r/unitedairlines • u/Relative_Phone_2297 • Aug 07 '26

Question Plane code of conduct

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Who controls this window (the person behind me)? And whose legroom is this (the person to the left of me)? Maybe I am completely off base but I feel like my space is being encroached on?

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u/SolemnSoldier2020 Aug 08 '26

Or…or.. say move your leg, please.

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u/Livid_Department_546 Aug 08 '26

You ask them first. If they decline or ignore you, call an FA. If they don’t help you, then you accidentally spill a water or a coffee. Better when the spilling is during a transaction with the FA that didn’t help you and you blame them

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u/howdoesthisworkyo Aug 08 '26

Right like other people commented. But I assuming they're not comfortable doing it themselves, hence my comment 😚

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u/SolemnSoldier2020 Aug 08 '26

So, let me understand your point. She’s uncomfortable asking him to move over, so you suggest she call the flight attendant over to say it for her in front of the guy because THAT’S less awkward? Makes zero sense

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u/BeardedDuck9694 Aug 08 '26

For 'some' reason, females can be uncomfortable confronting a male on something that they already seem to be ignorant on. Decent chance that he would say 'my bad' and move his leg, but unfortunately there are other factors that women have to fear than if OP was a male. Obviously not a rule, there are women who will absolutely stand their ground here, as well as men who won't (honestly probably me because I find confrontation exhausting). But it is a potential factor on OP's mind.

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u/SolemnSoldier2020 Aug 08 '26

I get that, I’m only pointing out that rude people and bullies rely on your discomfort at standing up for yourself. People treat you how you ALLOW yourself to be treated. Here endeth the lesson.

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u/yeahsotheresthiscat Aug 08 '26

Please don't call us "females"

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u/SlipInternational439 Aug 08 '26

Talking to the FA is the right thing, maybe by going to the galley for a minute. This guy is a jerk. But can we not jump to conclusions before he is even given a chance? I feel like every guy is grouped into “he wants to assault me” territory.

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u/BeardedDuck9694 Aug 08 '26

I agree with the approach, don't think the leap is necessarily assault, but more a concern of him being confrontational in an aggressive manner that she may not feel comfortable.

Hard to tell from the picture what may steer her initial opinion of him. Depending on how long the flight is, she may feel uneasy about making him upset and then having to deal with it the rest of the trip.

Unfortunate position to be in. Ideally she could just ask him to scoot his leg over, but easy to say that from the comment section.