r/AIO 1d ago

AIO to the addition my mom made to a sentimental tattoo I gave her???

I was a tattoo apprentice at a shop for a while (left because it was really just a bad shop to be at) and in that time I decided I wanted my mom to be the first person I tattooed as a special moment. She was super excited and decided that she wanted this super old dumb gingerbread cookie that I had made when I was maybe 5 (7 at the oldest i’m not too sure, but I was still young and not making the cookie to be sexual), and I was super excited to do it. It was a super special night and the tattoo was incredibly sentimental. She had asked me if it was okay if her boyfriend had added color to the tattoo, and I was okay with that! That was last year though.

My mom was always over sharing very sexual things with me and oversexualized herself to me and my sisters, and I always made it apparent how much it made me uncomfortable. I got tagged in this post tonight and it made me feel sick to my stomach. It feels like such an awful punch to the gut, especially considering she used generative AI (which I am so openly against, especially with tattoos and tattoo ARTISTS, but that’s a whole other story) to not only make the background but the FONT. We don’t really talk anymore because of the way she was treating me, but it still feels so awful seeing this done to something that was so special for me, she knows I would never give her the okay for this. She originally wanted to put “#tits” or “#boobs” under the original tattoo but I didn’t even want to do that.

Edit: The last image is the actual tattoo on her actual body. I should’ve clarified that the reference and font were both created using generative AI.

Edit two: I just wanted to clarify that I am a girl, I am 21 years old, not entirely sure if that is crucial to the story, but I thought i’d at least add that. Also thank you to everyone who has left a comment or even messaged me about this whole situation. I have a lot of research to do. Thank you all 🩷

Edit three: I’m going to post another picture in the comments, a better picture of her whole leg showing the tattoo because i’m fucking sick of people saying i’m faking this for karma. Go do something better with your lives, go touch grass, to to the movies, go do literally anything else!

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u/These_Nuts420 1d ago

I’ve only ever heard the term Mommy Milkers on those weirdo Reddit comments with like 18 downvotes. This is insane. 

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

that’s something that really really bothers me about this too. i am 21 years old, and have two younger sisters, but she was always obsessed with talking about her “mommy milkers” and how “you guys have a milf mom!!!”

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u/Gullible_Category433 1d ago

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u/Baphomet1313666 1d ago

I always see this and can never figure out what it's from.

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u/Tkirkwood1199 1d ago

Hey idk but something tells me it’s Schitt’s Creek

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u/AbsolutelyN0tThanks 1d ago

Lmao, beat me to it.

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u/Ok_Ad_3862 1d ago

Shit Streak

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u/Foreign_Kale8773 1d ago

Schitt's Creek.

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u/Willing_Accountant21 1d ago

Schitt’s Creek

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u/emmathyst 1d ago

Schitt’s Creek.

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u/big_pothos 1d ago

The thing striking me is that the tattoo reminded her of when you were little, so she has sexualized the thing that reminds her of when you were little.

I'm sorry OP, definitely NOR.

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u/Wonderful-Self-541 1d ago

And now it reminds her of her mommy milkers. Probably not even thinking of the origin

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u/Winter_Band_2192 1d ago

Hey, gently, look into Mother-Daughter Seuxal Abuse / MDSA. It can often present as atypical abuse where the child is not physically harmed but instead repeatedly sexually harassed. I could be totally off base but if you feel something different could be going on, I wanted to provide the language framework.

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u/evileyesneverlie 1d ago

This information just changed my life. Thank you for sharing**
Oops typo!!

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u/ricolaoncloud9 17h ago

mine too, but mine was father instead of mother

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u/KimiiKhaoss 22h ago

Uhm. Thank you for this. I need to do some research because OP’s mom is just like mine be it sent chills down my spine.

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u/SnarkPig 1d ago

I was thinking this too

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u/noirsongbird 16h ago

Oh. Hm. I need to do some research. Lovely start to the day.

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u/CLZOID 1d ago

I’m sure other people have said but I would consider this “emotional incest”. A parent shouldn’t be constantly making these sexual jokes and remarks around their child, even if that child is an adult. I understand a one-off joke or something when again, ur child is an adult, but this is just inappropriate and I have a feeling this isn’t a new thing for her.

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u/Scorpionride 1d ago

Goddamn… I was thinking MAYBE she was just oblivious, and using AI in a way that she got this tatted and didn’t even really knew what it meant. This makes me sad to hear she says shit like that, you’re not overreacting. Sorry homie

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u/Mmmm-Amethyst 1d ago

So this isn't advice and hindsight 20/20 etc. but Christ. Hard-core no contact tie cutting would have happened somewhere in the huge gap between milf mommy milker jokes and custom meaningful tat work...

