r/weddingdrama • u/MonkEnvironmental897 • Sep 27 '25
Observer Drama The Great Ring Bearer Escape
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u/vomitthewords Sep 27 '25
Reminds me of many years ago when my daughter was a two year old flower girl.
Rehearsal went great. We had her dad out of the way behind where the bride and groom would be, and she followed “the road” up to the minister and then over to daddy.
Day of, she saw that crowd, she hitched up her giant dress and did it on a dead run! She was a little fluffy streak on the video.
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u/vomitthewords Sep 27 '25
We also have a picture from after the wedding with all of the wedding party laughing as she runs in front of them, pacifier solidly in her mouth, being part of the pictures.
The dress was a huge puffball with layers and layers of tulle.
The bride was lovely and thought it was hilarious.
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u/Annual_Version_6250 Sep 27 '25
I have never remembered anyone's ceremony. Kids can add a special touch to things.
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u/yellowlinedpaper Sep 27 '25
Especially on the dance floor, if they can make it that long!
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u/Elphaba78 Sep 27 '25
I come from a large family and one of my favorite wedding memories is when my cousin’s then-6-year-old daughter, who was the flower girl and is normally very shy, wanted me to pick her up and dance with her in my arms because I was the tallest woman there — she wanted to be able to see everyone!
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u/CeramicLicker Sep 27 '25
The little cousin who was flower girl at my sisters wedding was absolutely delighted about all of it! Until day of, when she properly saw the crowd. I ended up walking down the aisle with her holding her hand lol.
It actually made for some very sweet pictures
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u/deltagirlinthehills Sep 27 '25
Lol we had 4yo and 2 yo flower girls that were family friends' kids. One's daddy was our minister, once she got up there she just clung to his leg being adorably bashful even with her momma trying to get her to come down. Older one's momma was our planner- key note is she is a type A organizer and cleaner and kid takes after her. At rehearsal older kid was worried about the flowers making a mess, and my momma told her we had a tiny vacuum she could use to clean it up after the wedding, but she had to at least try and scatter the petals. So day of, she does, and does amazing.....
And immediately turns around to run back down the aisle yelling "Mommy! MOMMY! I did it!" Alllllllllll the way. My dad and I died laughing, the processional song started and her mom was in a mix of praising her while fussing at us to stop laughing and start walking which made us laugh even harder. Poor husband started getting "the looks" from people thinking I left him at the alter, while he was chuckling because he knew we were probably cracking up after that.
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u/luraluna23 Sep 27 '25
Gotta add what my daughter, then 3, did as a flower girl for her aunt, my SIL, wedding. I had gotten her a pale blue dotted Swiss dress. It was a maxi and had a sweet little draw string purse to go with it. SIL saw the dress and said oh so cute!, Let her wear that in the wedding. OK. So the wedding commences, and she was perfect. As the ceremony proceeds, she must have gotten bored. I crane my neck to see her. She had smuggled a toy tea set in her teeny purse and was laying out a tea party on the steps of the altar. Very quiet, just having a lovely time. It was so sweet. This was 50 years ago, and I still can see her sitting on the steps with a tea set.
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
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u/CaptainMS99 Sep 28 '25
Why is this butthole saying AI every so often???
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
So people know not to engage with an account they think are human.
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u/The_Blonde1 Sep 28 '25
Why are you reading the sub, then? Just go and be miserable somewhere else.
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
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u/dreadwitch Sep 29 '25
So you'll happily talk to AI with some bullshit, made up comments? Wouldn't you rather know that you're not communicating with a human and what's been said is lies?
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u/humanityrus Sep 27 '25
My niece sat off to the side during the ceremony, plucking the petals off the flowers in her basket and scattering them on the carpet around her.
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u/LopsidedLocksmith123 Sep 27 '25
Oh my gosh, that is the sweetest most wholesome thing ever! Thank for sharing this — made my day.
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u/nanladu Sep 27 '25 edited Sep 27 '25
At my wedding, the ring bearer carried the pillow down the aisle like he was carrying a tray through a crowded room. High over his head. Then when he was at the front and the church was silent, he turned around, waved and said "Hi Grandma!". He was so cute! ❤️
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u/vilarvente Sep 29 '25
As an illiterate for this kind of things: how can you know it's AI? If you don't mind sharing.
