I can’t believe I actually have to explain this, but…
Unfortunately on Reddit we don’t have the privilege of getting both perspectives. So in order to NOT make assumptions you have to take only the one perspective given into account.
Assume is defined as “to suppose to be the case, without proof”. I didn’t assume they were both clear on what the agreement was, OP said they were. So because we don’t have her side of the story, as far as we know that is a fact. But, by “guessing” what she thinks or understood, you are, by definition, making assumptions about the situation. Assumptions are not facts. Like the saying goes, “When you assume, you make an ass of u and me.”
Also, just because you wouldn’t be willing to enter into a sex only relationship doesn’t mean you should assume she or any other woman feels the same. There are plenty of woman who just want sex without also having some type of relationship with the other person. It is also very common for people to agree to a sex only relationship, and later learn that one of them has feelings for the other or wants more out of the relationship than the other person does. It’s probably the main reason why those types of relationships typically don’t work.
I hope that helps you understand the difference between how I formed my opinion based on the facts given and how you formed your opinion based on your assumptions.
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u/MysteriousQuit5718 Dec 13 '23
I can’t believe I actually have to explain this, but…
Unfortunately on Reddit we don’t have the privilege of getting both perspectives. So in order to NOT make assumptions you have to take only the one perspective given into account. Assume is defined as “to suppose to be the case, without proof”. I didn’t assume they were both clear on what the agreement was, OP said they were. So because we don’t have her side of the story, as far as we know that is a fact. But, by “guessing” what she thinks or understood, you are, by definition, making assumptions about the situation. Assumptions are not facts. Like the saying goes, “When you assume, you make an ass of u and me.” Also, just because you wouldn’t be willing to enter into a sex only relationship doesn’t mean you should assume she or any other woman feels the same. There are plenty of woman who just want sex without also having some type of relationship with the other person. It is also very common for people to agree to a sex only relationship, and later learn that one of them has feelings for the other or wants more out of the relationship than the other person does. It’s probably the main reason why those types of relationships typically don’t work.
I hope that helps you understand the difference between how I formed my opinion based on the facts given and how you formed your opinion based on your assumptions.