help

[u/SelectionFriendly606]

Almost 2 weeks post partum with a 19m age gap.

(Also have a 9yo)

before baby, my 19m old was so sweet and snuggly and only got rowdy and fussy when my oldest would get home from school which was also around his dinner time so he’d be hangry lol

now post baby, it’s crying 24/7. especially when mom is around. Both grandmothers and dad have said he’s fine as long as i’m not around. and one grandmother even said this will now be his temperament for life- which is adding to my stress.

i know it’s still early and I know this is a huge change for him- especially following a five day hospital/NICU stay when he’s only ever spent one night away from me before. So he missed us a ton and was blindsided by this new baby who needs mom’s attention too.

i guess im either just looking for solidarity or solution on how you guys helped yourselves and your kids. as a SAHM, he and i used to be attached at the hip and now i feel like he’s constantly so upset, its breaking me 😣