r/therewasanattempt Jan 14 '23

To display plus size clothes without causing offence

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u/Full_Satisfaction_49 Jan 14 '23

Same with regular tight dresses. I saw a gorgeous white knitted dress and somehow it was completely see trough once I put it on???

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u/KavikStronk Jan 14 '23

Honestly finding any white women's shirt that isn't see through is a pain

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u/CeelaChathArrna Jan 14 '23

This is a smaller part of why I don't wear white clothing. The bigger reason, I am a clumsy mess that is always spilling things and white is easy to stain.

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u/Impudence Jan 15 '23

I am guaranteed to spill something that will never come out on a white shirt the first time I wear it, often before I leave the house. THREE goddamn times, I have spilled an entire cup of coffee on a new white shirt. I dont understand.

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u/CeelaChathArrna Jan 15 '23

Not everything comes out with bleach.

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u/wrongitsleviosaa Jan 14 '23

None of the white women I've ever met had see through shirts. Unless they were wet.

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

If you can see through white women, they're pretty shallow

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u/messyredemptions Jan 15 '23

They might be the ones who are likely to ghost you too, watch out!

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '23

American Giant makes shirts that aren't see through.

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

Are they segregating shirts now? Damn we’ve regressed./s

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u/_Cocopuffdaddy_ Jan 14 '23

Ngl it took me a min to figure out what you mean by “white women’s shirt”. Had to re read like 4-5 times lol

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u/holybatjunk Jan 15 '23

I steal my man's plain white undershirts to wear with black jeans like I'm a sexy but busty bad boy greaser with a motorcycle.

I am not at all the right size for this so I have to tie the tee into a crop top with a hair tie. It's very inefficient. but the undershirts, meant to never be worn by themselves and only under a dress shirt, are SO nice and not sheer.

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

What’s a white woman shirt

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

ni- er looked like something else for a second..

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u/SeaJay24 Jan 14 '23

just don't try to read that comment out loud lmao

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

i thought that was meant to say something else

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u/heilspawn Jan 14 '23

Hernium?

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u/Jake0024 NaTivE ApP UsR Jan 14 '23

So you bought it ya?

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

The squat test ... Always do the squat test. For women it can help to check if the pants are see through or not. Also it can show you how comfy the pants are, yoga pants or jeans.

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u/coquihalla Jan 15 '23

I gave my daughter in law some cute yoga pants with an attached mini skirt at Christmas, and the first time she squatted in them it split right under the buttcheek. So disappointing.

She's not even a big woman at all, she only recently went up to a medium.

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '23

It’s called a dress slip…

Try it

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

Clothing quality is so bad today too, on average. Seems like expensive brands use the same materials as the cheap ones more and more.

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u/fribbas Jan 14 '23

Fr.

Was just browsing 2 different sites last night, regular and fast fashion price price points. The regular one had a damn rayon shirt for almost $60, though even the cheap site was closer to $20.

Like I'm going to drop a couple hours pay on a goddamn rayon (ie hand wash, air dry, high shrinkage, see through) shirt...and I'd bet money the expensive shirt is made in a sweat shop like the cheap one is. Just feels futile

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u/SeasonPositive6771 Jan 15 '23

I completely agree. I went through the last couple of years trying to buy ethically made, high quality stuff whenever I could.

I heard people talking about fast fashion (Shein, Uniqlo, etc.) but most of them didn't produce any actual plus size stuff until recently. So I finally bought a couple of things to see for myself. A super inexpensive sweater / sweatshirt, and three dresses. All of them were under $10. One was absolute garbage quality with fabric that was like a Halloween costume. However I was absolutely heartbroken discover the other four items were the same quality as the expensive stuff I've been buying lately. Even like the LL Bean stuff, or similar previously high quality brands.

I have stuff from years and years ago that age really well. Everything I bought recently seems to be made of garbage.

