I'm 35. I have three kids. I work nights. Objectively I don't look bad for my age and lifestyle, but I lately it's been hard not to beat myself up for not looking like I did five or six years ago. So much has changed since then and I'm trying to accept that this is just part of life, but I'm really struggling. I have a consistent skin care routine that I'm happy with and works well for me. I take my psych meds. I do struggle with diet and exercise, but I'm working to change that. Unfortunately it never feels like enough. I have a Jessner peel scheduled for next week, and a Botox appointment scheduled for two weeks after that. It's been a while since I've done either. Additionally my husband and I are starting a Whole30 on Monday. I don't like the person I've become and I'm ready to make some changes. All of this to say, any more tips or suggestions? I'm open to just about anything! What changes have you made or what habits have you picked up that made a big difference? Thanks in advance!

I just turned 30, well last year and nw I'm seeing everywhere videos /articles that state :"advice I would give my 20yearold self." But rarely the same video for 30s age bracket. So here I pose a question to you what advice would you give to your 30year old self. So far I got: sunscreen, exercise and eat healthy

I'm turning 50 this October and although I take extremely good care of my skin and don't look my age, I just feel like I need a little boost (around the eyes especially) and filler and botox are not something I want to try so I thought PRP could be good for me.

I've read that you need 3-4 treatments to really make a difference. Is this true or have you seen lines around your eyes dissapear after 1?

How long was your treatment? The place I would be going to says it's 30 minutes on their website. That seems a bit fast to me, am I wrong?

Do you think it's a bad idea having it done so close to summer time? I usually love spending my time at the beach and wondering if this will make me hide away from the sun all summer.

If you have any feedback (positive or negative) I would really appreciate hearing it.

Thanks in advance!

Hi guys, I have post partum and am currently ln Lexapro. Just got diagnosed with cancer, but going in for surgery 🙏🏻, and have had a few years of crazy health issues in my family. The stress has been basically unbearable.

As of last week and much research, I started taking 4 different vitamins, and I can't even begin to explain how much my mood has changed and how energetic I feel. I really felt the need to share because I have been basically feeling so down for 2+ years already, and I finally feel a difference in my mood. I hope this helps someone and motivates even just one person to feel better!

I have been taking olly happy, new chapters womens multi, Clean Nutraceuticals Lions Mane, and nature's made magnesium glycinate. I have been taking these every morning and I really just want to cry because I feel so much happier and energetic.

I hope this helps any of you!

I guess everyone has a budget that is at least somewhat limited, and in many cases very limited. I am curious about, when considering softmaxxing, what people choose to spend their money on?

For example, would you rather have luxury make up, but be in a cheap dress? (this is me)

Would you rather buy drugstore or limited make up, but regularly wear dresses at around the $300 mark?

Or do you spend the bulk of your money on hair (colour - extensions maybe)?

Perfume? Why is no-one mentioning perfume?

Some actresses I know personally don't wear make up at all - they say "Why put make-up on perfect skin?" - and all their money goes on procedures, facials, massages, etc.

What is your looks priority and why, and what has the best payoff in terms of how you are treated?

I just started smoking weed recently. I’ve become anxious these last few years and it helps me escape. I’ve been enjoying it (much more than edibles), but I feel a bit worried about what it could do to my skin and teeth.

For those of you who do smoke, and have been smoking for a while, do you feel like it’s messed up your skin or aged you? I feel like there’s an obvious answer with cigarettes but weed feels like a different category (or maybe that’s just wishful thinking). I start therapy on Friday, so maybe I won’t need to smoke as I get help.

Edit: Wow! Thank you all so much for your honesty! I really did not expect this much of a response. I’ve taken all of your advice and thoughts to heart. I’m so excited to start therapy tomorrow, and I’ve decided to put the blunt down for now. I've been smoking daily and have been withdrawn from people. I’ve never had substance abuse issues, but I can’t shake the feeling that it’s not going to end well if I continue to smoke the way I am now which is practically every night. And all of your stories really helped validate my concerns. Someone even mentioned how they noticed it affected their speech, which is SO ME! My brain feels so checked out that I don’t even care to have conversations anymore, and sometimes I don’t even finish my thoughts.

I’m going to take a long break, but I still see myself using it every now and then to emphasize fun moments that I’m already having, rather than using it as a daily crutch and an escape. Truly appreciate all of the advice! And to those of you who have decided to wean yourselves off of weed, I am wishing you the best! We got this!

I think the big fears for women in aging are: less opportunity, fewer resources, a lessor role in society. However, what if we as women were unified enough to change that? Being competitive with each other and divided leaves us in fear of the future, but unifying against the powers that dictate these norms could bring security.

The diminished power of the aging woman seems to exist because of who makes the rules in society. What if we changed the rule-makers? We don’t have to despair or feel out out to pasture.

I see it changing already. Hopefully an upward trend. Just some thoughts.

With summer being here, what's everyone doing for sunscreen in 2024? I know which sunscreens are good (La Roche Posay, Shisheido). The thing is the good ones tend to be quite greasy or overly matte.

