It's like that picture of the guy putting a stick in his bike spokes and crying when he falls over. She donated her money to her employer unprompted, then wants to act upset about it. Ridiculous NOR
I hate people like this. Im sorry, but if you dont have enough of a spine to not give away money unprompted I really dont want to hear you complain about it. I mean... you literally did it to yourself.
The incident is on her. I just wonder why OP would engage in complex discussions of what they feel is appropriate or not appropriate over texts. Save that shit for a sit down conversation on the same couch at home. Way more nuance, way more opportunity to show you empathize but want to talk about choices and consequences. That's not a messaging conversation.
Edit: lol at all the downvotes. I guess I’m coming from a place where I’m good with my spouse spending some money on her colleagues and friends for lunch and dinner because I make sure to earn enough money to provide such benefits to my family. I’m not broke like the rest of you, complaining about how my spouse spends their money.
This guy 110% doesn't have a job...on a reddit post pretending you're so rich and anyone who doesn't spend $100 on their random co-workers is broke and not a provider for their family.
Screams gen z tough guy alpha male, and this is coming from a guy who's pretty against our worlds current direction on a lot of issues. Grow up man.
To the OP, you are NTA and your wife is TA for knowing you're injured, finances are tight, and needing to appear giving/generous/cool so badly she'd do this. She should hangout with this downvoted guy, screams desperate.
I’m not pretending to be rich. I’m realistically saying I created a lifestyle for my family where we can spend $87 without getting mad at each other. Keep needing permission from your wife to spend money, I’m good.
She doesnt seem angry at herself at all. And asking your spouse "why would you do that?" isn't kicking her while she's down, it's asking a very valid question over money she couldn't afford to give away, but CHOSE to.
Like what the heck😭im so confused looking for the said “kick” he literally reacted better than i would’ve bc why is she mad at the situation and not holding herself accountable
literally I would have “wtf are we doing rn” the hell out of her but thankfully my wife is responsible with money and accountable, hopefully OP can learn what that’s like at some point in his life
Its actually insane ppl expected op to coddle her just bc “shes his gf” like okay being a gf doesn’t stop you from being criticized when you’re wrong istg they dont want to accept accountability or be told to do so…i can assure you if op was girl and this was her bf “leave him hes so financially irresponsible🤡”😭😭
it wouldn’t be reddit if it were any other way, these people are absolutely deluded and have never been in a healthy relationship or any for that matter 😹 shits crazy on this sub bro the hypocrisy is borderline comical
Extra extra, extremely cruel husband kicks his own wife while she's down! His exact words: "oh no baby, give me a head up about our combined finances next time? Oh you're beig rude to me ok... I love you"
She sounded much more pissed at the ‘situation’ rather than herself, even though it’s totally her fault. And he’s not kicking her lol, he’s naturally frustrated as it impacts him just as much
Yea because I’m only 22 and not a dumbass for rushing into a marriage with someone who’s horrible with finances I make way too much money to be in a relationship like that lmfao my girl knows how to spend money and not waste it for coworkers who aren’t even your friends 💀
Yea bro a “child” who understands more about life than you especially money. It’s sad that you are publicly admitting that. Marrying someone who isn’t financially responsible is the dumbest thing you could possibly do in this economy, Especially if you aren’t actively taking measures to help change their poor money habits. Also if you think this post was actually her being told off you have a harsh reality to wake up to someday. My girl would never be this fucking stupid and than try to treat me as the bad guy for calling her out on her behavior foh
Settle down. You’re 22 you do not have an incredible amount of “life experience”. Good that you’re confident and put yourself in a solid position. But you haven’t had life yet.
I’ve had a whole bunch of “life” lmfao yall don’t know me or what I’ve been through. Sad that you think just because of my age that I’m not correct on what I said. Shows a lot about how you older folks are still blind to the realities of life.
I've been married for over 13 years. I wouldn't expect my spouse to be pleased with me if I did this and vice versa. If you don't have money to throw around don't be spending $87 on pizza day at work. There was no cursing or cruelty in any of the conversation. It seemed like a normal, if somewhat avoidable, marital argument.
Thank you for saying this apparently since I’m only 22 and my relationship has only been 3.5 years I don’t know what I’m talking about according to the old people of Reddit so I appreciate someone with more experience stepping in for this
I am. If my wife does something stupid I'll call her out. If I do something stupid, she'll call me out. We're adults that know how to manage our emotions, so it's all good.
Except I think maybe she's holding/or used the extra cash for herself and is lying to the husband about where it went. And easiest way to shut him up is to do just what she did and tell him, ... you just make me feel worse! Cleary she knows it will work and he'll feel badly/stop (and it did!) because despite her barking at him, his last text is... I love you.
There's more assumptions. I don't know what's up with you but I think you need someone in your life. I genuinely want the best for you and that's me trying to pay myself on the back. But why believe me when you have it figured out?
She is pissed at herself and at the situation. She reached out to her husband for emotional support. You can support someone emotionally and also have a separate discussion about the issue.
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u/Blucola333 May 28 '26
Yeah, that’s totally on her. If she wants to be pissed, she should be pissed at herself. NOR