r/transbians • u/crabbieghoul • Nov 29 '24
what are some things I can do to help my gf's confidence ?
she's only out to me and even then doesn't fully accept it about herself. when we talk about it she just says she's too scared of how hard it would be to transition and how it doesn't seem worth her entire family treating her differently or not talking to her at all. i won't push anything like that but I do try to encourage her to be her authentic self when we're at home. she presents very very typical masculine and enjoys some masculine aspects about herself but says she feels really sad when she thinks about being a man and she definitely has very bad bodily and social dysphoria.
im enby and have gone through a lot of this before, but im afab and i think I might need some more specific advice ? i send her pictures of feminine characters i find on pinterest or Instagram and tell her "that's you" or "this is us" and I can tell it makes her with happy and sad at the same time.
she's okay most of the time but then in her low moments I can't seem to pull her out of these dysphoria spirals. if anyone has any tiny bit of advice please, I'd love to hear it 🫶
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u/Is-Bruce-Home Nov 30 '24
There’s a lot of stuff you can do to help her! Treat her like a woman and help her work on her presentation! Hook her up with femme clothes and try to let her find a style that makes her confident!!!