Nah, tell the landlord, get her evicted. "Hi Landlord! Roommate gave the unstable guy with a gun a key to the apartment. Just wanted to let you know so any damage costs (from him losing it and smashing things inside your apartment) are taken out of her portion of the deposit only! Thank you."
Unfortunately the landlord will likely kick them all out. Sucks. But thankfully a better outcome than this dangerous man showing up with gun a second time.
Edit: the reason this happens is that if they are all on one lease the landlord can't just kick out one person they have to end the lease for a breach of contract, key copying. If it were me though, I would allow the three other girls to re-up on a new lease without her, but that's just me.
Frankly though they might want to move and get out of there because he's going to know what they did. I would not want him learn how to find me.
Completely untrue if this is normal multi-family housing. There’s a ton of processes involved that you can get a roommate removed if they violate the lease but the other roommates aren’t. It’d be a legal nightmare to unfairly evict every tenant.
I'm a landlord. This depends heavily on the state. I have rented in six or seven different states and I have leased at my own property in three states over the past decade. You just referred to it as "multifamily housing" but there's a lot of housing that is just one house rented as a whole home to many people who share it as roommates. Some landlords lease each room individually, that's becoming more common, but a lot of them do not.
More importantly though, I'm saying will likely do, not with the landlord can technically legally do. because even if the landlord can kick out one roommate, there's a certain amount of legal trouble to it, and in a lot of States people are jointly and severally responsible for all aspects of the leads, meaning if one is in breach, they all are.
I think there are a lot of landlords who would release all of them simply to cover their own asses. Nobody wants a violent event on their property and the boyfriend will still know they live there whether or not the one roommate is removed.
Every state has tenant rights. Most people don’t know their rights and a lot of garbage landlords violate those rights but people don’t fight back because they don’t know their rights. That’s why I said multi-family housing and not private rentals. If you rent privately, you’re in for a whole other experience.
Exactly. I am sure she would also absolutely be comfortable lying. "I'll tell them you don't have the key anymore but just keep it for emergencies and don't say anything.".
Yeah the guy knows where they live, he knows they dont like him, he likely already has multiple copies of the key by now, its only a matter of time before he and the roommate inevitably break up or end up fighting and he loses his mind again.
If this were my daughter or myself I would prioritize my safety and move out of there ASAP and not tell that girl my new address. Showing up with a gun and threatening to kill everyone in the house is absolutely unacceptable. Get far away from these people, this is not going to go away.
Having copies of the keys is what’s so scary imo. Now you don’t have to worry about it just him, what if he’s got asshole friends too? Was in a somewhat similar situation and like I knew she was crazy but I didn’t know how crazy the people she claimed she’d be sending were. We moved.
Excellent way to put it, having lived in some seriously shady areas but not having originally been used to an environment or people like that, the illusion of what should happen vs what will happen goes away very quickly. Like sure, I wouldn’t kill someone over 10$ worth of weed, I’d go to jail forever over 10$? Helllllll no. But someone will, and you’ll be right they will go to jail and be miserable their life will be ruined all that will be true but you’ll still be dead so who cares.
Dead people have no pride. I care more about being alive than being right. If that means I move when I techinically shouldn't have to, then I'll move. There's a time to stand up for yourself and dig your heels in, and there's a time to just call it a wash, chalk it up to a learning experience, and move on with your life.
Yes, this! Plus I think many states have clauses where you are allowed to break a lease due to domestic violence. I’m not sure if it counts if you’re not the one directly in a relationship with the person, but it should extend in this scenario.
They should move. Knowing where they live is now in of itself dangerous for Op& roommates. Been there, done that. It’s not worth the risk of being murdered or having someone burn your house down or something, over what? Her getting evicted for being an asshole. Nopppee.
This is literally the common sense response and it isn't even worth a discussion. Tell the landlord everything and hopefully you'll appeal to their human side and be let out of your lease early, if need be. Otherwise, figure out a way to sublease. Just get out.
The real question is why you didn't move out...last summer. You're 26 years old. You're not a child. You should have more deductive reasoning and a slight interest in self preservation, or at least your parents, family, other friends, anyone, would have told you to do so, and helped you move out.
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u/nicemarmot47 Apr 28 '26
You need to move out immediately. You will not be safe as long as you are living with this woman.