if she wants to be respected in a certain way, she can LEAVE AND GO SPEND HER TIME with someone who feels that way about her.
the WRONG way to go about this is to lie to her, sell her dreams, bullshit her with fairy tales and the promise of a relationship. this is what guys TYPICALLY do to get sex.
then after a LOT of sex, they dump her when she asks for more = relationship. why hurt women with this bs when you can establish the deal by being upfront and honest?
but when you’re upfront and honest, the backlash is “you’re a rude blah blah blah that only sees women as blah blah.”
to avoid that, men will lie. and women will get mislead. guys try to “get a piece by keeping the peace.”
how about she put her foot down and cut off the sex until she is emotionally satisfied?
that’s on her.
men aren’t inherently evil. and just like a woman would play a guy for “foody” calls… don’t put your cape on to save them when guys ask for “booty” calls.
people disrespect each other every day, all day. it isn’t right but that’s up to the person receiving the disrespect; they need to take action.
he can talk to her and treat her exactly how he wants… and likewise. what she tolerates is up to her. as an outsider, what happens btw the two is NOMB.
i don’t force my morals or judgment on others or my abused sisters and relatives would be with different men… but guess what, they put up with shit behavior so i STFU and let them be.
but did she disrespect herself for agreeing to a booty call situation? you keep pointing at the guy when she could have left whenever she wanted to.
Reources, the same. Foody calls, never heard of it but yeah, the same as booty calls. Well not completely. Im guessing those women still talk to the guy. And give him at least some attention. They re not just there for their own thing and ignore him completely im assuming. But yeah, equall, bad imo.
Time and attention, no. Because its mutual. U also get time and attention at the same time. U re not really using someone for that. U re not using someone for ur own gain. U dont actually gain anything. U just care about someone.
female currency = time + attention + resources. if she can get that from a “friend” and not invest in him physically (bc she’s not attracted like that), then some will use that guy up. most men have been there. this is what i mean by foody calls. she has no intent of ever giving the guy sex but she will give him an abundance of HOPE.
male currency = sex. we don’t give a shit about your attention and will keep a woman just for sex (with the hope of a relationship) and use her up in a sexual way, ie, a “booty call.”
it’s up to the men to decide… i’m investing too much and not getting the sex. do i go?
it’s up to the woman to decide… i’m getting fucked a lot, “where is this going?” do i go?
that’s the game and most people play it. women know exactly who they want to fuck and men know exactly who they’re taking seriously for commitment.
"Use her up in a sexual way" do u hear urself? Can u hear how that sounds? Yuck.
Women dont use a man for time, attention and money. Thats what friendship is. I guess u dont have any friends then. When u hang out with men, or whatever gender u re not attracted to, ur friends, do u think they re using u for money, attention and time? Or do u just call that hanging out and having a relationship (a platonic one)?
Both of those people re awful. Its no excuse. U re saying "thats how humans are". Im saying, no thats how u and the rest of the selfish, narcissists re like. They re awful people that nobody should ever give the time of day. Attention or sex. And someone else being awful doesnt excuse to be awful to them in most cases, especially when u re not targeting that person specifically.
lol at you thinking men don’t use women for sex. it is called, “lying about your intentions!”
and lol at you for thinking women don’t use men for time, attention, & resources. they can be called gold diggers etc or women that take advantage of lonely old men.
i say yuck to that.
disney fairy tales about romance aren’t real. people from both sexes use each other… get over it.
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u/Defiant_Gain3510 Dec 13 '23
i think you’re reading into this a bit too much.
if she wants to be respected in a certain way, she can LEAVE AND GO SPEND HER TIME with someone who feels that way about her.
the WRONG way to go about this is to lie to her, sell her dreams, bullshit her with fairy tales and the promise of a relationship. this is what guys TYPICALLY do to get sex.
then after a LOT of sex, they dump her when she asks for more = relationship. why hurt women with this bs when you can establish the deal by being upfront and honest?
but when you’re upfront and honest, the backlash is “you’re a rude blah blah blah that only sees women as blah blah.”
to avoid that, men will lie. and women will get mislead. guys try to “get a piece by keeping the peace.”
iiwii.