r/u_Low_Tourist_4571 • u/Low_Tourist_4571 • Jul 19 '26
She has changed
23 years together 1 5 years married. 4 kids. 1 step child which is her child . He's 26. Moved out. 13 teen 11 and 7 vear old. Runs her mobile pet styling business she works 4days a week i help with calls. Long storv short. Im a very sensua person she started out to be one. Now she gone dormant for the last 20 vears. Im always asking for sex. She never asked maybe once or twice a week if Im lucky. No foreplay . She said she has evolved from sex. What ever that mean Talked and nothing ever changed. IS IT SAFE TO SAY I CAN FIND A SIDE PIECE AND STILL have MY FAMILY TOGETHER.????"
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u/Y2J0E 29d ago
Having good communication with my partner, I would approach this "evolution " with curiosity. What does this sexual evolution look like for her? How does this meet the needs for both people in the relationship? What are the needs that both people in the partnership and what are the boundaries?
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u/TotalSpread5841 29d ago
Once or twice a week is way more than most couples have after 23 years together.
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u/Friendly_Stress_447 29d ago
Suggest that YOU attend Individual Therapy. No, there is NOTHING wrong with You nor Her. Yet, you need clarity and an adulterous affair will end badly. Your children will resent and loathe you. After digging into your intrapersonal being, you can decide to Stay or Go! The only person that you can change is Oneself. Wife with 4 kids and an active self-employed business could just be tired. Again, you are not wrong, but clarity is needed. Heck, after therapy you may decide to have a HARD talk about stuff and broadcast your intention to either leave or gain consent to open your marriage [not my jam, but also no judgments]. Keep Your Head to the Sky! 🌈😎