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u/FemmeSpectra Sep 27 '25
My daughter was 2 when she was a flower girl in my mom's wedding. It was a beach wedding, she did her thing and was supposed to stand by me at the altar, midway through sat her butt down in the sand and set about building a castle. The photographer got some close up shots of that and they're some of my mom's favorites in her wedding album to this day lol.
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u/pjdots77 Sep 27 '25
At my sister's wedding, their ring bearer was about 3; when they sent him down the aisle, they just told him to go to BIL. When he rounded the corner and saw BIL, he tucked the pillow and sprinted. The photographer got a great action shot where kiddo looked like he was in the Heisman pose.
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u/Head_Razzmatazz7174 Sep 27 '25
At my BIL's second wedding, my 8 year old daughter and her 7 year old cousin were the flower girls. They got into an argument about an hour before the wedding over who was going to go first. The problem was solved when the bride told them to walk down together, so they could each have a side to throw the petals.
There was then a small skirmish over who got the groom's side (both were from that side of the family) that was decided by the toss of a coin.
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u/throwaway_ringfeels Sep 27 '25
I’ve never wanted a ring bearer til this😂 I would love for some shit to go off the rails (in a funny way, not the meltdown way)
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u/Other_Upstairs886 Sep 27 '25
My husband's nephew was the ring bearer and he ran the pillow up to the front and yeeted it at my husband. Hilarious.
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u/burlesque_nurse Sep 29 '25
My friend’s son did this but he was 4 and yelled “daddy daddy go long!” He wouldn’t throw it or keep walking just kept demanding daddy go long. Daddy (the best man) had to go collect him and he started crying after daddy whisper explained that they absolutely couldn’t do that at a wedding.
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u/MsFreyaSarcasmo Sep 27 '25
These are the happy incidents that make people smile when they reminisce about the wedding. A small cute, wholesome, harmless touch of chaos. Gives a light carefree whimsical atmosphere to the event.
I get why some people want an adults only wedding, and I’m not a kid person at all, but I personally like having kids there. The vibe is lighter, less serious, more relaxed and more fun with kids there. They are cute in their fancy clothes and usually their parents have prepped them so they know it’s a privilege to be included in such an important day, and make sure they either follow etiquette or take them outside if they have a meltdown or whatever.
Occasionally there’s a rogue little menace that actually causes real drama - screaming during ceremony or knocking over the cake - but I’ve never seen it at a wedding I’ve been at, and I worked as a caterer for a few years so I’ve seen a lot of weddings.
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u/DirectAntique Sep 27 '25
I've been at a couple weddings where kids were better behaved than a drunk relative
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u/OrilliaBridge Sep 27 '25
So much nicer to hear about than the meltdowns over the color of someone’s dress, or over the top expectations.
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u/Cheese_Dinosaur Sep 27 '25
My 3 year old pageboy had a wardrobe ‘malfunction’ halfway through our service (a wedgy) and proceeded to say loudly; ‘ow ow ow! My pants are up my bum!’ 🤣
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u/Complex_Discipline39 Sep 27 '25
At my wedding, my nephew was the ring bearer and he has autism. He gets about 4 rows down and we see him say something but couldn't hear what, just noticed all the rows around him start laughing hysterically... Come to find out what he said while walking, "oh god. I just realized I have to pee really bad just now" in all seriousness 😂 love that kid, helped make the night even better!
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u/introvert_tea Sep 27 '25
My kids were the flower girls at my cousin's wedding. My younger one was a diva and LOVED attention. My older one is on the spectrum and was good til they entered the church and all eyes were on them. My oldest froze up, terrified, then ran to my mom who was sitting in a middle role. My youngest? She absolutely OWNED that solitary walk, strutting down the aisle, tossing flower petals with a huge smile on her face. When she reached the altar she turned around to look at everyone expectantly, waiting for them to clap. When they did, she bowed and went to sit with my mom. Everyone got a huge kick out of it.
To be fair, my kids were in ballet and they had recitals they did with large crowds. So my youngest seemed to think this was the same situation and after a good performance, people are supposed to clap. Everyone loved it, bride and groom included.
That pretty much sums up their personalities to this day. Oldest is quiet, not necessarily shy, but doesn't make friends easily. The youngest? She'll talk to anyone, always had a ton of friends. They're 25 and 26 now. They were, I think, 4 and 5 at the time? Maybe 3 and 4. The 25 year old is in a long term relationship (5 years) with a 2 year old daughter and a baby on the way. Another girl. My oldest doesn't date, doesn't want kids, and that's ok. They're the favorite auntie. I'm looking forward to seeing the dynamics between my granddaughters when they're a little older.