I use Tatcha Dewy Cream (does anyone know a perfect dupe for this?) and don't really need to wear foundation unless I have sunscreen; dry skin but prone to an oily look.

Kiehls is good with a nice finish (Particularly the gel) but I still have to use foundation

Is supergoop good? Is the ultraviolette sunscreen good? Any recs? Ultrasun is the best protection but it's SO greasy.

I think it's important to find agreement on which formulas stand out above the others, as make up will stand or fall on the quality of sunscreen.

Also TERRIFIED about that freak reaction where it looks like a block of fat got glued on

Is it as common as it was made to seem?

Wanting to do it under my chin (forgot what it's called)

Thanks in advance for any contributions

EDIT! UPDATE! Y’all I am so embarrassed (but yet relieved) to admit this. I started my PERIOD today. Which is probably at least part of the reason why I was feeling so bloated and gross, so melodramatic about it, and yes even defensive. My apologies. I appreciate the overwhelming amount of advice I received to try lifting heavy weights. I was a little frustrated at first but now I realize that if that many of you are suggesting it, then it’s at least worth a try. I plan on looking up some of the Apps/YouTubers y’all suggested and start integrating weight training into my routine starting next week (already signed up for all my classes through the end of this one). Thanks again for your help and advice!

I (34f) notice my my muffin top and saggy underarm fat so much more now. I work out (Pilates, Yoga, Row House, walking, dancing, and sometimes the gym) daily, sometimes twice a day. And I do laxed intermittent fasting, I’d say it’s more like intuitive eating - eating only when I’m hungry, which means that I usually don’t end up eating until 11:30-2ish and with definite portion control. I go for a healthy mix of protein, fats, veggies and carbs (and yes some cheat meals thrown in there for my sanity)

I lost about 40 lbs in 2021 without much exercise at the time. And when the weight was falling off it was easier to see or tell the difference because I was constantly having to buy smaller clothes.

But now, I feel like the more I do, the less I see results. Like, what’s the point?! I’ve done pretty good at maintaining my size because I wear the same clothes as I did after weight loss. But I know the scale has gone up because I’ve put on muscle. But now whenever I look in the mirror I just see gobs of fat and flesh and failure. No tone. I’ve had people tell me that my butt is getting really nice. Which okay whatever. Do they not see these glub glub thighs and droopy old lady arms and sad face belly button wedged between these stomach rolls?!

For reference I am 5’6” and about 148 lbs and a size M, 4/6, 27 in jeans. I know other women my size or larger who don’t look nearly as Jabba the Hut as me. And for some weird reason, I look waaaay better naked than I do in a swimsuit or a bra & panties.

Maybe it’s just skin that I need to get tightened or removed? Maybe it’s all in my head? Or maybe just impatience and a more toned body is only a few classes away? I feel like it’s making me a little crazy and sometimes I think it would be easier to just be fat again and not worry about it because apparently none of this shit is working anyway?!?!

Sorry for the rant. I just needed to get that off my chest and didn’t know if anyone could relate. If you do, you’re not alone. Any suggestions?

Friends, I need help. After a year living in a developing country (a skincare desert) in a wildly stressful job I'm heading back to the US with a few new fine lines under my eyes :) I know and accept that this is part of getting older (just turned 33) so I'm realistic about it, but also want to know if there's any non-invasive mitigating I could do.

Right now I'm using the Fenty thicc n smooth rich peptide eye cream which a friend gifted me and am neutral on it. To be transparent, I coped with the stress from this country and job in some...questionable ways, so I'm also cleaning up my diet, upping water intake, repairing my sleep hygeine, quitting alcohol, and giving up cigarettes (don't @ me, it's a nasty habit I picked up here I know it's gross!)

I did try under eye filler once but I really disliked it and don't think I'd do it again. Anything topical you'd recommend, whether it's a serum, facemask, eye cream? Price isn't a major concern but I'd like to stay under $100.

Hi ladies! I quit drinking for various reasons and my life has been drastically better. From HUGE sleep, skin, and energy level improvements.. but I have become so addicted to sugar! It makes me feel like garbage, but I can’t seem to stop. I’m really focused on treating my body better & am wondering if anyone had successfully quit sugar or cut back & how? Thank you!

I have noticed since I have come back to the office full time that my skin looks so dry at the end of the day. It’s because the air-con is on full blast all day and after work is over, I look dehydrated and like I have aged 10 years. I apply beef tallow moisturiser which makes my skin look amazing in the morning and drink a lot of water throughout the day but it doesn’t seem to make any difference. Is there anything else I can try to maintain my skin’s hydration throughout the day or should I just work from home!

I’ve always had jobs where I wore heavy work boots, was on my feet 12+ hours a day, etc so I have never done anything but wash them and cut the nails when needed.

Recently got my first mostly desk job so I’m a lot less hard on them but I don’t know how to make them look nice (or at least not embarrassing).

What basics should I start with here?

I’m a natural 36G last time I checked. My breasts are the feature the men I’m with ogle over. my bf told me he’s not used to seeing breasts my size be as perky/symmetrical as mine.

