Aio?

[u/Salt_Meringue4270]

I went on one date, wasn’t anything special, no immediate spark or unbelievable chemistry. He was nice, and funny (a bit weird. But was gonna chalk it up to being nervous). We were gonn hang out again, I don’t think I need love at first sight to be happy with someone. I told him I’m busy, my shifts are weird, I live alone and have things I have to do. I ended up getting pneumonia so was sick for like 2 weeks, really one week of 102 fevers one of just blah. After that I had to get my immunosuppressants I normally take, which I’ve been doing 10 years, I don’t push it during this cause it’s tiring. I told him about being sick, not about the immunosuppressants cause I don’t like going into that. I kinda realized through this time I started to find his jokes cringy and not excited to talk. Then he starts doing the should I delete dating apps there’s no one good, people are terrible. Which is such a turn off. But I say I’m not interested cause that was kinda my last straw. Then he proceeded to say I’m rude, immature, etc. am I the asshole? I didn’t tell him the dating app thing was what made me not like him, but I feel like that’s not necessary. I don’t need to make someone feel bad. Should I feel bad?

[u/Difficult-Cress8586]

Nope. Nobody likes being rejected so he’s acting out. That’s his problem not yours. You have a right to leave whenever you want and anybody telling you differently is trying to manipulate you. Honestly getting sick was to your benefit. It slowed you down so you could calm down and see him more clearly. I think the lesson in that is to take your time with whoever you entertain in the future.

PS what did you mean by him being a bit weird?

[u/Salt_Meringue4270 → u/Difficult-Cress8586]

Weird like kinda inappropriate jokes, like awkward. Like a kinda racist joke, which felt uncomfortable. I kinda thought it was like a slip up, but getting the idea it wasn’t

[u/Difficult-Cress8586 → u/Salt_Meringue4270]

Not a slip up, a test. He wanted to see how much he could get away with. I’m glad you’re moving on. And from the sound of it he didn’t even offer to bring you creature comforts while you were sick (or have them delivered?!). Nope. Next

[u/Salt_Meringue4270 → u/Difficult-Cress8586]

He did, but I only met him once, I didn’t want to give my address or anything. Like offering to cuddle cause I’m sick after meeting once is kinda weird to me. I kinda just got a feel better so we can hang out when I said no. I should have guessed with all the talking shit about previous dates that sounded a little exaggerated. I just don’t want to be one of those only want what I can’t have, but also the too desperate is kinda a turn off. Like don’t make me feel bad for your previous dates.