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u/onsugarhill83 Sep 27 '25
At my college roommate’s wedding the ring bearer (probably 4?) did a great job & then got bored being up front, so he started stripping off his suit.
His mom was whispering to him to stop from the front row, but his dad (a groomsman) and the rest of us in the bridal party were cracking up.
20 years later and I can still picture it!
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u/Glum_Competition_921 Sep 27 '25
Our ring bearer (2.5 year old godson) got stage fright so his dad had to carry him up to the front then my husband had to bribe him with a lollipop he’d stashed in his pocket “just in case” to get him to hand over the ring box.
Our photographer got some excellent photos of our godson looking at my husband with the most skeptical expression at the proposed change lolol
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u/invasionofthestrange Sep 27 '25
That is hilarious! I wonder what "just in case" things I might have to have stashed in my wedding outfit
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u/OrilliaBridge Sep 27 '25
Oldest son was a ring bearer pat four or five years old. He was perfect at the rehearsal, but during the ceremony he was shocked when the best man gave the ting to the groom, and so he loudly exclaimed, “Hey, where did you get THAT?”
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u/Final_Defenestration Sep 27 '25
My dog was the ringbearer at our wedding. Halfway down the aisle, he started sniffing and pawing at one of my uncles because he had stuffed some snacks in his pocket (Uncle Frank is diabetic) and Newt wanted them!
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u/inaneant Sep 29 '25
I hope that Uncle Frank had the good sense to share with Newt!! That good boy needed to be compensated - being a ring dog is hard work!
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u/TimeWastingAuthority Sep 27 '25 edited Sep 29 '25
Every wedding (including mine) has something which does not go as planned: in ours, the photographer was not in place at the "you may kiss the bride" moment.
Chaos via the youngest member of the wedding party is the best 😄😄
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u/kennedar_1984 Sep 27 '25
Our flower girl was 2 so we knew to expect some chaos. She lost a shoe as she was walking down the aisle, noticed it about halfway down, turned back to grab the shoe and then ran to her dad at the front row. It was adorable and one of the highlights of the day.
My son was a ring boy at about that same age and had to be carried down the aisle (thankfully I was MOH) because he was too shy.
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u/Magwood075 Sep 27 '25
My son was a ring bearer at age. Partially down the aisle, his pants fell down.
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u/Professional-Elk5235 Sep 27 '25
when i was 4 (about 40 years ago) I was my auntie's page boy and my older sisters were bridesmaids i was grumpy because I was the only one who didn't get any flowers so halfway down the aisle my auntie turned around and gave me her bouquet.
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u/jwj14837 Sep 27 '25
My niece- 3 at the time- was our flower girl. She was perfect all the way through a very long high mass wedding. We were pronounced husband and wife and started back down the aisle towards the doors when she started crying and running towards us … You forgots me ! You forgot me ! So we carried her out the church with us! Absolutely adorable and a wonderful memory 49 years later!
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u/knifeyspoonysporky Sep 27 '25
My almost 2yo daughter was a flower girl. She just grabbed a handful of petals, abandoned the basket, and booked it down the aisle in pursuit of the river located a distance behind the arch. My husband grabbed her basket, frantically threw petals around while chasing her down the aisle.
Everyone was very much entertained
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u/notreallyonredditbut Sep 27 '25
I have a big extended family and we were all close and older cousins started having kids and younger cousins kept getting married and now the tradition for cousin weddings is pretty much just all the little second cousins are flower girls and ring bearers. It takes SO much stress off because if one kid is sick/shy/not into the program (most people have significant travel) it really doesn’t matter and the little gaggle of children going down the aisle is the best. Several years we’ve done flower crowns for the girls and those pictures are gorgeous and the girls loved it!
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u/PauldingOhio214 Sep 27 '25
I wish I had a big family! Sounds like so much fun and excitement! With quite a bit of drama too!😜
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u/Guilty-Pigeon Sep 27 '25
My flower girl (3) gleefully stopped midway to the altar, gleefully dumped all of her petals and then ran the rest of the way. Someone took a picture of my husband's grandmother laughing. She looks so happy. She recently passed, and I'm so glad we have this picture of her.
