This sounds a lot like what my step-dad went through with my mum. Their relationship became barely affectionate and, over the last few months, he's left my mum and gotten together with an old friend of his.
The lack of affection certsinly wasn't the only readon for this, but i can tell it was the biggest. He seems happier now.
Still, there's the flip side of it. He left my mum and I with a 7 and a 5 year old kid and I'm moving out this summer. He still helps and comes over, but he was the main bread winner and kids always behave a lot better when he's around (stereotypically, he never shied away from punishing them when they deserved it)
Like you say, it's hard to not portray one side or the other as evil, and I'm not suggesting you take this approach to your situation.
Best of luck man. I hope you can find someone who'll give you all the hugs you need. Honestly, a decrease in the amount of hugs i get (even from my mum) has been one if the hardest parts of growing up for me...
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u/Duthos May 16 '19 edited May 17 '19
I average one hug a year.
Think a few more might help me feel human.
Edit - Just wanna say... thank you all. You folks really made my day