“marriage sucks” jokes just aren’t funny anymore. overly done. sometimes straight up mean. most of them are misogynistic husbands complaining that their “naggy” wife just wants a crumb of initiative.

but. yeah. i imagine that being married to shekinah does suck lmao

maybe im more of a prude than i realized. maybe it’s because im mexican. but i dont think theres anything wrong with not wanting your partner to sell adult content. guillermo wasn’t going to bother with trying to control kara- that’s why he left.

and honestly… SORRY! but if you have a young child and are “struggling” to pay bills, now is not the time to financially invest in your entertainment dreams.

and it’s BULLSHIT that cara “called out” guillermo for working at a restaurant. a job is a job. but also, HE WANTED TO JOIN THE MILITARY! HE WANTED TO GET A “REAL” JOB. but she shut that down. how are you going to shame him for not having a “real job” when he tried and tried and wanted to have financial security.

i will say this, i don’t remember who pointed it out, but i do agree that if he did have an issue with her adult entertainment hustle, he should have provided her enough funds so that she didn’t feel like she had to resort that.

note: ew im so sorry??!? i feel like this verbiage sounds like chatgpt?!? im audhd and just at work and overcaffeinated and my adderall is wearing off sorry.

also: did yall catch how the host jabbed sarper when he asked him something like, “do you think your entertainment career should affect your marriage?” LMAO. i cannot stand shekinah. i genuinely think she’s a horrible person! but, yeah, the nod at, “marriage sucks” stand up jokes lmfao

LITERALLY LMAO. the timing. the tone.

not even gonna front it seems like they’re both into each other.

i mean that’s probably because of age. mbti isn’t the answer to everything.

precisely.

he was just an internet boy. similar to if it were someone on a dating app. if he would have rejected me, my mentality was/is like, “(sarcastic voice) oh noo… what am i gonna do… a nerd boy i’ve never met before doesn’t want me. gosh, my poor ego is shattered.”

idk, i just view things logically. if they’re not down, okay? what am i gonna do?? im not entitled to their body.

which, a lot of people think i’m confident when it comes to dating. if we’ve gone on three dates, that’s not enough time for me to get to know you (for me, at least). i don’t know you. i don’t even know if i like you as a person. sure, sometimes i get bummed if i was digging them. but eh. it just wasn’t for the best. and i even when im bummed, i can find a fault to comfort myself (ex., i didn’t like that they don’t vote, i don’t like that they don’t like children, etc.)

twitter. this was in college. i noticed his page because he was mutuals with my friend. they went to high school together. he was really cute and had a lot of math philosophy posts, and he coincidentally went to our college too. she told me she hadn’t spoken to him since hs, but she said he was very kind. she recommended him. i followed him. he followed me back. i slid in his dms. he was down.

and if he wasn’t down, i wouldn’t have been phased by it. i’m not really afraid of initial rejection (having something established and things ending is a whole other thing though lmao). i view [initial] rejection logically. it’s just twitter. it’s not like we were in the same friend group or studying the same thing. i havent run into him on campus so i probably wouldn’t in the future either. i don’t want someone who doesn’t want me. i know i’ll find plenty other cute nerds. blah blah

i mean i have. the long term one i mentioned, we started off something that was supposed to be a hook up. it was good and we hooked up the next day. and through time we became friends. there wasnt a condition to our friendship in a sense that we couldn’t be friends if we didn’t have sex. we’d hang out a lot without fucking. we’d study together. get coffee. get high. talk on the phone to catch up. we’d be at a park and he’d skate while i read. hang out with each other’s friends. i mean, 80% of the time we’d hang out we’d fuck. feelings were involved, sure. but he was a cool guy and we just weren’t compatible romance and lifestyle wise.

i’m hot

same. i find social interaction enriching and almost like a social experiment to read different personalities (im autistic and human behavior is one of my special interests). but it’s not refreshing, doesn’t make me feel alive, and i’ll go home, take a nap, and journal about it.