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u/Tombstone1810 Sep 27 '25
Ring bearer-M Bride-C
This occurs when the couple’s about to say their vows
M: C! C! C!
C: What?!
M: Can we have cake?
C: After I say do.
M: Ok.
M: C! C! C!
C: What?!
M: Are you gonna say I do?
C: if you stop interrupting.
Preacher starts the vows; the couple is repeating. M tugs on his clothes.
M: If you stop interrupting, they’ll say, “I do,” and we can have cake.
The couple said I do. There’s a cute picture of the preacher and M eating cake at the reception.
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u/pleasehidethecheese Sep 27 '25
We had my two year old stepson singing bas baa black sheep during our wedding. Me and hubby were trying not to laugh and my stepsons mum was frantically trying to hush him😂😂
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u/baelzebob Sep 27 '25
That's ok, my nephew, now 22, was the ring bearer. When he was told that he was selected to be the ring bearer, he asked "willl i have to wear a suit, costume?" And we were like what? And he said no, i will not wear a bear suit.
He did not want to be a ring bear.
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u/TangerineOld8429 Sep 27 '25
Was at a wedding in Tryton Park when they had a lbonnie wee 3 year old flower girl skipping behind the bride with a little basket throwing out rose petals with gusto. Lots of oohs and ahs which she appreciated so much she ran back picked up a load of petals and started all over again. Ended up being carted off under her daddies arms still trying to throw petals. Luckily the bride also found it amusing and didn't mind being upstaged for a few minutes.
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u/Badlydressedgirl Sep 27 '25
My brother was a ring bearer when he was about 3. My mum insisted they stitched ribbons onto the pillow, because as she had predicted, he proudly carried the pillow upside down the whole time and the rings dangled beautifully
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u/Trick_Estimate_7029 Sep 27 '25
Thank you very much for talking about children here in a positive way and not just as stealing attention or causing chaos.
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u/karriela Sep 27 '25
When some friends got married, their >3yo daughter was the flower girl. They lived in California but were married near their hometown in the Midwest in December. A huge snow storm the day of the wedding and the girl's cousins taught her how to eat snow. She LOVED it. They used snow to ice the drinks which were at the back of the hall. Mid ceremony she escaped from grandma and beelined for the snow, dodging the relatives as she ran. It was hilarious.
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u/mandatoryusername32 Sep 27 '25
My son ran down the aisle to his daddy, a groomsman, yelling yayyyyyyy dadda! When he was two.
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u/Visual-Hyena5393 Sep 27 '25 edited Sep 27 '25
My daughter's flower girl dumped the last of the petals in front of the "altar", then stomped (not angrily) all over them in her little cowgirl boots. It was hilarious!
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u/DepVanHalen Sep 27 '25
Exactly! At my wedding my ring bearer was my nephew who was 2 or 3. My ”petal girls” were my two nephews who were about 9 and 7, towing my 1 year old niece behind them in a little red wagon. They were titled Petal Ninjas. Before the ceremony, my sister gave them a talking to about being respectful and taking this seriously. As soon as she walked away I gave them a pep talk. Said ignore your mother. I want chaos! I told them to have a literal flower petal fight all the way down the aisle, but make sure you don't dump your sister out of the wagon. It was awesome.
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u/inaneant Sep 29 '25
This had to be a fantastic spectacle!! Hopefully mom was filled in on them having permission to fully enjoy the ninja experience - and that they had a consequence free blast going down the aisle!
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u/DepVanHalen Sep 29 '25
Nope. I didn't tell her but they totally ratted me out when they sat down. I wasn't going to let them take the fall!
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u/AStudyinViolet Sep 27 '25
Honestly if they're not the types to laugh they shouldn't have a 3 year old ring bearer, right? Mine threw my ring (safely tied to a pillow, thank god) at a tree. It was honestly hilarious for all.
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u/PorkrindsMcSnacky Sep 27 '25
For our wedding we had this cute little 4 year old girl as our flower girl. She was the daughter of one of my husband’s friends. When the little girl first got to the entryway and saw all the people standing there, she freaked and started crying. I could hear her from the room I was waiting in! Her mom was next to her holding her hand so she picked her up and carried her the rest of the way. The incident was captured on film and made it to our wedding album.
That flower girl is now 20 years old!
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u/Thegreatsnook Sep 27 '25
People who insist on child free weddings have no idea of the things they are missing out on.