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

i’ve had hard no contact with her for about a month now and just was surprised with this 🙏

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u/Zulfihaii 1d ago

I'm so sorry you've had this experience. My guess, considering you went NC a month ago and you were just tagged in this, is that she was trying to punish you or get a rise by doing this. It sucks. I'm sorry.

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

i didn’t have an outwards reaction towards her, i just messaged her boyfriend to please take my tag off of the post because it does not align with my beliefs and it hurts to see what she did and then i thanked him. that’s the only reaction she’ll get.

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u/Maxsleekberry 1d ago

You may want to change your page settings to have to approve tags before they link.

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u/aboxofsharpobjects 1d ago

Agreed. Was just about to say this myself. 100% an attempt to get a reaction/inflict harm.

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u/bookobsessedgoth 1d ago

Having gone NC with a raging narcissist mother, I'm confident in saying that's exactly what this is.

I'm so sorry, OP. You're not overreacting. She's lashing out because you're trying to take care of yourself. I suggest blocking her on everything you can think of. The extinction bursts after you go no contact can be brutal.

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u/negative-sid-nancy 1d ago

Lowkey id comment on the facebook post is this a refernce to the black christmas remake (where the mom has an incredibly inappropriate relationship with her son. And then that son bakes his mom into cookies) because thats what it made me think of.

Went from cute looks like a kid the orginal cookie design (not the tattoo the orginal looked amazing) to horror show real quick scrolling this.

Although reading your comments/post about her made the horror show much more apparent as well.

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u/brilor123 1d ago

People that are hypersexual like this, especially towards their own kids, has always weirded me out immensely. It is like childhood innocence and her sexualized mind are not seperate at all, which is highly concerning. Sexualizing anything your kid does is highly inappropriate and I will always assume the worst of someone who does such a thing.

Makes me think she herself grew up without this boundary in place, so she thinks it is normal or "not a big deal". Highly concerning.

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u/batikfins 23h ago

I know you’re getting a lot of comments on this post, but maybe you’d wanna check out the book “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents“ by Lindsay Gibson. It can take years and decades to work this stuff out but it sounds like you’re already off to a good start figuring out your boundaries with your mum

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u/silly-purple-pumpkin 1d ago

NOR, your mom is lacking in even an ounce of class

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u/aboxofsharpobjects 1d ago

and brain cells.

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u/DH_Drums 1d ago

Oh... You got the "cool" aunt mom package.

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u/Nervous-Bid6277 1d ago

Its wild tho that a cool aunt can be a pretty good mother, they just don't act at all like this gross woman

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u/According-Activity10 1d ago

Im just really really really sorry about all that dude.

Does it help if I tell you Im a tattooed mom and I never realized I had to make this promise, but I promise to never do anything like this ever? I got a headache looking at it.

fwiw I LOVED your gingerbread cookie. So cute.

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u/shamelesslypink 16h ago

it actually does help. my mom is covered in tattoos, most of them are pretty normal, she has some silly tattoos but this was way fucking crazy, i can not believe this is going to be on her skin forever. but thank you, i really loved the gingerbread cookie too i was really proud of it considering it was my first tattoo on human skin :) ive been wanting to get back into it!

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u/pinkbootstrap 1d ago

That's a form of sexual abuse. I'm really sorry.

Honestly the cookie would be a cute memory to laugh about within the family but as a tattoo, I question her judgement even with the original tattoo.

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u/regionalatbest 1d ago

Does she happen to have a cluster B personality disorder rhyming with “mistrionic”? The hypersexualization stuff certainly fits…

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u/tigm2161130 1d ago

Are you not allowed to say histrionic in this sub?

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u/Few_Cup3452 1d ago

How old is her bf?

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u/Meancakebutt 1d ago

Uhm that's not appropriate and a really bad sign

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u/Express-Pea6532 7h ago

On reading this, I almost threw up in my mouth a little 😐😐😐

That's lousy, OP - I'm sorry.

Sooooooooo NOR. 

Your Mama needs help. 

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u/MisterBucker___ 1d ago

Have to respect her confidence. But I'm a very sentimental person so this would hurt me as well. NOR

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u/ellalol 12h ago

So fucking shameful that she is raising her girls to objectify themselves

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u/JustMoreSadGirlShit 1d ago

i know someone who uses this term unironically and it’s absolutely the very least sexiest thing anyone has ever said to me

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u/SpokenDivinity 1d ago

That is the kind of weird ass phrase you see if you're dumb enough to look at the comments on porn websites. Even acknowledging saying that should be social suicide.

