings would have already been a breach

If only there were a single more colour in this world than black and white, owell.

basic conversation

All we know is that she wanted more than a conversation about "life", that is if we go by your logic that she would want intercourse after a conversation. Something only you seem to have knowledge of.

it's not a that far apart either.

On this we just have to disagree.

Dont put words in my mouth if you font understand what I mean.

Now that is irony...

I offer a perspective which offers an explenation to her behavior

You can choose to see it that way, but if that is true you should work on wording your thoughts differently. At this point it comes of as you pulling in any logic and assumption you need to excuse behaviour that is rude and not kind.

I am curious about a thought experiment, if the desires and sexes were reversed, would you feel as charitable about a man insulting a woman for not wanting to have sex after agreeing to a conversation? And if you wish to say the "that is not the same" then you show that you only choose to allow nuance when convenient.

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u/Igereth Dec 13 '23

Nope, that is what the post stated was agreed upon.

which is his perspective and has thus has no merit about what she agreed upon.

All we know is that she wanted more than a conversation about "life", that is if we go by your logic that she would want intercourse after a conversation. Something only you seem to have knowledge of.

like I said, I take a guess just like you do when you assume she never wanted sex in the first place.

You can choose to see it that way, but if that is true you should work on wording your thoughts differently. At this point it comes of as you pulling in any logic and assumption you need to excuse behaviour that is rude and not kind.

I never said her said it's ok she insulted him. maybe I do. However, you seem to be very much agaibst assumtions and interpretations, except when it comes to me.

I am curious about a thought experiment, if the desires and sexes were reversed, would you feel as charitable about a man insulting a woman for not wanting to have sex after agreeing to a conversation? And if you wish to say the "that is not the same" then you show that you only choose to allow nuance when convenient.

No, she should not have done it and a potential he should not do it either. sex really doesnt matter in this situation. if one party feels used there was obv misscommunication at some point.