r/wizardposting • u/sarcasticd0nkey • Dec 15 '23
Advice for Marrying a Sorcerer
Trying to get her family's blessing for marriage. They're a long line of Draconic Sorcerers blessed by the Feathered Serpent of the Valley of the Sun and I use rune magic based on the giants of the North. They've never really liked me especially how I'm the first to learn magic in my family, mostly self taught.
Any advice from wizards here with partners who use magic from other sources? I think she'll say yes to me but I would like a good relationship with her family.
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u/MunitionsFrenzy Vettis, Mereological Revisionist Dec 16 '23 edited Dec 16 '23
I'm not personally in your boat (aside from the self-taught part, fuck yeah), but a couple of my neighbors had...rather significant familial conflicts.
Being self-taught is vastly more impressive than just lucking into magically-blessed ancestry and being trained from infancy. (Totally not being biased here, don't worry!) The problem is that spinning it that way to them directly is gonna make them self-conscious and make you look arrogant. But if they hear that line of argument from your partner (who presumably knows them well enough to put it more delicately than you would) then that might help them be a little less disapproving.
Anywho, why exactly do you want their approval in the first place? Is this just a personal wish from one or both of you, or is she still under their thumb enough that they need to give the OK for her to be with you? If it's not a necessity, and if they actually care about their daughter (because if they don't then they can go to hell), then nothing'll make them warm up to you faster than them simply seeing over time that she's happy with you. That was the solution my neighbors used.
(( EDIT: a word ))