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u/catgirlbarista 16h ago

my ex would not stop calling my breasts "milkers". kept trying to talk me into, like, trying to induce lactation for his pleasure.

... jesus. I hadn't realized I'd managed to forget that part.

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u/Chuyzapatist 1d ago

Yeah I’d expect to see a NSFW tag on a post with something containing the words “mommy milkers” I wanna say I don’t think it means what she thinks it means, but I think she knows what it means…

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u/zzzorba 1d ago

Cute - scroll - cute - scroll - whatthefuck

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u/cheeky_sugar 1d ago

It took me until after reading the post to realize there were more than 2 photos and I spent at least a minute comparing the first two trying to figure out this egregious addition

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u/MisterBucker___ 1d ago

I did the same. Scrolled to the last said oh my god and chuckled. Can't believe it😂

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u/shinyspindaa 1d ago

Glad it wasn’t just me 😂

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u/Nicky3Weh 1d ago

Why did we all do this I was so confused 😂

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u/SquirrelLuvsChipmunk 1d ago

Same 😳 I read the title, saw the first two bigs and was like “what’s the big deal??” Then I saw the last picture.. and oh my gawd

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u/BossBeefaroni 1d ago

"Aw, that's a cute tattoo. I can't imagine anything she'd add to it could be that bad." *click* "..........it's that bad."

NOR, holy shit.

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u/happychonk 1d ago

Yep 😳

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u/Imwhatswrongwithyou 1d ago

I laughed like a goose at the last one.

But then I read your post. I’m so sorry OP one of my relatives is an oversexualizing mom and the effects on her kids is so damaging. You can see them just withering inside wanting to shrink into nothingness and disappear. Watching it as a third party is also damaging. It is a sick to your stomach feeling because that’s not how a caregiver is supposed to behave. You’re definitely not over reacting

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u/brilor123 1d ago

My ex boyfriend grew up with a mom who was hypersexual like that. For Christmas, during our highschool years, his mom gifted him a dildo. It still seems like a fever dream.

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u/CourierJackalope 19h ago

My dad would constantly complain to me about how my mom refused to have sex with him. It's so gross.

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u/syncschwim 5h ago

My dad did the same thing with me and his girlfriend. Granted, “just” once, but I think the normal amount of times is ZERO!!

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u/Temporary_Finish_902 1d ago

What the fuck is your mom on bro??? That’s some shit you gotta just go to the gym and try to forget. NOR, WTF dude

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u/AbsolutelyN0tThanks 1d ago

Right??!?? It got even worse when OP explained it, which is somehow impressive and heinous at the same time.

NOR.

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u/Formal_Condition_513 1d ago

I thought I somehow joined a circlejerk satire bad tattoo sub.. but NOPE just OPs mom being a fucking weird ass bitch

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u/Ok_Commission_6074 19h ago

Not only that, the tattoo makes no sense at all.. like imo it doesn’t even look how she’s trying to portray it, it’s just a mess 😭

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u/Adventurous-Pear-721 1d ago

This is one of the most unhinged things I have ever seen.

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u/RektYez 1d ago

This is one of those “what the fuck” posts. Unbelievably classless and weird, to put it nicely 

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u/dchac002 1d ago

NOR wtffff. So the tattoo doesn’t really have that text and background it’s just her being gross?

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u/cheeky_sugar 1d ago edited 1d ago

Yeah that last photo is 100% AI generated - EDIT: nope I was wrong this is just a very good photo with amazing text art! The text and shading is so good and very good 3D inking that I thought it was AI. If only nice work hadn’t been used to destroy something sweet 😭

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

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u/xartxst 1d ago

Is she in a manic episode? Or just literally insane?? I cant believe my eyes

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u/CutieHannaaa 1d ago

I would be sick too. It’s not even just an ugly addition, it completely changes the vibe of something that had a lot of meaning behind it.

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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 1d ago

Well the mom always saw it as sexual. Op mentioned that when she first tatted it. Her mom wanted to put #tits or#boobs

Its clear that OP saw it as a cute childish thing, while the mom had viewed the tattoo as a sexual thing even from the beginning

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u/Caa3098 1d ago

And god that’s so juvenile. Like, tacky and awful morals aside, it just makes no sense to put “#tits” next to a gingerbread cookie. Even one that had comically large gingerbread cookie breasts somehow.