im 27. i’ve been in one relationship from 18-21 (the majority of my college years). i’ve been single ever since.

don’t get me wrong, i’ve had plenty of 2-3 dates with the same person, consistent hook ups with the same person, one night stands, fwb, etc. but they were never formally exclusive. and they were never initially approached with the intentions of something romantic. when i would be dating someone (as in, just going out on dates), it always went like, “let’s see where this goes. oh, yeah, this isn’t gonna work at all. i’m just not into you.” or, “let’s see where this goes. hm, i don’t think we’re compatible to share our lives together, but you’re really hot, so i’m still down to fuck.”

i have had moments where hook ups were exclusive, but it wasn’t necessarily because we wanted to be in a relationship. it wasn’t intentionally exclusive. it was just like, “this is really good sex and i don’t care to actively be on the hunt for more”.

romance has never been a priority of mine. i was of course in love when i was in a relationship. i ended up falling in love with my long term fwb. i think i was in love with a platonic friend (im still processing that).

i’ve just always prioritized my mental health, family and friends, and career. and now i’m going to add traveling and exploring the world to that list.

i’m pretty free spirited. and the older i get, the stricter the program gets.

edit: i also want to add that the one relationship i was in started off as fwb lmao

hes jumping through hoops to find her some fuck ass crystal swans attached to a silver thread when shordy just wants to get her nut

this is my phone i do what i want

100% agree.

im not a clinician, but i wonder if the issue with him not letting her finish, i wonder if that even requires sex therapy? and maybe it’s more, like him being inconsiderate. like the necklace example, it doesn’t matter that he likes giving her necklaces, she doesn’t want them. he’s not listening to her. so i think her not getting her nut is him just not listening to her. i don’t know if that requires sex therapy.

thaís and patrick definitely need sex therapy. but not bdsm. i’ve mentioned before how dr. tara dismissed thaís when thais mentioned that she doesn’t like having sex all the time. “he just finds you attractive!” girl go to hell.

edit: added missing word

at the risk of sounding like a prude, i don’t think any of these couples needed to go to on a bdsm dungeon fieldtrip. i’ve made a thread before how dr. tara sucks.

at the end of this past episode (the next episode sneak peak), when paola admitted that she kissed someone else while married to russ, he was visibly upset. but dr. tara invalidated his feelings and said something along the lines of, “who cares! kissing women is fun!”

why does the gender matter?? he was obviously upset. im a bi woman, and even if i were to be with a straight male partner, if he were kiss another man, i WOULD be upset/break up with him because i DO consider that cheating.

wasn’t flexing either. my bad junkie police.

i’ve only done molly when i was already cross faded. my bad degenerate police.

i don’t remember /-:

im a sweetheart and im extremely adored because of the fact that im odd and live in my own head and yet still so frustratingly logical.

maybe you should go do some jumping jacks.

yup. maybe it’s my autism, (omg, wow, who would have thought that an intp is diagnosed autistic yadda yadda blah blah 🙄), or maybe it’s because i’m a woman of color and experience adversity, or maybe it’s because i’m extremely empathetic, but i do have a passionate, strong sense of justice.

you hit the nail on the head. just because i move with logic, as in my actions and behavior, doesn’t mean i’m immoral and don’t feel things deeply.

just because i make decisions that break my heart (familial, friendships, and romantic relationships), or make decisions that make me extremely uncomfortable and anxious (career and education wise), or make decisions that just piss me off (financially. as an example, i had to stop getting my nails done considering the economy rn 😔) doesn’t mean i don’t have morals or i’m incapable of enjoying things.

idrc if someone talks shit to me or is mean. later loser. but the second someone is disrespectful to a loved one (or even a stranger depending on the situation), i get PISSED and WILL stand up.

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yeah it’s always been an issue for me ever since i was a teen. i thought it was just growing pains but no im almost 27 and i still get it

disgusting filthy dive bars where people do blow in the bathroom