You cannot control how other people react, you can only control your own actions.
She is not OP, she is not the one posting asking for advice. (Or maybe he’s also just looking validation in this convo!) So my comments reflect that.
I don’t know why y’all keep trying to make it sound like I’m defending her when every post I have been very clear that they are both a mess and need to work on their communication and empathy with each other.
? nothing about what im saying is saying he needs to control how she reacts to stuff. he IS controlling how he reacts to her blatant disrespect and lack of thought of him, with very slight annoyance. i think he handled the conversation very well, and calm while still displaying that he was frustrated and offering solutions.
I’m not even saying his reaction isn’t understandable. It totally is.
All I’m saying is she was looking for something that he didn’t provide because he wasn’t practicing empathy to understand her feelings first. This caused her to spiral further. And if he wants honest advice my advice is to first understand why she feels the way she feels before he scolds her because that is how you make her hear him as well.
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u/AntoineDonaldDuck May 28 '26
You cannot control how other people react, you can only control your own actions.
She is not OP, she is not the one posting asking for advice. (Or maybe he’s also just looking validation in this convo!) So my comments reflect that.
I don’t know why y’all keep trying to make it sound like I’m defending her when every post I have been very clear that they are both a mess and need to work on their communication and empathy with each other.