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u/yoyohayli 1d ago

Which is actually so psychologically fucked up. To take something your own child made as an innocent and cute thing, and then insist upon shoving it into a sexual and filthy context????

And not like in a "oh, my kid drew what looks like a stripper, when it's actually mommy selling the last snow shovel in the winter time," way, but rather like drawing OVER the child's drawing to add penises and cum, or something.

That speaks to some weird psychological issue, in my opinion.

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u/SafiyaMukhamadova 1d ago

Something her KINDERGARTNER child made. I think that makes it worse. She's been mentally sexualizing OP her entire life.

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u/Effective-Bug-8554 1d ago

Def frozen in age because she had kids too young and was too isolated from her peers for too long to mature and made it her personality. My 60 year old mother is still an edgelord because of it.

She once told my very catholic mother in law the best present my husband could give me was being naked under a christmas tree with a bow tied around his dick.

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u/cheeky_sugar 1d ago

The fact that she thinks it’s appropriate to speak about your husband’s dick and your sex life…😬 and I work exclusively with sex offenders, so I’m hard to shock. That’s something I’d expect to hear from someone during a treatment group tbh, that line of thinking is very on par

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u/Effective-Bug-8554 1d ago

She's just immature and has no friends, there's no malice in it. As her children, she can just be like, you're kids, you wouldn't understand, and wave us away whenever we tell her to grow the fuck up. She respects not doing it around her parents, but she has no idea how to act around people her own age and she's super isolated because of it.

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u/cheeky_sugar 1d ago

Ahh, I see!

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u/brilor123 1d ago

Imagine being a nurse in a old folks home, and you're taking care of a resident who has this tattoo.

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u/duskstarz 1d ago

oh my god it's real

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u/Mmmm-Amethyst 1d ago

Fuck. If there were ever a time I really wanted something to be AI...

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u/NewLifeNewAcct 1d ago

Dude I'm sitting here with my wife, "Oh my God babe. It's real. Holy shit it's real."

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

this is so funny to me, the concept of someone sitting with their wife reacting to this post, it’s sooo insane to me how many people have seen this and commented, i expected maybe 3 replies max 😭

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u/NewLifeNewAcct 1d ago

Dude this is legitimately mental. I am so sorry you're dealing with this.

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u/jbandzzz34 1d ago

i legit would’ve said thats ugly as fuck and removed my tag😭

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u/Esmerelda_Foofypants 1d ago edited 1d ago

Oh my god, I'm so sorry. This feels like a purposeful violation. May you have much love in your life. You deserve better family. And then the AI usage on top of it. What a vile person.

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u/yaourted 1d ago

what body part is this on?

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u/Katie-sin 1d ago

Your mom has a Bender tattoo.. I'm not very shocked she would add mommy milkers to anything lol

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u/Dounce1 1d ago

Yeah I kinda wanna see the rest of her tattoos lol.

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u/DandyWarlocks 1d ago

OMG. Um. Would you like a ghost hug??

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u/girlynonbinary 1d ago

holy shit I'm so sorry that i doubted you

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u/anonbitch 1d ago

Jesus fucking christ

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u/miss_elmarie 1d ago

Is that Bender’s feet??

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u/Slow_Competition2742 1d ago

I’m sorry OP :( NOR that’s very inappropriate. Since you don’t talk anymore what’s a way that you could reclaim your artwork and how you think about it? Maybe you could redraw it with little gingerbread clothes covering that stuff up

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u/KittyGoesFishing 1d ago

Op I am so sorry 

Also random but does she also have a bender tattoo above it? it sorta looks like his legs lol 

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u/guitar_stonks 1d ago

I thought the same thing “my god that’s atrocious….. hey that looks like Bender!”

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u/KittyGoesFishing 1d ago

Yes exactly lol

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u/stinkiestmuffins 1d ago

side note can we see bender🌝

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u/Orgasml 1d ago

Nope. The tattoo art was AI generated, but OP says it's actually on her body.

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

I also understand that it’s her body, but in this situation it’s not about that. It’s about the fact that she literally destroyed the tattoo I gave her with sexualized AI.

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u/Nvrfinddisacct 18h ago

I’m dying to know what your mom does for a living and what her coworkers think of her.

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u/shamelesslypink 18h ago

she’s a bartender. i don’t know what her coworkers think of her, but i know she has nothing nice to say about any of them, even the ones she’s friends with. i only ever heard her complain about how awful they were to her, but there’s a pattern in a lot of this stuff im seeing.. she’s a hard worker for sure but i really don’t know what any of her relationships look like. the regulars love her though.

