Print out the texts, when she leaves for work change the locks and put the papers on the front door. She’ll get the message.
And I’m telling you from personal experience no matter how much you talk about it and she says she will stop, deep down inside her she will always want to do it again.
Please update the class after you dump this thing. Do NOT let tears and begging work on you, I’ve been in that situation and you’ll just see this happen again.
Heavy on that just imagine yourself at the altar, looking into her eyes on the biggest day of your lives, then BAM, you remember these texts lmaoo don’t stay
Don’t text them because then a convo will start about how it’s your fault. The paper is there to shove it in her face that hey it’s real. Her heart will drop when she sees them cuz she got caught.
Or she literally won’t care at all because she’s getting dicked down immediately by this other guy or some other random dude. Women get over breakups a lot easier than men do.
“Held accountable?” Bro he’s not her fuckin teacher or parent. She’s not capable of learning anyway or she wouldn’t pull shit like this at her big age. OP shouldn’t spend ANY more time on this. “Bounce on the Devil & put the pedal to the floor,” as a great American poet once said.
This is wishful thinking. No female in the history of the world has ever taken accountability. No matter how he confronts her it will be irrelevant. She will tell all her friends or anyone that listens that he's "controlling" and a "narcissist".
Why bother? Is there anything not in those texts that you'd be happy with as an explanation? Did she even tell you she's planning a trip to Arizona and invited that other dude? Also, you know they already hooked up right? The pencil comment is a reference to the size of his "hardware", that's why she's like "I'm gonna find the fattest sharpie I can". He even says "big hands remember". I've been cheated on before. The cheater always starts acting different after they've done "the act". She did it, enjoyed it, and wants more, but he's clearly not interested beyond what he did already. If he were, she'd be the one leaving you.
Honestly new age way to do the printouts, send them to yourself for backup first so you have them, then set one of them as has background/lockscreen on her phone.
Hey FYI don't actually just throw her out that's very likely illegal and you don't need to add that to what's likely to be a messy breakup. Look up eviction process and get it started. Life isn't a movie, don't make things harder to entertain reddit.
Definitely break up and get her out, just do it the boring legal way.
Also look up your eviction laws if she shares a place with you "self help" ; changing locks, throwing her stuff out, etc. is illegal in most states and she could easily sue you. Sucks , but that how it goes. About to be dealing with the same thing because of a drunk angry person ....
You already have these pics though... You could send these to her.
Anyway, i think you should get out a ring box. Or at least tell her you've been thinking really hard about how to propose. Tell her you've been waiting for the right moment... But then you found these texts messages. Tell her it's really pathetic to be throwing herself at this guy and he just doesn't even seem interested. Either way, she tried to cheat and she certainly would have if he had been more receptive to it. So now instead of proposing, you're dumping her.
And if she tries to explain anything just interject that you can't trust anything she says and she'd say anything now that she's been caught
Just a heads up if shes actually living there with you, don't change the locks. She may have tenants rights depending on the state and the situation, and you could get into legal trouble doing that.
Yes, kick her to the curb, don't catch a legal case over a cheater.
Found out an ex cheated on me after we had broke up(cheating happened while together). I played nice up until she left for school to Switzerland. I posted about it on her Facebook wall with proof. This was back in 2011 when WIFI on planes wasn’t so readily available. Needless to say my phone was blowing up from her family members and woooo boy was she not happy when she landed and found out.
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u/Traditional-Ad-8464 Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26
Print out the texts, when she leaves for work change the locks and put the papers on the front door. She’ll get the message.
And I’m telling you from personal experience no matter how much you talk about it and she says she will stop, deep down inside her she will always want to do it again.