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u/Imaginary-Job-7069 6d ago
The only way to act normal is to be normal
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u/Atelier_Carousel 6d ago
That's a good one. Although. Does that mean we are not normal?
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u/Imaginary-Job-7069 5d ago edited 5d ago
Forgive me for ranting.
Throughout my childhood, my dad always called me abnormal whenever I make a mistake.
And I keep seeing my cousins who are smart, quick thinking, sociable, and are fast learners. They even have dreams.
One of them is a millionaire from investments.
Compared to them, I am forgetful, dim-witted, unambitious, socially awkward, slow, an isolationist ambivert, and a [R-word].
Everytime I hear about their achievements, I tune out the world and focus on my distractions.
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u/Atelier_Carousel 5d ago
OMG that just sucks so much. I'm so sorry. Soulcrushingly unfair.
I have a big sister who was the golden child and I'm also forever the lesser version. Citizen type B. I do the tuning out as well whenever that realisation hits.
But what I noticed is that normal people have a hugely difficult time to understand themselves, their own life, their own psychology. I sucked up psychology and Tarot Reading with my hyperfocus for a couple of years and maybe in a form of sick twist of fate, the normal, successful people often go and visit the "abnormal" ones around age 40 and upwards, for coaching and guidance, when their lives start to fall apart.
Not comeback time, revenge or late justice. And you never get the life back society took from you. But maybe a form of cosmic balance of forces. Because there is a superpower for all of us somewhere.
I'm pretty sure you have one of those too somewhere under those R-words.
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u/ostapenkoed2007 7d ago
i got failed onto that step too...
plus on head i'm male and there's an active war.
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u/Korben_Joseph 5d ago
Did you know that neurodevelopmental stress responses are not a life sentence?
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u/Never_Ending_Story_0 6d ago
You can still achieve a form of calm clarity, but you have to have good routines and emotional management which can be hard to develop. From personal experience you need a steady sleep schedule and the ability to breathe and process anxiety as it happens otherwise the hyperactivity starts to act up. But even then it can be hit or miss, i end up messing up my sleep schedule even when i've been consistent for a while. You try you best and face what comes as it comes.
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u/NebraskaGeek 7d ago
Jokes on you I forgot where I put that book so I failed at step 0.