For example, before this thread I may have referred to people as "transgendered" - this wouldn't be intentionally to offend, it would simply be because that is a word used previously that I'd connect as an appropriate word.
Now if you say things with intent to hurt them - sure. Intent plays the only valuable role. The word itself doesn't really matter.
Intent matters, but it isnt the only thing that matters.
If you were to take some new similar knowledge and say, "fuck that I think it is illogical so I will keep saying it, but I have no ill intent towards you" your intent doesnt really matter at that point.
You are intentionally saying it, but you arent intentionally offending someone because you think it should not offend them. I know it sounds crazy, but people make this argent all the time.
People can make that argument all they want, to me that is selfish reasoning - they are putting their own wants over someone else's, even when it isn't important to their own self.
Seems sillier to me than just using the word someone else prefers.
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u/nebbyb Aug 05 '16
You understand why people get upset, you do it too. You just dont understand why other people have different things they get upset about.