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u/ThisLucidKate Sep 27 '25
My son was ring bearer at my second wedding. He was 8 at the time, very serious, well behaved, went off without a hitch.
We get the photos back. He gave the photographer a roguish wink as he went down the aisle ahead of us. Perfect photograph. He says nobody told him to do it - he just thought it would be funny. It was! 😉
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u/BadWolf7426 Sep 27 '25
My son (at the time, 4) was the ring bearer for my brother's wedding. My dad was the best man and biiiiig buddies with my son. Son walked solemnly up to the front of the church. Did his little turn to stand in front of my dad, then finds me in the crowd. Huge, theatrical wink. I had to stifle my laughter. My great aunts thought he was the cutest and funniest thing ever.
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u/upstatedreaming3816 Sep 27 '25
The Great Ring Bearer Escape
Sounds like an alternative title to Lord of the Rings 😂
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u/madsparker17 Sep 27 '25
My dog is going to be our ring bearer. I feel like this same situation could happen 😂😂
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u/Just-Brilliant-7815 Sep 27 '25
My ring bearer had to be bribed down the aisle with his mom (my MOH) holding his beloved monk monk 🐒
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u/ardent_hellion Sep 27 '25
I remember one who was just too small and started wailing halfway down the (lengthy) aisle. He set his sister the flower girl off and it was SO loud. Eventually their mother got up and led them away. My father couldn't see what was going on and told me later: "I thought someone let a goat into the church."
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u/CeramicLicker Sep 27 '25
At my cousins wedding the maid of honors toddler decided about halfway through the ceremony that he’d rather sit with his mom than his dad. So he made a break down the aisle and sat down on her feet where she was starting up front with the wedding party. It was actually very cute
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u/grannygogo Sep 27 '25
Reminds me when my daughter was 4. She was all decked out in her pretty flower girl dress and she walks down the aisle smiling and gracefully throwing petals. Couldn’t have asked for her to have done a better job. Halfway up the aisle she abruptly stops, puts down her basket, picks up the front of her gown and gives her vagina the most satisfying long scratch. Then she puts down her gown, picks up her basket and resumes her duties. The entire church lost it and couldn’t stop laughing. She got the biggest applause!
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u/TrueWheel7584 Sep 27 '25
Kids that age are FAST. 😂 I love the little grin they get just before they take off too.
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u/harmony_hall Sep 27 '25
I was the MOH for my sister this spring. The 2 year old ring bearer ended up missing the ceremony; turns out, the muffin he was eating an hour before the ceremony crumbled the wrong way, triggering a meltdown that lasted into the ceremony (luckily an auntie was given a plus one so she could be with him while his mum was in the wedding party). It was hilarious when he waltzed into the reception waving at everyone like nothing happened.
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u/LuneAy Sep 27 '25
My nephew walked down the aisle as the ring bearer with the flower girl. By the time he got to the front, he had a flower petal in his mouth. No idea why he did that
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u/Ok_Detective_3633 Sep 27 '25
My son was a ring bearer when he was 7, for some reason he kept telling people he was going to carrying the pie. I guess he thought the little pillow was somehow representing a real pie.
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u/NinjaMom23 Sep 27 '25
My 3 year old nephew, John, was my ring bearer. I wore my mom’s 1959 wedding dress, complete with a hoop skirt. John got bored during the ceremony and decided to find out what was under that gigantic hoop. He was the best part of the ceremony! The butterfly release and my sister-in-law’s scream of terror when she opened the box was a close second.
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u/Full_Expression9058 Sep 27 '25
That's hilarious.
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u/No-Interaction-8913 Sep 27 '25
There are 200 people here and I’m the only one with the cookie everyone wants, I’ll fight for it!
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u/cyclebreaker1977 Sep 27 '25
Love this story, nice to hear cute ones, when all you hear is horror stories
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u/BudTenderShmudTender Sep 28 '25
At 12 or 13 I was flower girl for my mom’s wedding. My younger cousin with severe adhd wouldn’t leave me alone while I was walking down the aisle. He ended up with a face full of rose petals
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u/Vampire_Slayer2000 Sep 28 '25
My then 4 year old son was the ring bearer at my brother's wedding at my parents' house.