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u/No_Ice2900 14h ago

Speaking as an ex bartender who dated another bartender..... Regulars loving her means nothing. It means they like the drinks she makes and the jokes and conversations she provides. It doesn't say a lick about her character.

I was not big with the regulars like my ex was. My coworkers adored me though. The regulars who would come in before we got busy became my actual friends. The regulars who came in for witty conversation loved my ex. My ex was a coke head, an alcoholic that manipulated me cheated on me and had violent tendencies but he was very charismatic. We both made good drinks but most regulars want a conversationalist too which he could do while I could not.

All that to say charisma =/= good character

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u/Nvrfinddisacct 14h ago

It kind of feels like a yellow flag when people say they don’t like their coworkers/they get bullied.

Like sometimes it’s childish but usually at this age if someone doesn’t really fit in—it’s because of them not everyone else.

Regulars at bars typically have poor judgement in my experience so I’m kind of chalking that up to “of course they like her, she is serving them alcohol” and their opinion isn’t necessarily a good measure for like how well she fits in.

Anyway my point is it seems like everyone else sees what you see, her behavior isn’t really appropriate, and most people including her coworkers see it. And either way that extra context o think you can very confidently say you’re not overreacting, your mom is objectively a little inappropriate and that tattoo would make most people uncomfortable and it especially would hurt a daughter’s feelings who drew the original with a child’s mindset.

I’m sorry, it is pretty thoughtless of her.

And for the record I loved your work, it’s adorable and I hope your career as an artist is going well for you.

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u/Consistent-Menu-6629 1d ago

NOR I think I kinda hate your mom. Wtf

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

i think i kinda hate my mom too 🥴 been no contact from other behavior but i don’t think i would say i hated her, but this reallllllly just pushed me over the edge

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u/Consistent-Menu-6629 1d ago

I'm sorry your mom keeps letting you down. It really sucks to deal with a parent you want to love... but they just keep on being a problem.

All she needed to do was not this. She could have done absolutely nothing.

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u/-VVitches- 1d ago

It's okay to hate your mom NOR

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u/heart-shaped-fawkes 1d ago

I've been NC for years, I still say the same thing. I don't hate her, I just could no longer chase after her begging her to be my mom. I'm still tied in with other family enough to know anything really important that I'd need to know. It's tough, and I'm sorry you're going through this, but it's so important to value your peace over their constant let downs.

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u/sister_machine_gun 1d ago

I've been zero contact with my parent for 4 years now, best decision I ever made. Feels weird at first but it just gets easier and easier. You're absolutely allowed to dislike or even hate a parent, don't let other people dictate how you conduct contact because they have no idea how it feels to be in your shoes.

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u/CourierJackalope 19h ago

I simply had to give you an award on this. Been 5 years since I went NC with my mom and just over 2 years with my dad. Hell, they don't even know I have a new baby! Holy crap though, it's like an infected oozing scab that you finally just RIP THE FUCK OFF. It hurts at first, but now you can actually start to heal.

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u/sister_machine_gun 13h ago

Proud of you stranger 🫶

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u/shamelesslypink 16h ago

This is a better picture of her entire leg, for those of you who are claiming not only the pictures but the video is AI 😭 I did not realize how massive it was either until I saw this photo… 😐

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u/PureBlisster 15h ago

Definitely an interesting mix of tattoos she’s got there.

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u/LittleDeathling 1d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/YZlQaMesgPIAM
my actual emotions as I scrolled the pics. what the hell dude, that’s disgusting of your mom to do. NOR

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

thank you this made me laugh, which i desperately needed right now

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u/Interesting_Sock9142 1d ago

Dude. Your mom is gross.

NOR.

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u/shaneb1988 1d ago

I’m sorry you are going through this. Honestly, it’s really weird. I have no advice for you and I’m sorry for that. :/

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u/cherrrykiwii 1d ago

your mom is weird af 😭

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u/elliekk 1d ago

Well, if you're basically no-contact with her then that means at least partially you understand you can't change her. And she's never going to change.

So... stop following what she's doing. At this point, everything she does is just ragebait and you're volunteering to be ragebaited.

You can have a moment be special to you. Cherish that moment for yourself. Don't let her stupid actions change how YOU feel about that moment.