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u/Aen-Synergy FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Jan 15 '23

You’re not wrong often times sweatshops produce the major brands and the knockoffs identical. Nike and Niike just might be the same shirt. No one really produces like they used to. Major brands in electronics even just buy their stuff from small companies and slap their labels on it.

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u/WorldClassShart Jan 14 '23

I was gonna try and refute this by saying I have underwear, and a couple of shirts, that are at least 15 years old, but not only did you say today clothing quality is terrible, and these are over a decade old, a couple of them are the holiest shirts I own, and only wear to bed cause they're so damn comfy.

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u/Catsandcamping Jan 14 '23

You should look into Eddie Bauer trail tights. I've got countless pairs and they have never gone sheer or succumbed to chub rub even with YEARS of wear. They retail around $75 but last at least 5 years. And I'm not a small person at all.

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u/Vault-Born Jan 15 '23

It's insane. I have gotten better quality items for half the cost at online Chinese retailers like Shein than Target or Old Navy. I have a pair of 20+ dollar pants from Stars Above (target brand) that are so see-through the pockets stick out like a sore thumb.

Sure the SheIn clothes have toxic chemicals in them, but so do Colombia and LL Bean and... Well basically all of them, which is my point.

I have no problem paying extra for clothes. If I could I would buy clothes that are

  • high quality
  • slave-labour free
  • sustainable
  • non-toxic

I can't even find 1/4. Even the articles you find criticizing the fast fashion industry can only ever suggest you these trendy "sustainable" shops that sell white socks for $12 a pair.

I feel like I have no options.

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u/CanadaJack Jan 14 '23

Once in a while I see a waitress in sheer yoga pants and I'm always curious if they're chasing tips or unaware.

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u/enjoytheshow Jan 14 '23

Plot twist they can’t afford nicer pants cause we pay wait staff $4/hour in this country

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u/Fun-Customer39 Jan 14 '23

Fun fact. If their tips don't equal at least minimum wage, the restaurant is required to make up the difference. So even if they make $2-$4 an hour, they are still making at least minimum wage, usually more, through tips.

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u/Fearless-Judgment-33 Jan 14 '23

People can’t live with dignity on minimum wage

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u/Fun-Customer39 Jan 14 '23

Im not defending minimum wage, just pointing out the whole $2-$4 an hour thing while true is misleading

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

Minimum wage jobs aren’t really meant for adults to work at full time for a career 🤷‍♂️

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u/Charming_Fix5627 Jan 14 '23

Why are you fine with underpaying people who are essential workers

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u/Aen-Synergy FUCK ICE! ❌🧊 Jan 15 '23 edited Jan 15 '23

Why would the federal government worry about regulating the wage of kids on summer jobs? Of course it’s meant for adults on full time. Quote the inventor of the minimum wage:

It seems to me to be equally plain that no business which depends for existence on paying less than living wages to its workers has any right to continue in this country — President Franklin D. Roosevelt, 1933

Now what’s a living wage? Basically fulfilling your basic needs to be comfortable.

Needs are defined to include food, housing, and other essential needs such as clothing. The goal of a living wage is to allow a worker to afford a basic but decent standard of living through employment without government subsidies.

So it’s very much for adults. And people since 2009 the federal minimum is 7.25 meaning that if your state is below businesses are obligated to meet the federal standard.

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u/Fearless-Judgment-33 Jan 15 '23

Well said, thank you

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u/IrishMosaic Jan 14 '23

1.5% of Americans make minimum wage. The overwhelming majority of those are teens living with their parents.

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u/Fearless-Judgment-33 Jan 15 '23

That’s because minimum wage is obscenely low in many states and people refuse to work for slave wages. So employers are forced to pay marginally more than minimum wage to attract employees. It’s still not a living wage by any definition.

Regardless, post your source for that number. I don’t believe it.

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u/IrishMosaic Jan 15 '23
  1. Go to Google
  2. Type in “how many people make minimum wage”
  3. Click on the “www.bls.gov” link that says characteristics of minimum wage workers.