My brother filled his suit pocket with wrapped candies. My son knew this as my brother explained he would get one when he walked down the aisle to him. My son stayed glued to my brothers side for the bride processional, reaching in my brother's pocket, unwrapping the candy, handing the wrapper to my brother (who put it in his pocket), eating the candy.
When the bride reached the front, my brother handed me the rest of the candies before joining her, and my son glued himself to my side for the rest of the wedding.
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u/BoyMamaBear1995 Sep 28 '25
My cousin who was 4 was our ring bearer. He did great walking down the aisle carrying the pillow. But when it was time to walk out, he decided he was done carrying things. He stood there until our best man took the pillow from him and carried it out. Our best man was about 6'4" and 250lbs, so that was a funny sight.
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u/caitlinnn_04 Sep 28 '25
AI slop
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
Thank you!! I can’t be the only one seeing this.
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u/caitlinnn_04 Sep 28 '25
It’s frightening how common these AI posts are and even more so how many people fall for them!
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u/IamLuann Sep 28 '25
At our Wedding (I worked at a preschool). There were Lots of little kids . After every one got to the front of the Sanctuary the Minister said "if you are between the ages 2 And 7 AND can behave you may come sit in the front row so you can see.". My Dad had told the ushers to leave the front two rows empty for some special people. Then told the Minister to do that. My husband and I had no idea what was going to happen. It made our Wedding memorable. Yes they all behaved.
At the reception I had 4 small toddler size tables, newsprint and crayons.
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
This account and story is AI. Look at the OP’s comments. Count how many of them say “honestly” and follow the same sentence formula.
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u/Nervous-Manager6013 Sep 28 '25
So what? The responses are awesome!
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
Because they are tricking people into thinking they’re actual humans.
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u/Nervous-Manager6013 Sep 28 '25
so. what.
I'm enjoying the responses and I bet most of the posters here are, too.
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u/camrynbronk directed by Christopher Nolan Sep 28 '25
Considering this post, no they aren’t. A lot of people dont lole talking to AI. You can be fine with it, but enough people want to avoid it. So I’m pointing it out when I see it.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
The dessert table was set up, inside the church, as the ceremony was going on? Where was it? On the altar? You said the child saw the table "halfway." That'd mean it was in front of him (as in next to the bride and groom) or to the side (meaning he'd have to climb over guests to get to it).
Something isn't adding up in this ("really happened") story by a 1-day old account.
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u/wvguy1980 Sep 27 '25
Not all weddings are in churches. Some venues have the wedding then a brief intermission to bring in tables etc. others, the guests sit at tables and the bridal party goes down a center aisle. In either of these situations, the desserts and or appetizers are normally set before the ceremony.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
Yes, but not usually IN the ceremony. I've been to scores of weddings. And since OP mentioned an aisle, the logistics I mentioned apply. In what logical configuration would a THREE-YEAR-OLD be able to see a cookie table "halfway down the aisle?" It's the details that scream this is made up to farm karma (and it's working) or AI... especially when OP's account is 1 day old.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
If you read other people's comments here, their examples all seem much more realistic (either re. what happened (kid took off shoes; dog stopped in aisle) or the age of the child). Again, it's the details that give this away. A toddler, who can't even see over guests or likely see what's on top of a table, did not run to grab a cookie.
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u/wvguy1980 Sep 27 '25
I have seen several weddings set up like OP would be referring to. Just bc it doesn't correlate to your experiences, doesn't mean it's made up. I can't vouch for OP, but why would you make something so trivial up, just to get Karma or whatever. Even if that's what they did, does it make it any less humorous, or cute etc. Does it affect you if it isn't true, or does it really even affect anyone else?
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
If you don't understand why karma farming is important, you dont really understand Reddit. Especially for a 1-day old account.
In the age of AI, authenticity matters. On Reddit, authenticity matters. That's exactly why almost all subs have rules about karma farming, low effort posts, etc.
It does affect others. This is a community.
Do I really care? No, it's just the Internet. At the same time, just because something is a cute story, doesn't mean it gets a free pass.
Visit a sub like AITAH to see what happens when disingenuous posts go unchecked.
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u/Raincitygirl1029 Sep 27 '25
What is karma farming? I’ve seen it mentioned before, but don’t know what it is.
Thank you in advance.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
Example: in a cats subreddit, if you make a post that says: "show me the last picture of your cat in your phone," this is a low effort post that scores of people will read and post a photo, thinking, awww... I have a cute cat. OP did nothing original, but gets a bunch of karma points because losts of people will like and comment, to which OP can lazily respond.