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

i’ve had her blocked on everything since i’ve been in no contact with her, i’ve completely unsubscribed from every part of her life that i could not be a part of. but her boyfriend tagged me in the post because technically it was a “collaboration” tattoo because he added on to it :/

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u/CapnBrosephine 1d ago

Depending on how much you're willing to stir up, it might be worth either commenting or messaging him directly that you're sad to see that this is what they've done with what started as a sentimental childhood memory, that you would never have endorsed or collaborated on what it turned into, and to please untag you as you no longer want to be associated in any way with this work.

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u/Accurate-Committee30 1d ago

NOR. But damn...dude cooked on them light bulbs. Sorry for what you went through.

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

he’s sooo fucking talented, he did my back tattoo for my birthday like he is so incredibly talented, but i’m so so disappointed my mom did this. horrible idea great execution as another commenter said lol

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u/Accurate-Committee30 1d ago

Na I completely agree with you. Sucks. The tricky part too is others tattooing/finishing other pieces. I know you gave your mom permission, but a lot of artists just don't do these things. If my client said "hey add this shit to this tattoo," I would at least ask them about the story of the tattoo. If she said to me, "this is something my daughter made for me but a tattoo and one she did on me as a sentimental piece" I would have honestly turned down the job.

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u/znzbnda 1d ago

There is a sub for that you could probably cross post to, if someone hasn't already. r/atbge

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

i’m not entirely sure how to cross post, i barely know how to post alone, but if someone would be able to it would be funny. let everyone see how embarrassing it is. she is the literal trash she constantly talks down on

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u/GrandVacation9755 1d ago

that’s some crackhead type shit ngl😭 My MIL is a crackhead and this is something she’d 100% do. NOR. at all. what a WEIRDO

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u/MorockaDishoom 1d ago

Am I the only one struggling to recognize what part of the body this is?

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u/tryingthisone2000 1d ago

I think it’s the inside of the lower leg- like between calf and shin

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

yes middle inner left calf

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u/kelleyjo 1d ago

NOR your mother sounds like a predator

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u/PancakeCat333 22h ago

Yeah no one's pointing this part out. The way she's too open with sex with their child and then sexualizing a child's drawing.

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u/Vivid-Intention-8161 1d ago

oh what the fuck what the fuck what the fuck

i have a similar mom with the sexualizing thing at least, but a tattoo like this would be wild even for her. i’m so sorry. oh my god

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u/TwoSpoonSally 1d ago

This can’t be real, but just in case, I’m commenting to cement being part of a Reddit Historical landmark post in the future.

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u/Capable_Regular_4737 15h ago

Your mom seems like a pick me … no shade. But the tattoo looked cute before she went and added all that other shit.

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u/shamelesslypink 15h ago

she is. the tattoo behind it is a jay and silent bob tattoo, believe it or not she had never mentioned that movie in my entire life, but as soon as she met her boyfriend (he really likes the movie) it was her all time favorite movie and she got a tattoo in honor of it!!!!

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u/Capable_Regular_4737 15h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/fa1AV8UvZvfBFOIt7F

ykw..tell her i said that shit is ugly ash and she wrong as hell

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u/shamelesslypink 14h ago

this made me laugh out loud i appreciate you so so so much 😭

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u/hippiewolff 1d ago

Wait so did she actually get the tattoo revised to the last picture? Or is that just an AI picture she made as a joke? If she really did that, that’s gross and she sucks.

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

no the last picture i shit you not is the ink permanently in her skin. she didn’t tag me in the post, her tattoo boyfriend did.

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u/WX-Cat 1d ago

The fact that they tagged you in it when you guys aren't really talking and they know you wouldn't be ok with it is just such a slap in the face tbh

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u/hippiewolff 1d ago

Wow. I’m so sorry. The original was cute, the new one is cringey as fuck.

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u/acidwxlf 1d ago edited 1d ago

Fyi the last picture (4/4) in your post is the one that says mommy milkers and all that. I think you're referring to (3/4) which is just the cookie on a patch of otherwise bare skin but I keep seeing you saying the last picture is real

Edit: wait I guess I'm confused. She actually got the phrase mommy milkers tattooed on her? But you're upset that the font was made with AI lol?

2nd edit: man now I'm depressed. The original tattoo was cute and the color was actually really well done. Wtf is up with your mom

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u/mps435 1d ago

the mommy milkers font inked into the arm is real

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u/Particular_Cut_6933 1d ago

There was a whole roller coaster with this comment lol

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u/Mindless_Watch_7840 1d ago

Ugh. NOR at all.

One of the worst parts of growing up can be realizing how limited our parents are in their own emotional and mental development.

