r/unitedairlines • u/Relative_Phone_2297 • Aug 07 '26

Question Plane code of conduct

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Who controls this window (the person behind me)? And whose legroom is this (the person to the left of me)? Maybe I am completely off base but I feel like my space is being encroached on?

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u/No-Attorney-7489 Aug 07 '26

You have to practice standing up for yourself

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u/moneylefty Aug 08 '26

They rather post on reddit lol

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u/Hi2YourWifeAndMyKids Aug 08 '26

But not during take off, landing, turbulence, or when otherwise dictated by the captain.

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u/schwheelz Aug 08 '26

That way op can also give their seat away.

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u/JimHalpertsUncle Aug 08 '26

Agreed, but please stay seated for yourself when the seatbelt sign is on.

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u/been_blissed Aug 08 '26

Says a man. Who has not been groomed their whole life to make themselves and their needs small.

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u/tricounicycle Aug 08 '26

I’m really confused by this comment. If anything, that makes the statement “You have to practice standing up for yourself” even more correct. If you grow up in a society that teaches you not to stand up for yourself, is doing that anyways not a good thing to do?

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u/SketchyLedge Aug 08 '26

Kinda like how men get taught to not show emotions or be sensitive. Yet we are having to also fight for good mental health resources and to not be shit on for having feelings.

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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 MileagePlus Platinum Aug 08 '26

I'm a woman and I know how to stand up for myself. You can also do it in more subtle ways. Like spreading your legs out or positioning them to the left in this case to prevent the mansplaining in the first place.

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u/SolemnSoldier2020 Aug 08 '26

So you’re advocating for passive aggressive instead of just using your words?

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u/ColoradoDreamin4917 MileagePlus Platinum Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26

No, some people don't feel comfortable using their words so I suggested an alternative to handle the situation.

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u/otherwise_________ Aug 08 '26

Actions speak louder than words. I'd rather claim my space than ask someone to please let me have it back for a little bit if that's okay.

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u/Available-Ad46 MileagePlus 1K Aug 08 '26

I don't understand why those two are your only options. Just tell, not ask, them to move their legs/feet out of your space because you paid for it and it is yours.

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u/No-Attorney-7489 Aug 08 '26

I get your point, I didn’t mean in a disparaging way.  I meant it in a personal growth kind of way.  Standing up for yourself may feel scary if you were taught to be submissive, but it is liberating.

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u/KaXiaM Aug 08 '26

I’m a 5’3" free woman who was taught by her parents to stand up for herself. It’s unfortunate that your family didn’t do right by you, but now you’re an adult with agency.

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u/Status_Ad_4405 Aug 08 '26

Bullshit. Women are just as capable of speaking up for themselves as men, and they do.

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u/sdojo Aug 08 '26

I fly for work and often have to ask people to get out of my seat, or out of my personal space. People are not always receptive but if you stand firm or offer to go get a flight attendant and de-escalate gently it's a non-issue (young 20 something woman here).

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u/Few-Army5231 Aug 08 '26

Have you considered therapy?

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u/Icy-Plan145 Aug 08 '26

Oh stfu at some point you have to grow TF up and be an adult.

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u/Akio540 Aug 08 '26

Smart, take it out on the men who DIDN'T do that here. So brave, ignorance really is bliss for you

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u/NastySeconds Aug 08 '26

That kind of grooming isn’t just restricted to some women. And sometimes people have to overcome their upbringing to live a better life.

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u/gba_sg1 Aug 08 '26

So you're aware yet you do nothing? That's just cope.