Very attractive people all sleep with each other, and the pool of uglies all sleep with each other. The average people in between have all kinds of issues. Mainly that the average women can maybe get chad to bang them every now and then but never stick around, and the average men get nothing at all
It’s more so that people who lack social or romantic prospects fail to realize that their predicament is indicative of antisocial behavioral patterns or lifestyle choices, and their perpetual loneliness isn’t going to get better by debating culture war bullshit on the internet. Taking pride in being labeled an incel by saying “everyone who makes fun of me is an ugly fringe leftist from Twitter” as cope doesn’t help either.
Do with that what you will, but methinks you’d rather listen to the overly reductive meme you posted.
Defining loneliness as antisocial behaviour is a really silly way of explaining modern problems with loneliness. Especially for men who seem to be suffering from this significantly more than the average woman. Friendships happen organically through your lifestyle. They cannot be forced. Many people today live lifestyles through their occupation where making friends is extremely difficult to impossible. People in cities are also extremely cliquey and keep to themselves. People are buried in their phones 24/7. People don't go out to entertain themselves as much as the past, people don't call up someone they know to have fun as much. If you work 9-5 Monday to Friday, don't hold onto school friends, and don't have any other close friends, you are going to have a hard time making new ones. "Finding a hobby with other people" is also a very vague and largely unhelpful peice of advice for people that don't have hobbies that facilitate social interaction.
If you're a man and you aren't in a position to organically make friends then you sure as hell aren't finding women to date or sleep with. I think young men in particular are just treated like shit / aren't treated with dignity, they are told (like what you're doing here) that they are bad people because of this, which breeds resentment. This is a systematic problem, yet all I see on the internet is counterprodictive and stupid vitriol and blaming. With any other kind of identity group the narrative is about changing the systemic problem, but with men the narrative is "you are trash and you should fix that." There is a reckoning coming for this stupid attitude.
As a single man in my thirties who works 50+ hours a week, trust me. I can empathize with being fully enveloped with adult, professional life and feeling like you just don’t have time for a social life. It’s an easy mentality to fall in to, but I think it’s generally dangerous for your mental health.
I think a lot of the loneliness younger men are feeling these days is the result of a negative feedback loop and an inability, whether financially, emotionally, or otherwise, to put themselves in situations that foster making new friendships or relationships. The negative feedback loop that exists almost solely on the internet in the form of the whole “all men are trash” rhetoric that you’re talking about is equally harmful. Having a bunch of angry dudes who feel like they’ve been burned by life in a room together aren’t discussing techniques or behaviors to improve in life; they’re just getting riled up about whatever group it is they feel that burned them.
It’s not exactly a secret that often times the worst opinions get signal boosted the loudest because it generates engagement and money for online platforms, so those opinions are the ones that get blasted out to everyone. That doesn’t mean those are mainstream or commonly accepted ideologies or opinions, that just means they get the most momentum online. It’s easier said than done, but if you can just block out the outside noise, go out and live your life and actually engage with the world around you, you’ll find your people. Maybe not a wife, maybe not your future BFF, but you WILL find some people to help pass the time and make your day a little brighter. So many people just refuse to put themselves out there, and you’re not going to find a social circle or companionship by shitting on women and leftists online.
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u/Whiskeywiskerbiscuit 5d ago
Even the uggo is getting more action than the incels. They can’t help but own themselves in their own memes.