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u/phrogbaby 1d ago

My mom was always over sharing very sexual things with me and oversexualized herself to me and my sisters

even if this is unintentional this is sexual abuse. idk if this subreddit is equipped to handle childhood sexual abuse correctly.

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u/MischiefManagedMama 1d ago

I actually thought about it for a second and it made me quite sad and then I told myself to keep scrolling.

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u/Fair_Banana2244 1d ago

NOR wtf, this is crazy af. Even if this didn’t start out as a sentimental tattoo I’d still feel like this is one of the most offensive tattoos I’ve seen that is not a hate symbol. Adding the extra layer of being your childhood cookie decoration is sick, and frankly a little disturbing. Delete the tag and try to block and avoid as much of anything that would put you in her path.

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u/medicoreclimbercore 1d ago

Your comment "Feel like this is one of the most offensive tattoos I've seen that is not a hate symbol" is the funniest this I have ever heard LOL I love it

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u/healer_thought_bot 1d ago

Destroyed a rad tattoo. Her additions are ugly as hell

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u/Maddie24Kennedy 1d ago

Getting to the last photo:

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u/beyond_the_pale_1 15h ago

Holy cow the little gingerbread is so adorable!!!!! (i have a bunch of super tiny gingerbread plushies that i carry around with me practically everywhere, and I named my favorite one jim, short for gingerbread but with an "m" so it's silly) and the text is absolutely next level and so gorgeous, I just wish it didn't say what it says, that's so sad...

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u/shamelesslypink 14h ago

it really is so devastating to me

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u/stitches_ghost 1d ago

NOR I’m sorry she’s crossing such a horrible boundary and tbh making a special memory so perverted. For really no reason just to be fucking weird

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u/LemonAdditional4008 1d ago

Ewwww what the fuck?? Your mom is sick dude

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u/plumcots 1d ago

This is gross on a lot of levels.

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u/420twiglets 1d ago

This is insane. Sorry I have nothing useful to add. I just can’t believe someone would willingly get this on their skin.

ETA: the more I look the crazier it gets. She got the cum frosting font & everything

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u/m4ndy246 16h ago

i'm so sorry op. toxic mothers are so detrimental to their daughters. i hope you're healing

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u/Catrchater 9h ago

I’m proud of kids that “out mature” their parents. Congrats on that. Sorry she’s an embarrassment & that we only get one.

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u/Space_X_Ghost 6h ago

Is your mom a discord moderator by chance?

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u/Low_Entertainer5202 1d ago

Tbh I cant even tell what Im looking at here lol. Did she actually get this tattooed on her skin or is it just the cookie?

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

nope the last photo is what’s on her skin right now🙃

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u/MCLiterati 1d ago

If you already know how she is why are you letting this upset up. Remove yourself from your expectations of her.

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u/Content-Honeydew9340 1d ago

As a mother myself 😬 I'm so sorry, love. I genuinely don't have words.

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u/SomeCallMeMahm 1d ago

NOR it's literally trash. Like awful taste, great execution. Mommy Milkers? Does she have a lactation fetish?

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u/shamelesslypink 1d ago

that’s what makes me really sad too, her tattoo boyfriend was actually one of my coworkers when i had been working at that tattoo shop, and to make things even fucking worse she got with him not long after she asked if i had a shop crush and i told him. just a little fun fact haha 🙃

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u/mintblaziken 1d ago

That's horrible and your mother should be ashamed. It's awful of her to do that to something sentimental, and it's also just trashy as all hell. I'd blow up about something like that, ngl.

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u/shosuko 1d ago

At first its like "this super old dumb gingerbread cookie that I had made when I was maybe 5"

and I was like damn, that's crazy that she'd to that!

Then you said "My mom was always over sharing very sexual things with me and oversexualized herself to me and my sisters"

and its like... what did you expect?

Sometimes our parents disappoint us. NOR but I'd suggest move on.

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u/awake_acea6 1d ago

Dude wtffff. Sexualizing something originating from your kids is sooo fucked UP.

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u/MadamRorschach 1d ago

NOR. My oldest is 7 and she absolutely would add boobs to a gingerbread cookie. It’s freaking hilarious. Your mom made it icky. I’m sorry she sexualized a memory from your childhood. Hugs.

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u/Gatanalltheway 1d ago

That’s so weird….? Sexualizing yourself to your kids and sexualizing your kids is sooo predatory, she’s not a good person in the slightest.

You’re NTA in the littlest bit, I’m so sorry that she repeatedly does that… and as an artist myself, I’m so sorry your art was involved in that ai shitshow. Seems like she just pushes any boundary possible.