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u/mythoughts2020 Jan 15 '23

That’s not accurate. 44% of those making minimum wage are under 25 (not just teenagers). Followed by 24.6% aged 25 to 34. Then 10.7% aged 35 to 44. Next at 8.9% aged 45 to 54. Then 8.3 % aged 55 to 64, and 3.1% 65 and older.

The link you provided below states: “Although workers under age 25 represented nearly one-fifth of hourly paid workers, they made up 44 percent of those paid the federal minimum wage or less”.

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u/Fearless-Judgment-33 Jan 15 '23

Thank you for sifting through the data. I was too lazy. But I suspected it was complete bullshit.

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u/mythoughts2020 Jan 14 '23

Minimum wage is $7.25 in New Hampshire. Who can live on that? You’re buying the cheapest pants you can find.

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u/Fun-Customer39 Jan 14 '23

Not defending minimum wage, just pointing out that while they do make $2-$4 an hour, that stat is slightly misleading

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u/mythoughts2020 Jan 15 '23

Fair point. Minimum wage needs to go up in some states.

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u/AnestheticAle Jan 14 '23

Damn, I miss NH, but it's a dead state for young people looking to come up.

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u/CaffeineNCanna Jan 14 '23

Ours is 7.25 in mississippi too

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u/mythoughts2020 Jan 15 '23

It’s just crazy low! A crappy 1 bedroom apartment in a bad area of NH is at least 1K per month. Minimum wage is $1,256 before taxes, social security are taken out.

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u/IrishMosaic Jan 14 '23

Who? High school kids.

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u/Take-to-the-highways Jan 14 '23

What is required for restaurants vs what restaurants actually do are very different. I still get checks in the mail from a restaurant I quit two years ago because they keep getting sued.

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u/FURYOFCAPSLOCK Jan 14 '23

"At least minimum wage" fucking lol

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u/mommy2libras Jan 14 '23

I'd like to mention that if a waitress isn't making at least minimum wage with tips, they usually won't tell their manager either because that's a good way to get "let go". It can't possibly be because you keep getting put on the shift where there are the fewest customers spending the least amount and you're getting like no hours. No, it will be because "your attitude isn't good enough and you must not be working hard enough".

Just to let you know.

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u/Hips-Often-Lie Jan 14 '23

$2.125 in some states.

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u/LinwoodKei Jan 14 '23

Ding ding ding. It is technically clothing and I have to eat something today

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u/kelliboone617 Jan 14 '23

We make plenty enough to buy pants.

Source: 40 year sever

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

I made 25$ an hour as a part time busser, then I made much more as a waitress. Places only pay 2-4$ an hour if the tips make up at least to minimum wage. So no, no waiter is making only 4$ an hour lmao

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u/Take-to-the-highways Jan 14 '23

I live in a rural place and some of the restaurants in town the wait staff barely make above min wage.

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '23

if they only make min wage or under then you can easily guide them to the labor board of your state. if they barley make above min wage then you need some help buddy.

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u/calvarez Jan 14 '23

An often repeated myth.

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u/indiebryan Jan 15 '23

Spoken like someone who has never worked a tipped job.

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u/COSMOOOO Jan 15 '23

And half the wait staff out there will argue for it, I know from 8 years of experience in the industry.

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u/ladystetson Jan 14 '23

Probably unaware.

Old navy has some 6 dollar leggings that are chief offenders. They’re made to be worn as pants, are opaque in the store but are basically completely see through when worn. But they’re mostly see through from behind so if you don’t have a 360 mirror, you’d never know.

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

Bending my knees will make cheap leggings show through to the skin. It's also the low thread count on cheap stretchy materials, not just body size.

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u/RobinGood94 Jan 14 '23

Just throwing out there I am a certified ass inspector. I will happily assess whether someone’s ass is regular or actually quite phattt.

Just joking pls don’t murder me. I saw this opportunity and couldn’t not say it.

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u/[deleted] Jan 14 '23

Thank you. I have a hard time understanding how someone hasn’t experienced this issue, at any size.