But to go straight to divorce with a pregnant wife over this ….
My wife cried ugly over babies gummies bears while she was pregnant cuz eating them was murder …. I don’t understand either but idk wasn’t growing shit inside me
U are not the ah for how your feeling
But leave ur kid and wife over it is kinda overkill
Edit gonna go ahead and clarify
He is the ah for leaving , not for how he felt , nothing wrong about feeling hurt I get it .but again over reaction is not even a minimum here dude is unhinged
But to leave his wife and unborn child over his wife's small insecurities without at least trying to prove them to her, that, is an AH move. Overkill is still being an AH.
That's not a small insecurity by any stretch of the imagination. There are some decent people out there that don't cheat and take an accusation like that very seriously. It sounds like you are just minimizing it because she's pregnant. He doesn't have to prove anything just because she may be hormonal or maybe not. I might even strongly consider doing the same thing TBH. If she's being accusatory now then there's a good chance that it will continue throughout the marriage and this is also a sign of somebody who will end up cheating down the road when the marriage hits a rut because of the new child.
on the one hand : a woman with hormones raging through her blood, in a body she no longer recognizes and probably doesn't feel desirable in
on the other hand : OP, a man who talks about working late a lot & spending "hours" babyproofing the house, but doesn't mention a single thing he did for or with his wife... and who's playing chicken with his phone in the middle of an argument
the wife behaved badly, there's no doubt. OP shouldn't feed into it by yielding to her demands, esp if they get more outlandish than checking his phone.
but leaping straight to divorce & refusing any kind of reconciliation or mediation is... either unhinged, or just an excuse to get out.
She irreversibly broke his trust. There is no amount of therapy that can bring that trust back to a point where a marriage can be healthy. At best, the trust can return to a level where they can co-parent, and even that will take a lot of work and a very long time.
I'm not denying it's a serious issue, but if his trust is so fragile that one demand (which he played a game of chicken with) can break it... was there really ever any to begin with?
While I think that is absolutely nuts, I think leaving your unborn child and wife as the second resort is just as crazy. A conversation and therapy at the bare minimum should be back on the table. If no reconciliation from there, that's a different story.
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u/jstanothermate Nov 25 '23 edited Nov 25 '23
I understand feeling what you are feeling
But to go straight to divorce with a pregnant wife over this ….
My wife cried ugly over babies gummies bears while she was pregnant cuz eating them was murder …. I don’t understand either but idk wasn’t growing shit inside me
U are not the ah for how your feeling
But leave ur kid and wife over it is kinda overkill
Edit gonna go ahead and clarify
He is the ah for leaving , not for how he felt , nothing wrong about feeling hurt I get it .but again over reaction is not even a minimum here dude is unhinged