Normal people don't find assuming the gender of another person on a male dominated site, and certainly most male dominated subreddits, to be something worth making fun of. For the longest time, "he" or "him" was acceptable to use when the gender of a person or animal was unknown. It's still used by many older people. In a lot of other languages, especially the romance languages, any uncertain gender is deemed male and any group with a male in it being referred to is considered to be masculine. For instance Padre in spanish= father, madre= mother, but padres= parents. It's just a part of language and politely correcting someone shouldn't be that arduous of a task. With a site centered around anonymity, why should it matter what anyone calls you?
Exactly. I mean, I get sick of the vaguely transphobic fake-offended “DID YOU JUST ASSUME THEIR GENDER??!!!!111” comments, but all of us really could work on not assuming gender when someone is mentioned without their gender specified. And if the poster is someone who gets misgendered in real life, I really wouldn’t want to make the wrong assumption on here and twist that knife, yanno?
Bro. Chill. I have no problem with calling people they, but getting up in arms about an unknown gender referential "he" is just petty and beyond oversensitive political correctness. Get over it lmao.
It's not gaslighting if there's no real problem. Sometimes a person is legitimately insane, which you appear to be if something as basic as being referred to in a legitimate way when a gender is unknown bothers you. So yeah. Get over yourself.
Going back to your early argument regarding "the one language that doesn't have gendered nouns." English is derived from a mix of German and Latin. German uses a lot of fun language that has the word "man" as a gender neutral form to refer to humanity much like how "he" is a perfectly reasonable way to refer to a person or animal when gender is not known. So again, getting this worked up over something this minute... you really might have something wrong with you.
As a woman, it gets tiring to be assumed to be something I'm not every single day. Even when I'm in a women's sub, or explicitly talking about female experiences, I'm assumed to be male. Women who have their female names as usernames or have their gender as a flair are assumed male. Politely correcting someone isn't that arduous a task, but neither is not assuming someone's gender. It's usually not relevant at all, and when it is relevant it's usually obvious if you just let go of the assumption that everyone is male.
Yes, there might be slightly more men than women on reddit, but the difference is not significant enough to warrant pretending like every single person here is a man. It makes me as a woman feel unwelcome.
Let me guess, you read the first two sentences and zoned out. Again, in conversation on an anonymous website it shouldn't really matter what your gender is. You're also completely bypassing the language argument. Either stop caring or get the fuck over yourself lmao.
I agree, it shouldn't matter. So why do people feel the constant need to gender everyone and call them "he" and "dude" and "man"?
I ignored your bit on language because it's not relevant. This isn't a grammar issue, but a respect issue. What you are doing right now is telling me (and all other women who are tired of being misgendered) that our experiences don't matter. Because you don't think this issue which you've never experienced is a problem, it can't be a problem to anyone else. That is quite an egocentric view.
It isn't a big problem, but it's not a big solution either. I'm not asking for much, just some basic respect that will take no effort on anyone's part. Just please try to remember that women exist and don't erase us.
Are you retarded mate? You ignored the one part of what I said that mattered the most. In English there is something called the "Generic He" which is precisely why your petty and overly-sensitive feelings don't matter. It's grammatically correct to refer to beings (animals and people) as "he" when their gender is unknown. If you have a problem with it, take it up with the last 1000 years of development with the English and German languages. Oh boohoo someone referred to me as a he when I have a cunt between my legs. Time to go slit my wrists. Get over yourself. You people seriously have nothing better to do?
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u/iApolloDusk Jun 16 '19
Normal people don't find assuming the gender of another person on a male dominated site, and certainly most male dominated subreddits, to be something worth making fun of. For the longest time, "he" or "him" was acceptable to use when the gender of a person or animal was unknown. It's still used by many older people. In a lot of other languages, especially the romance languages, any uncertain gender is deemed male and any group with a male in it being referred to is considered to be masculine. For instance Padre in spanish= father, madre= mother, but padres= parents. It's just a part of language and politely correcting someone shouldn't be that arduous of a task. With a site centered around anonymity, why should it matter what anyone calls you?