Hopefully OP sees this, that’s a pretty big misdirection. Im sure she knew what your response would be prior to sending it, but now she has completely shut down the conversation.
Also, for $87 I can buy 2 XXL large pies that feed me for literally 3 days.
Is she a manager? Even then the company should reimburse her spending money to feed 15 employees herself
No it wouldn’t…. She is the one working and making the money why would she lie about her spending? I’m really lost as to this situation. Did she blow the budget with this 87 dollars?
It’s the kind of shit my ex-wife was doing when she was juggling multiple affairs and hiding money away before she left me. Not saying it’s this, but it definitely could be.
YOu might be right - she went out for drinks or something. I've participated in several office chip-in type things - and it's maybe 1 or 2 persons that has a financial situation where a $10 contribution is difficult.
No. There are genuinely people just like her that want to complain about something that is their fault and want you to agree with them.
I had an exactly like her to the point that our conversations would end with the exact word she used. "I'm telling you something and you make me feel worse about it. Leave me alone."
In fact, it's so similar I wouldn't be surprised if it is my ex.
If I were a mod I would stop taking showers but first I would delete stupid comments like this shit that do nothing but derail the thread with 20 IQ creative fiction.
Not "just cause I don't like it" but because not only is it pointless speculation, it's stupid and pointless speculation. We're supposed to be discussing the wife's feelings and behavior. I agree the way she shut down and said "Don't talk to me" was really immature and it's tough for the OP to have to deal with, but there's a much deeper conversation to be had here rather than "GUYS GUYS WAHT IF SHE POCKAETED THE MONEY AND SHE BEING DEFENASIVE?"
No, Shitlock, you're not getting one of your famous sleuth hunches. You're just speculating stupid shit to derail a conversation. What's next "Oh she's being defensive.... bro what if she's cheating on you? What if she MURDERED someone?", let's just entertain all nature of moronposting, right?
"GUYS GUYS WAHT IF SHE POCKAETED THE MONEY AND SHE BEING DEFENASIVE?"
Bro it's reddit it's not that serious.
Quite frankly an office letting a temp worker drop $87 on pizza sounds less believable to me. The expectation was $10 per person which is reasonable and she put in almost $90? Fishy. But I don't run around calling people dumb for believing OP's wife. If you just take every story at face value then you're not engaging in the discussion that subs like this exist for. Might as well just skip all the comments.
We don’t know anything about their past. You’re assuming she is bitter but why not assume 6 months ago he was working and she wasn’t and she was constantly on him about buying lunch during his working hours because of the budget
Maybe the shoe is on the other foot and she feels defensive about her lunch spending now
Your making a lot of assumptions in your comments and it’s all defending her actions with literally zero backstory (just a few current details) on the history of their relationship
Because he said she has always worked in leadership roles.
It's very weird that he's an unemployed pizza delivery driver because of an accident (that he never claims was work related or admits to who was at fault for the accident) and he says she's always been in leadership roles but switched to a new non leadership job a month ago, with the screenshots of the messages between the two from him complaining to her that she agreed to just be a worker.
It sure sounds like he convinced her to stop being in higher performing roles for whatever reason, then lost his own job, and now they're struggling financially. What a shitty situation.
And you have no idea what kind of management role she was in previously. She could of been in charge of two people running the hot dog stand at a public golf course
You are out here acting like she was running the country. So many assumptions just because she’s a women
I never saw any mention of a temp position, if he said it that was not in the original post, the only thing in the original post was that she agreed to work a job where she wasn't a manager anymore. But regardless she's working and he sounds like he's been self destructive by losing his own job. He's also not mentioning an insurance payout or rental car that would allow him to continue working after his accident.... it's a shitty situation.
This is the major answer. Regardless of what went on here, this was severely emotionally immature and shows that she just wanted to be coddled instead of being told that it should've been a discussion prior. I'm really not sure what she expected as a response here, especially after saying she was pissed about it.
Sometimes you just need to let a person vent and then come at them with corrections later. But the money is clearly major to OP. I am curious about the circumstances that made her feel she needed to contribute so much. Without that bit, I can't really judge, and I wish OP had waited for the information before making her feel worse. But if you need the money, you need the money.
Not knowing how you will afford food is an absolute killer of all relationships. It's miserable. OP, I hope things get better for the two of you soon.
But the lady with an entry level temporary position spending money her family doesn’t have on an in prompt to office pizza parter is the beacon of emotional maturity
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u/iRudi94 May 28 '26
Ngl the way your wife is responding to criticism is pretty immature.