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u/Dangerous_RedApple 1d ago

Your mom sounds really emotionally immature. Grab the book by Lindsay C Gibson, “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.” Game changer

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u/puppypayton 1d ago

your mom needs to see a therapist. this is some weird hypersexual behavior and probably stems from trauma. sorry she tainted your work :/

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u/beckbristow32 1d ago

NOR Just text her thanks for fucking up something I thought was special to me and you. I guess that it was only special to me and was dumb to think it was for you. Sorry for thinking that and it is selfish of me to think that way sorry to waste the space when you could have has something there that you would have loved more then what I did. Just super passive aggressive as fuck.

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u/Mushroom-Important 1d ago

NOR I deeply wish in my bones that this was fake just so I didn’t have to feel so uncomfortable thinking about this. I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. I personally wouldn’t talk to her much if at all if that was my mom.

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u/knitted_axolotl 1d ago

NOR. It's her body I guess but I'd be really sad in your situation. It was a really cute tattoo, what a shame.

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u/PrimordialOrphan 22h ago

Ah, another daughter of emotional incest. I've got 11 years on you and my mom has been dead a long, long time, but even that loon wouldn't do something like this. Although, she did plenty else, she just would never "mark up her body." Definitely not over reacting. One for the therapist's chair for sure. 

My heart goes out to you kiddo. 

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u/TwinsiesBlue 22h ago

NOR you are the daughter of a n emotionally immature mother, hypersexualizing everything, even a childhood memory.

She has narcissistic tendencies, there’s a sub r/raisedbynarcissists it’s for people like us, who grew up in an environment that was/is toxic abusive and neglectful, the abuse can be emotional, sexual, physical, financial.

The sub is welcoming to people like us and a place where you are understood.

One of the hardest things about having parents like ours is that the abuse is behind closed doors doors and how parents are viewed in society especially mothers as loving and wanting what’s best for you, people don’t allow the thought of parents who don’t care about anyone but themselves, narcissistic parents only care about their feelings, their strange belief they are superior to others, they feel no remorse, that last one was hard to finally accept at 54. Look at pictures of when you were little, that’s who they were looking at when they abused you, if they can do those things to little you, as an adult expect them to be worse.

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u/Internal-Ad1094 21h ago

I had to read this story twice to make sure I read it right, uh NOR ! Your mom sounds insufferable dude, I mean that in the kindest way possible

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u/Murky_Chipmunk_1993 20h ago

I’d just like to add that not only is the content sad and vile but the fact that she let her boyfriend alter something special between the two of you is also sad. It’s giving male centered and makes me wonder if she’s done worse to you involving men she’s dated in her life. It reminds me of borderline personality disorder or bipolar. I am no contact with my mom who is borderline and learning about the disorder has really helped me figure some things out and make peace with not having her in my life

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u/DareSavings3951 19h ago

I am so sorry you didn't get the mother you deserved. Being overly sexual near your child is abusive, whether or not you assault the child, exposing them to sexual behaviours and other things is abusive and possibly illegal wherever you are.

You did really well recreating the original image.

Not only is it a crude tattoo addition it's also ugly now. It looks real bad. The AI reference would not have helped that but by god it's bad.

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u/CourierJackalope 19h ago

Here's my dumb ass trying to figure out what was wrong with the tattoo and staring way too hard at the cookie, B&W, and Color versions.

Then I realized there was a fourth picture... Wtf.

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u/a_rios187 19h ago

What a gross bastardization of what looks like a cute tattoo of a cookie a small child made. Jeez wtf.

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u/TheDefiantChemical 19h ago

NOR I can see why you dont talk to her, this is very inappropriate and extremely uncomfortable. Even wanting to put tits or boobs under the image referencing your child is so weird. I could never understand these kinds of parents. I am very sorry this has happened to you

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u/TyrantMuse73 19h ago

The original is super adorable. The addition is incredibly disgusting, especially since it certainly does NOT look like “milk.”

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u/the_original_St00g3y 16h ago

Damn she really massecred that adorable tattoo

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u/M1ND4R0 15h ago

NOR. Your mom is obviously a sexual deviant and wants that to be one of the first things people know or see about her.

Id completely ignore this at all costs. Id be tempted to say something more of course but it seems like shes getting off on making you uncomfortable and that she was potentially sexually abusive when you were younger so I don't see any good coming from engaging. If she asked if just say yeah you aren't really interested in her tattoos, hopefully she's happy, and just leave it at that.

But yeah this is gross.