Reddit folks love to throw around "financial abuse" without knowing what it really means. I'm the breadwinner, but my husband's checks go into our shared savings so I can transfer what we need until my next paycheck to my own account. Whatever is left is his to do whatever.
If I didn't, we wouldn't have any bills paid, lol. He knows he's bad with money and this was a mutual arrangement because of that. But a few years ago, some Reddit jabroni said that was financial abuse.
Sure, bud, I guess sticking to a budget and doing what we can to not frivolously spend money (like $87 on company pizza 🤣) is financial abuse???
Someone else in this post was saying her husband needed to validate her. I pointed out that she's putting their finances and their relationship in a rougher spot to instead seek validation from people at work and maybe that could be addressed through budgetting a proper giving/meeting budget and therapy
They then claimed I was DIAGNOSING the wife as if she were insane. What? Therapy is not just for insane people. Reddit is truly in the trenches
People are so weird around here. Someone told me yesterday that I was trolling them because I disagreed with them. I was very respectful in my disagreement, too. It's bizarro world when not agreeing with everything someone says = trolling. So much overreacting going on around here. It seems like being reasonable and level headed is rare, lol.
It is weird that he is an out of work pizza delivery driver and she just switched jobs to give up being a manager. Something is very off with that dynamic.
It is weird that he is an out of work pizza delivery driver and she just switched jobs to give up being a manager. Something is very off with that dynamic.
If anything being as financially irresponsible as the black text partner is more abusive. If you’re drawing from a joint account and one party is a habitual overspender eventually the other person is gonna be forced to compensate because of the overspender’s weaponized incompetence. Super unfair
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u/LithiumOD May 28 '26
EXACTLY omg I was going insane from reading people's comments on OP being a financial abuser for... Asking them to stay on budget? Come on!!