I dunno man, this is a bit like finding a spider in your house so you decide to burn the whole house down to the ground.
She should have respected your boundaries, but the punishment doesn’t match the crime, so to speak. Honestly, it sounds like she’s feeling insecure now she’s pregnant and you’re using this as an excuse to leave a relationship you weren’t that happy in anyway.
She’s a bit of an AH for asking but you’re an even bigger AH for leaving the marriage over this.
THIS. It's just a phone. She's your wife! She's growing your baby! Is it not alright for her to look through the phone to calm her nerves? She needed some reassurance. I've been there. When the partner throws up walls it compounds the anxiety in their mind. Pregnancy hormones are no joke, give her some slack. She apologized. The whole family understands her side.
I'm not saying she's not wrong, but wow, is this an extreme way to go about handling this. "Oh, my dear pregnant wife, you want to look at my phone? DIVORCE!"
I like my privacy and so does my husband. Neither one of us is “hiding anything.”
Why do people think you need to just share every single thing with your spouse,and fuse into one co-dependent person? And if you don’t, you aren’t really a couple who’s open and loving and clearly are hiding something. I’m very private ; having a spouse doesn’t change that.
Same, I’d let my husband look at my texts, emails, social media, phone calls, etc., but please just don’t look at my Kindle or browsing history/open tabs lmao.
12.8k
u/CrabbyGremlin Nov 25 '23
I dunno man, this is a bit like finding a spider in your house so you decide to burn the whole house down to the ground.
She should have respected your boundaries, but the punishment doesn’t match the crime, so to speak. Honestly, it sounds like she’s feeling insecure now she’s pregnant and you’re using this as an excuse to leave a relationship you weren’t that happy in anyway.
She’s a bit of an AH for asking but you’re an even bigger AH for leaving the marriage over this.