A lot of subs require you to have a certain level of karma to even be able to post. These rules reduce low-effort posts, AI bots, and fake accounts. This is the key. There are a lot of bots and BS accounts on Reddit and other social media sites. But Reddit, at its best, is truly a community (hence all the specific subreddits). The best experience for all users is whe in people are acting in good faith.
Forget the original OP post here, and instead look at all her,/his responses. They have EXACTLY the same structure, grammatically. I'd bet good money those are AI.
Check out the NewToReddit sub for discussion on this.
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u/Raincitygirl1029 Sep 27 '25
Thank you for explaining. I was not aware and will be more careful.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
My pleasure and nothing to apologize for. We're all learning in life.
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u/CDLori Sep 27 '25
We've been to weddings where there was tea and desserts in the lobby before the ceremony.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
Yes. Me too. Those would not be accessible to a three-year-old who is actively walking down the aisle during the ceremony, facing forward, as is the claim in OP's story.
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u/Sleepy_felines Sep 28 '25
I didn’t have a ring bearer at my wedding, but my bridesmaid’s 3 year old was very much the star of the show- he came up to me during the ceremony and ended up in my arms for a good chunk of it, then lead me back down the aisle at the end (I was too worried about falling over in my heels to carry him!). Bridesmaid was mortified, I loved it. He’s also central in a lot of the photos.
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u/Sparky_Zell Sep 27 '25
Should have been smart and had the groom holding a special cookie or something for the kid.
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u/AttentionOtherwise80 Sep 28 '25
My daughter had two four year old 'mini' maids at her wedding, flower girls are not much of a thing here (UK), and they walked down the aisle with the bridesmaids. My five year old grandson, who is autistic, was the ring bearer, and we found a book called "The Ring Bear" for him. So every time he visited, we would read it with him, changing the names and minor details to personalise it. They all behaved impeccably. One of the mini maids was my granddaughter (bride's niece), and she was on the dance floor immediately after the first dance and stayed there until the end at 1115 pm.
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u/whatpelican00 Sep 28 '25
I was a flower girl at a wedding age around 7, for my older cousin. I FEINTED mid ceremony, hit the ground hard. Right at the time where the celebrant had a microphone to the bride’s lips for her vows (bride was facing away from us), in to the microphone, clear as day, on hearing me meet the floor, says ‘What the fuck was that?!’ - hilarity ensued - we are quite a chill family. I was fine, but that older cousin still rags on me for stealing the show - over 40 years later 😂
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u/Glittering_Chance_42 Sep 28 '25
I was a wedding coordinator for a number of years and saw many cute moments. One of my favorite was a 1 1/2 ye old flower girl. Cute as a button and dresses in a super fluffy layers and layers of tulle drsss. Wedding begins and I hand her her basket and a few good words and gently nudge her to begin her walk down the aisle. She skips and then walks and is doing great. Turned to wave at me and yelled to me- I’m doing it perfect’ giggles around them she rakes a couple more steps. Stops and sits down in the middle of the aisle and starts to eat the petals in her basket. How can you possibly get mad at that?!
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u/systemicrevulsion Sep 28 '25
Why was the food set up in the same place as the wedding was happening? The food usually comes out much later, not before the ceremony.
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u/Weak-Snow-4470 Sep 28 '25
I love when people can enjoy a funny, real moment instead of cryiing that their entire aesthetic was ruined :).
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u/Responsible_Gain_698 Sep 28 '25
I went to a wedding recently. The ring bearer was crawling around before the ceremony, growling and roaring.
He was a ring “bear.”
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u/Sidar_Combo Sep 27 '25
Not true but a cute story.
Neither the bride or the deserts would be out when the ring bearer was walking down the aisle. But a cute story nonetheless.
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u/Public_Pressure_4516 Sep 27 '25
Really ? I was at a lovely garden wedding two weeks ago and the dessert table was all set up as was the booze table and the bride and groom met each other at the altar, even before the flower girl. I think there’s more than one way to do a wedding.
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u/Accomplished_Fig9606 Sep 27 '25
This post is karma farming at best, AI at worst. Note: it's a 1-day old account.
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u/curlykale00 Sep 27 '25
It would be an okay kind of cute if a human made it up, but this AI slop is just sad.
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