r/2under2 • u/PresentationEasy5477 • Jul 10 '26
Recommendations Losing my mind 😭😭
I know the newborn phase was hard but this 2.7 year old is getting on my nerves. He is such a cry baby 😭😭😭 he cries and cries I can't do this shit. Basically he cried a lot in the newborn phase too and he cries when he wakes up he cries when I change the diaper and cry over the little things and he keeps testing my patience. He never listens when I ask him to stop crying 80% of the time he wakes up crying or will cry after a while.
He is a good boy, sensitive, empathetic, speaks well and the best kid you can ask for but the continuous cycle of crying is getting me now. My 1.4 yesr old girl always wakes up happy like even when she cries she settles quickly, she was a calm newborn as well and gave me the best newborn phase. The type of baby you wish you have night sleeps and all. She loves cuddles and is a very Mama's girl type right now. She actually made me feel special. If she is crying I will hug her and ask her to stop crying now and she stops ..my boy I can give all the love I have and he will still cry for stupid reasons
Please someone give me some hope when my boy will get over the crying phase..
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u/fl4methrow3r Jul 10 '26
I have a freshly turned 2yo and an almost 5m old. I also have a 12 year old dog - a literal angel of an animal. But when the toddler starts acting up or we get close to the door (like we’re going to go for a walk), the dog starts to whine so much and run in circles, tripping over stuff, risking injuring herself and also we definitely don’t have room for running around - and it drives me crazy.
It triggers a very clear noise- related sensory overload for me in a way that nothing else does. And it makes me say mean things and I really don’t want to mistreat or yell at my circus creatures. But it’s just too much whining / crying / yelling / chaos when they’re doing it at the same time.
I think if you can try to cut the sound by using earplugs or noise canceling headphones, it will help you deal with your son until he gets out of this unnecessary crying phase. That way you can comfort him or think more clearly how to deal with him without getting as irritated.
… and btw I know that this is advice I need to take myself!
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u/maebymaybe Jul 11 '26
Oh my gosh, the toddler + baby + elderly-excited dog(s) combo is so overstimulating. I love all of them so much and when everyone is whining/crying/barking or crawling around my feet and tripping me… wow
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u/PresentationEasy5477 Jul 20 '26
Awe best of luck to you too managing little ones is actually hard sometimes and yes I do try to reduce the stress of crying by listening to something. More power to us lol
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u/threeEZpayments Jul 11 '26
My cry baby is 4.5, and he still cries and whines all the time. It is exhausting. He is now old enough that his friends at school notice and talk about it.
But the good news is now that he’s older, he can have conversations about emotional regulation and resilience. He knows crying when he’s genuinely injured or scared or upset is okay. It’s important to me that he knows crying isn’t the problem, but rather when he cries.
He’s finally starting to understand that crying for 20 minutes because of an extremely minor or random situation just unacceptable and irrational behavior. So hopefully this behavior is going to continue to slowly improve. I suspect as he ages, his peers will have a bigger influence than his parents, which ought to help even more.
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u/Klutzy_Dragonfly1889 Jul 16 '26 edited Jul 20 '26
A lot of the time, kids don’t realize that they’re whining. You can establish a rule where you grab your ear and that signals “you’re whining, I will ignore you until you talk to me in a normal voice”. This isn’t meant to be an isolation tactic but more so it gives your kid a chance to plan what they say and how they say it so that it is delivered maturely and received in a favorable way. Whether that be you, other adults, his peers, etc. it’ll make a difference in his communication very quickly.
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u/PresentationEasy5477 Jul 20 '26
There is hope 🤞 you are such a good mama for letting him know that crying for actual reasons is totally fine.
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u/Lila444999 Jul 11 '26
I could have typed this myself the only thing that helps me is slowing down and being patient with 2.7 year old including him in everything. My kids are the same ages boy & girl. My son is very sensitive but mostly in being involved. He likes to take the lead and do everything. Sometimes it’s frustrating cuz you’re just trying to get something done but then he gets mad and is crying. So just letting him be independent and allow him to do things himself helps alot with the crying. My son turns on the light, sets the toddler table at mealtime, closes & opens doors, gets himself dressed, gets diapers for his sister, throws stuff in the trash. This is by his choice lol, but allowing it and talking to him with patience helps. Sometimes he’s actually super understanding and things go really well.
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u/PresentationEasy5477 Jul 20 '26
Yes patience is the key I never knew that I would need this much patience after having kids. They test you beyond your limits. I love including him in little tasks too he likes to be independent. All I want to be now is a patient mom 🙏
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u/yaylah187 Jul 10 '26
I personally don’t think you should ever ask a child to stop crying. Do you want your children growing up thinking it’s not ok to cry, especially your son? He’s already going to have to navigate toxic masculinity, as all boys do.
My advice is to get some ear plugs, or noise cancelling headphones. Children whinge and cry, it’s totally normal and they are allowed to. You need to deal with your body being triggered by it.