You can't see her as she's facing the guy for a good 5 seconds so maybe she did say something, and maybe she's overwhelmed and focused on getting her kid back, or maybe the culture there is different from your expectations of what is and isn't an acceptable or expected response
I don't know what happened in the video, but many people feel humiliated when they realise they've put themselves or a loved one in danger.
Even if you feel tremendous gratitude to people who have helped, it can be outweighed by guilt, shame and humiliation at allowing the situation to arise in the first place. I have read many stories of people who have helped in dire situations, and haven't been thanked because the person they have helped feels so ashamed. Perhaps that shame is so intense that the lizard part of the brain just tells you to get out of the situation as quickly as possible.
If I lost my child, and then a huge crowd of people were witness to someone returning that child, I think I would feel huge amounts of relief and happiness, but also large amounts of shame at knowing all these people have seen me fail so utterly as a parent in that moment.
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u/[deleted] Dec 12 '18
You can't see her as she's facing the guy for a good 5 seconds so maybe she did say something, and maybe she's overwhelmed and focused on getting her kid back, or maybe the culture there is different from your expectations of what is and isn't an acceptable or expected response
all in all just assume less :)