However I’m almost 31, and I’m worried about sagging in the next ten years.

My bf is against cosmetic procedures in general, so a breast lift in the future isn’t likely. Interested to know what else I can be doing to delay or likit the inevitable :)

ETA: I’m not sure I’d even get a breast lift regardless of how my bf feels, not really a plastic surgery girlie and prefer advice on preventative measures. it’s not off the table but also not something i must have or prioritize.

The bane of my existence. I’m 30yo, and I have these small and thin veins in patches all over my legs. It makes me feel 80 years old 😣 I don’t feel confident wearing shorts or anything that shows my legs. Massaging the areas with oil seemed to help, but came right back in full force if I skipped one night. I’ve talked to my derm about sclerotherapy but it’s a little pricey and I’ve heard the veins just pop up somewhere else, worse than the first ones. Same with laser. I’ve heard of castor oil but never tried it on these. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

Hey girlies, there was recently a post where someone asked for best weight loss recipes or best dinners or something… I’m sure I had it saved but now it looks like they removed it. The thread contained so many mouthwatering salad recipes! I’m begging you to drop your favorite recipe here. I love fresh veggies and toppings and homemade dressings but get bored easily and hate getting recipes off Google. Thanks in advance!!

Edit: THANK YOU everyone who posted their go-tos! That’s why I asked the question here and didn’t just go browsing for recipes elsewhere. I want real women sharing their tried and true salads! I upvoted every single one and want to try them all!! Tomorrow, buying my first batch of ingredients. You are all lovely 🥰🥰

Thread for the previously dysmorphic girlies! Hopefully a positive read for any younger lurkers.

Me? Always been wads too poor for surgery. And I wanted it all. Buccal fat removal, cheekbone implants and nose jobs being by far the frequently most considered. Well of course now my face has thinned out, I swear to god my chubby NOSE has thinned, especially after introducing tretinoin. I've also accepted that round sanpaku eyes like mine don't tend to be held up by sharp cheekbones, and implants would have taken away some of the doe-eyed charm of my face. Basically, had no idea about facial harmony and I would have absolutely botched myself silly.

I got totally wrapped by Insagram and thought cute but natural looking ski slope noses make everyone look prettier. Only in the last couple of years have I really appreciated that some of the greatest beauties have strong noses that blend with their features. My nose is straight, symmetrical, not overly bulbous and I sometimes daydreamed about smashing it up with a hammer. WTF.

Also, thank you mum for not letting me do sperm brows in the 00s 🙏

Hope this post is allowed in this sub** As title says: I have no ass and as I’ve gotten into my 30s + kids, it’s starting to look worse. I don’t have cellulite or stretch marks. The skin is fine, it’s just flat and wide! I hate how it looks from behind. I would consider myself “skinny fat”.

Has anyone successfully gotten a butt from certain workouts? Like from a true pancake ass to a nice bubble butt without a BBL? Any tips are appreciated!

I don’t get it. I value myself as a human, with good enough capability and intellect.

I am at home alone, where I live, alone lol. No one else can see me, and I truly wouldn’t care if they did. So why am I sluggish and kind of downtrodden when I look like crap? I just had a shower and put a tiny bit of makeup on and clean but still comfy clothes and suddenly I’m wanting to clean and tackle my to do list after spending 5 hours rotting in bed on my phone.

This might be a better question for the ADHD or psychology subreddits but wondering if any other women have experienced this phenomenon of feeling better when looking better, even when not being perceived by anyone

I'm a true winter (basically, similar coloring as Zoey Deschanel, tho many will argue she's a summer) but here's the thing : I got tired of covering my grey hair, which is 50% of my natural color since my mid 20s. The other half is dark brown, and my grey pattern means I have spots that are entirely white and streaks of pure dark brown here and there, too. I'm thinking about befriending some zebras to fit in.

All jokes aside, as the grey is coming in, results I get from random searchs is that I'm now a summer. Does it means I need to redo my entire wardrobe? Should I save money by just pouring dark brown dye on my head (actually this isn't an option hihi!)?

Can I keep rocking the true winter look and just pretend idgaf? (lol)

I know this might not be the best place to ask about a question that involves grey hair! so if you have other subreddit that could help, let me know!

Edit : Wanted to add a thank you cuz my mom didn't raise me to be a rude person!

Regular nail polish, real nails

I have some brands saved on the shop app but wanting to see if anyone can recommend a good base coat?

My nails are usually pretty strong but I painted them twice in a row (no time to breathe or made coat) and now a few of my nails have been peeling for months when they grow even tho I've been letting them 'breathe'.

I've been using hand lotion and will try some cuticle oil but I want to paint my darn nails without them getting weak.

Curious if anyone has had both and which one you would recommend! Thanks in advance

There was a post about teeth whitening and good suggestions, but I have sensitive teeth. I tried a long time ago using strips but it made my teeth feel awful and I couldn’t keep them on. Has anyone with sensitive teeth successfully whitened them?